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Paradigm shift in Confidence Building

In one of my Campus 2 Corporate (C2C) programs, we had the following incident happen. As part of that session, everyone had to do a 3 minute presentation in front of the class. There was one guy, who came up to the front and just froze. He stood there staring for a while, and next minute he urinated on the floor. The FEAR !!! Call it what ever you want. This did create an upheaval and embarrassment for him and for the rest in the class. The cleaning ladies were called in to mop, clean and disinfect the floor. Subsequently, we proceeded with the segment, leaving the participant out on his presentation.  At the end of the day, I spent personal 1 on 1 time with the participant – asking if he wanted to overcome that anxiety, that fear, that embarassment, that, that, that endless list of Self Image concerns and issues. I also made it emphatically clear to him, there is a lot of work, and if he is prepared to dig into it for the outcome. His response was a resounding YES!!!

I laid out a POA.  (plan of action) – which he had to practice three times daily. In addition, worked on his steps to “Confidence builder exercise”. We will be covering that in the next segment of this course. The details will be disclosed there. Now he went and practiced on it. I meet with him once a month but talk to him over phone at least once a week. After six months of this intense work by the participant, this was the outcome….

Whilst I was conducting a “Change Management Program” (CMP) for the same company, with their senior management team, this guy knew that I was on campus, he came to the training room and knocked on the training room door and said I want to share an achievement that hapened this week Although I was in the middle of a session I took a few minutes off, as the other participants, in the CMP, was working on a case study exercise, and was briefed on his success.

On hearing the success of what he had done, I felt it appropriate for him to share his story to his superiors in the room. His triumph needed to be shared and recognized such that he could anchor on that for his future step up’s…. One of the seniors in the room was his immediate manager and that managers VP was also present. He got to share his success story.

For the last four months he was practicing on his presentation skills. He was a very good domain expert but interactive, networking and presentation skills were as low as a pregnant ant…

Early in that week, he did a solo presentation to his team in Pan India and the US. They said his presentation was fantastic and well summed with the key points for delivery, so much so, that they were going to table it to the tech committee in US, without any modification such that they could forward it on to the other stakeholders. So, as a payoff, I suggested he shared his success story to the group of managers present in the room, which he did, the managers were over the moon on such an achievement, in four months. His manager too substantiated the outcome by congratulating him and said the team and he had been to lunch as a reward for the effort.

I emphasized, this was a lesson for Mangers in the room too. Always understand the need for recognition…. “My nesting story to the primary story was – “Babies cry for recognition, adults will die for it.” We need to know how to caress, our teams for them to perform at a level better than where they currently are sitting

Now fast forward this story, 9 years –  that person today, is an Assistant VP of logistics with another organization and his confidence is say the least – Overflowing.

Have a Fabulous Day. Cheers David Nair

 

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Posted by on September 11, 2018 in IXL Personal Mastery

 

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Breakthrough Fear & Reflect the Real You

 

Reflect on the past couple of months. How many times has your fear stopped you from doing the things you want to do? Innumerable times, to say the least. Do you know it doesn’t have to be that way?

Fear Face itWe at IXL Inc “Breakthrough Program” will be showing a proven method of how many of our participants who have used our basic patterns for change and found tremendous confidence to go do the things they really want to do….

There is a formula to overcoming this fear, and you can learn precisely how to develop the unshakeable self-confidence that will lead you straight to success. We will disclose that formula in one of our segments within that session.

If fear has ever stopped you from asking for a raise, starting a business, asking for a date or simply interacting with people during daily activities, you’re not alone.

No one starts off poised and confident in every situation. Fortunately, self-confidence is a learned behaviour. And we at IXL Inc will teach you how to overcome this inhibition.

Within just a few hours of beginning our Breaking through Program, your self-confidence increases and you start to experience the incredible power that comes from within you.

When you discover the “Power Within” and learn to tap it daily you:Confidence next exit

  • • Have the confidence to take whatever steps are necessary to enjoy a higher standard of living for you and your family
  • • Become more powerful and persuasive with other people
  • • Be more popular and likeable
  • • Speak up and speak out clearly in your interactions with others
  • • Be admired, respected and sought after by everyone who knows you
  • • Find that recognition, responsibility and opportunities will flow toward you, almost like magic

We at IXL Inc have created this program specifically for you, and it will show you how to become empowered, eliminate your doubts and fears and ultimately, succeed in the four Quadrants of your life.

All you have to do is fill in the poll (if you have still not done so) and register to attend the program.

People just like you are now living the lives they’ve always dreamed of because they have mastered the art of breaking that inhibiting pattern of Poor confidence.

So come join the flip side of life…..Life Transformation
Register for this LIFE TRANSFORMING SESSION….
Don’t procrastinate, begin your transformation now.

To your ultimate success,

Cheers David Nair

Founder

 

 
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Posted by on July 5, 2014 in Self Fixes

 

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Nelson Mandela – “Education the most powerful weapon”

mandela-415x479This quote from Nelson Mandela constantly rings in my mind when I am in front of participants and associates.

‘Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change, self, people around you and the world.’

The immediate response from many, when a question is asked of them or a comment made on some matter, and if they do not know or understand, their immediate response is, “I know it, I know it, and I know it”. The fear, others might know and that they do not know. The fear of what will others thinks of me? I do not what to be left behind…. Myriad of other reasons….flow out this concern.

One could ask what’s wrong if one does not know… its ok not to know is my response, there is no need to harbour that fear that people might not look up to them as much or that they might lose respect. To me that is a lot of hog wash… Unfortunately that is not the case, many get pepped up with anxiety and stomach hurt mancrunching and the look of embarrassment, with a feeling that “I wish I could hide under the carpet”. Now this would not fix the concern for that person….

In most cases this could be caused because of some prior baggage that they are carrying, their self-belief and deserve level, is at a notch or two below par. Their self-Image drop down and in some case lower than a pregnant ant.

With all this they start their reverse tornado cycle of them self, thereby causing a further drop on the traits mentioned above.

What is the solution…..? Very simple…. just accept the fact that we do not need to know everything. Knowledge only comes with the 3 E’s, exposure, experience & education.

So until that knowledge is achieved, one simply needs to say, I am sorry, can you please help me understand that concept. Or, please run that by me again. Very simple to say, but very hard to do…. I keep emphasizing ….. Practice this, practice this, practice this until it becomes second nature… Just like when we first started with the multiplication table…. But after zillion repetitions, when we were a kid, today, we vomit it out today without any worry. That is mastery. Practice makes it perfect.

Amazing how this simple turnaround is a massive fix for one’s confidence, self-esteem, belief factor and Deserve level.

Have fun love you guy’s David

 
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Posted by on October 26, 2013 in General, Uncategorized

 

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