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“To-Do List” – Value Add or Valueless to your daily operations?

Did you know that your unfinished “to-do list” can give you negative vibes and create a failure programming in your belief system?

A“to-do list” is an asset to some people hence, a positive tool

It could sometimes have a negative impact. Others might find “to-do lists” motivating and organized, but on another side, when we fail to meet the more complete “to-do list,” we unconsciously program a negative thought into ourselves for non-completion of that task.

This immediately triggers the Hunter instinctive mind in us, which in the first instance through autopilot mode is conditioned to see what task is incomplete. It then proceeds to see what is complete.

Why is this the case? Our brain is hardwired to initially approach a situation from a Self – Preservation standpoint.

Therefore “to do List” might not be the right instrument to measure and track our performance in achieving our goals. This negative influence on our conditioning will build up and fill us with self-doubt, which triggers us questioning our capabilities and self-esteem.

Such repeated falls become a demotivator in us trying to achieve our long-term goals. Such repeated results will stop us from taking action. This becomes overwhelming and multiple such falls will stop us from seeing the outcomes we had planned to achieve.

We often go through this state when we just commence with our “to-do lists”.

In the heat of enthusiasm, we try to push ourselves beyond our limit but what we end up with finally is negative stroke and doubts. Learn to be consciously aware of the right way to move towards your goals to achieve or accomplish them. Work on the process in the right way by first Knowing You, then, Building You.

Each one of us is unique; hence we will need a plan customized for ourselves, which is suitable for us to use, and which is self-motivating to keep us working at it till we manifest our goals.

Uncompleted “to-do lists” can create Unconscious Stress. Matters sometimes do not work out, the way you would like them to roll out. When you are in your most vulnerable state, is when you tend to take things personally.

This can be emotionally draining, and you will end up, constantly reevaluating your self-esteem. By not taking things personally, it gives you more control over how you respond, your emotions and your energy level. While a “to-do list” helps keep us on track, ever thought of a “stop doing list”?

The tasks we reach out to every single day to understand what needs to be done for the day but do not do it because it’s been on the back burner for so long. It has collected dust.

Simply put, it is a list of tasks or things you do not do, no matter what. It is a list that tells you, what you ought to not do so that by default you focus on what you are supposed to be doing.

Examples of a“stop-doing list”can be these items and more: –

  • Stop comparing yourself to others
  • Stop buying Great Deals on Flipkart and Amazon sales (the kinds you do not need but get lured into)
  • Stop checking emails/ Facebook constantly
  • Stop watching Netflix/tv beyond 30 mins a day
  • Stop being available to everyone all the time and it can go on etc. etc.

“The do it all on your Own” syndrome can sometimes be overwhelming. It is difficult and overwhelming to do the “stop doing list” and you will find it can help.

Please do drop us a line to share your thoughts on this concept and how you are working through it.

David Nair.

 
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Posted by on September 9, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

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Live the Moment

 

Friends a lot has been written and said about this topic.

What does it really mean? Simply put, to be conscious, aware and in the present with all our senses.present-in-the-moment-quotes BIRD

Really do we actually do that every moment that we are awake? Do we actually stretch, if so how much? Are we really giving our best every second of our life…. Are we at the Cutting Edge”.

It is interesting that ship are built with compartments. Why? In the event the ship does take in water, it’s possible to seal away damage sections of the ship, thus eliminating a capsize

Similarly our past, present and future are compartments, which if removed would seize the body and mind instantaneously. We live in these compartments, then why should we not isolate the compartments and live in the NOW to the fullest. Habits has caused us to sway. Similarly we could sway back with corrective habits. So, whilst in the moment, we need to practice and give it our most and all. The best way to pay for a moment is to enjoy it to the fullest ……

Professed simply by Swami Sivananda; “putting our heart, mind and soul into even the smallest of acts is success.”

Thought I would like to share a poem by Kalidasa, India’s foremost dramatist…..

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Salutation to the Dawn.

Look to this day!
For it is life, the very life of life,
In its brief course
Lie all the varieties and realities of your existence:

The bliss of growth
The glory of action
The splendor of beauty.

For yesterday is but a dream
And tomorrow is only a vision,
But today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness
And every tomorrow a vision of hope.
Look well therefore, to this day!
Such is salutation to the dawn.

God Bless David Nair

 
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Posted by on August 21, 2014 in Thoughts

 

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“Matter is a manifestation of Thought” – BUDDHA

prepbuddha restingMost of us work very hard, toil through the day on routine operations and wonder why we are where we are? Why is life not treating me right? I am putting as much effort but do not seem to just get above it all? Why is he/she so much more luckier? What is happening to me?  Some go to the extent …. Why has God forsaken me?

PLEASE STOP… STOP… STOP…

The strength of the effort is the measure of the result. Circumstance does not make the person, instead it reveals the person.

This is not the effort of work, the energy dissipated from one run to the next run of tasks…. Though they are important, but not vital. What is it then?

The effort put in crystallizing that “Padi Field” in our mind. How have we cultivated that field? Have we nurtured it, if so how well and how regularly? Are there weeds in that field? What type of weeds? Some are deep rooted, which creates the type of person we are, the habits we have, the behavior we have, the look of the world we have… All this from that little field …. The mindthought mainfestation

What have we done to remove those weeds? What are we doing to prepare that “Padi Field”? How are we preparing that “Padi Field” The strength comes from that preparedness of the mind. What have we really doing to prepare it? What are we doing daily to feed it? What are we doing to protect it from the birds and the bees? This is especially so where in some cultures our relatives care so much for us that they live our life’s of us? Do they know how to infuse into us that required fertilizer? In a lot of these cases the answer is a resounding NO. Then just be polite to them and in your own way say “SHUT UP” “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH”

The question is what do we do then?

Just go back to your own self, through introspection, silence and some who have moved to the next level Meditation, ….. seek from within the answer.

Believe that it will come from within…

As I have always said “Prayer is our conversation with God and Meditation is God’s conversation with us.”

A chatter box mind will not resolve this ….. A quite, Calm, Cool Collected mind sitting in silence for the solution… This is the strength that comes from preparedness of the mind that will deliver what we want. When there is congruence between what is within and what we want, it polarizes and draws the required energy to pave for that manifestation of that thought. As Buddha say, “Matter is a manifestation of Thought”mind manifestation

This is what and how most if not all our Gurus have worked through in achieving their fulfillment. The same applies with us mere mortals.

I hope this food for thought has provided that digestion for Self Achievement.

 
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Posted by on October 27, 2013 in Thoughts

 

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Being sensitized helps build Rapport

Being sensitized helps build Rapport

Early this week on returning home late from a Training program, I met a couple, Priya & Subu in the foyer of my apartment.  As the lift arrived at the ground floor, I picked up both my training bags and stood aside, waiting for the couple to walk into the lift. Interestingly enough, the lady walked in and the man waited and ushered me to go into the lift. Hmmm, I thought.

Within the split second a thought flashed into, me…. There is something different about these people… what is it I need to find out……. The Man followed me into the lift and the doors closed.

The lady asked me which floor I would like to go?

I replied, “7 please”.

She pressed my floor number, followed by their floor number, which ended up being 8.

Curiosity built within me. I must know what is the difference in timages[2]his couple?

So I politely asked looking at both of them, “are you new here?”

The lady responded “No”, and immediately proceeds to say we own the apartment on the 8th floor and have been living in China for the last five years.

Aha, that explains the difference exposure, different lifestyle & interacting with different culture. I asked “how come China?”

 

The lady answered, “my husband is working in China”. Wow I said that must be fascinating. My immediate question Where in China? To which the man responded Shanghai, and I am a senior manager with a manufacturing plant……

I said, “I was in China in the 90’s and did do business in South China and Shanghai. There was an immediate click, I could see their body language, and expression and mannerism light up. By this time, the lift had arrived on my floor. They both stepped aside to make way for me to get out of the lift, with my large training bags. No sooner was I out of the lift, I saw the lady and the man come out and we continued our conversation in the foyer of the 7th.

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The lady shared many experiences of CHANGE that had transformed them as a couple since their move to China. I shall release those experiences in later segments. For now, I just wanted to address change that had transformed this lady from being a shy, quiet, “homemaker” (a term I am still to come to grips with) to this confident effervesce lady.

I asked her what triggered that change. Her response… exposure and the need to do it, as there is no one else to day it, there you are on your own. So whether you are frightened or not you have to do certain things. I thought Wow. What learning’s from this encounter? When one has the back to the wall, one will have to confront, move forward, as there is no place else to go but forward…

Hmmm if only some of us caught this click of experience from the lady. The man then added, we knew where we were, whilst we were working here in India, well cocooned in our comfort zone. I would get up at six; get ready to go to work. Priya, would prepare the breakfast and lunch for me. I leave home at 7am and repeat this melodrama over and over again. In China, I also get up at 6am, Priya also prepares my breakfast and lunch, but it’s different…

What’s the difference? I ask and he responds being outside our comfort zone, taking calculated risks. Again I thought Wow. Subu made it a point to reiterate, David it is not that one has to go abroad but just the fact we made the decision to Change… If I look at the growth that has transformed Priya into being the person she is today, she would have had to live 10 life’s in India to do so, and with me I would have had to live 100 life’s… What an interesting perspective. By this time Priya, commented to her husband, I think, David needs to go, as he has had long day training. Look at our clock and it was 45 mins talk in the foyer of the 7th floor.

Powerful learning’s from the short encounter…Moments to reflect and ponder…

  • Being Sensitize to verbal & nonverbal cues to build on rapport
  • Asking the right type of questions to enhance communication 
  • Decision Making based on facts
  • Understanding of one’s true potential and drawing that power from within each of us
  • Understanding cultural differences and adapting to it.
  • Unlearning old die hard habits and relearning new productive habits
  • And the list can keep going on & on….

 
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Posted by on February 2, 2013 in Cross Culture

 

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