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SUNDAY – Your Day

Sunday is commonly referred to as the day of rest. For the Jewish and Christian Communities, it is a day of rest and devotion 

Yes, a well-deserved day to rest, reorient, reflect and build up for the coming week ahead. It does not matter if the week was hectic or non-hectic week. What is essential is conditioning oneself into a regular pattern that Sunday is a day where YOU rest – This does not mean you do nothing…. If anything, you will be rolling out a few steps that will mentally equip you to be in that state of preparedness, Physically, Mentally and Spiritually for the coming week.

What is the rest we are talking about? 

Just like an athlete, there has to be a wind-down limbering time over a set period during the week that the athlete will take it easy, but not sleep. Yes, he/she might do low-impact workouts such as Yoga or Pilates or simply walk….  

Similarly, a rest on a Sunday calls for a few low-activity tasks, that one would do, rather than the usual high-drive daily routine that one usually goes through during the week. 

If Rest. What would you do? Where would you spend your time effectively? Key areas to focus on, that would enhance one’s state of being, Spending time with  

  • Self  
  • Family 
  • Friends 
  • Assessing where you, are with your track towards achieving your purpose 
  • Planning the forthcoming week  

What would be Key areas to focus on and a few action steps that could enhance and enrich one’s Life? 


Spend time reflecting on oneself. Your last week’s activities, what was your feeling about how you performed it? Give yourself a rating on a scale of 1 to 10 what and how did you feel you performed? How could you improve on those activities?

Select ONE activity that you would like further to improve. Think through that activity and come up with ideas that you feel could further enhance your performance. Following the idea, the generation goes through and generates the actions to work on to step up the performance in that area. 

Constantly evaluate if what morning rituals you are doing are effective and of value to you. 

Certain practices, ritual modalities and patterns for change that you do daily – review them as to how effective are they for you. 

What change has it brought to you, if minimal then change the practice.. work on a practice that suits you and is effective in giving you the outcome you require. Flush out ineffective practices.


Uncertain how often you sit as a family and have a meal. Would suggest looking at sitting together with the family over breakfast or a cup of coffee and having a Sunday Family Meet –(SFM).  

Sunday morn and have a family Breakfast meeting with the family. During breakfast or after breakfast each person plans for the week. Schedule your diary, and look at how each could empower the other or support with their work for the coming week. That way you will all be on the same page, and at the same time be supportive of one another. What better way to bond with the family?

You will also block your calendar for major Family events, kids’ activities spouses’ events etc hence ensuring you can attend everyone’s sessions and not miss anyone’s events.


Truly rationalise on building with empowering friends and letting go of toxic friends. 

 Assessing where you are with your track towards achieving your purpose 

Once your purpose is intact. You would use that as the benchmark to proceed forward with your work. Always using the purpose as your measuring stick. 

Planning the forthcoming week 

These are scheduled commencing with the plans set out for and with your family. You do not miss one another’s an event and We all deserve it! But what sort of rest do you need?

Rest for your SELF? Rest for your family?  

So we put together this simple guide with tips for making your day enjoyable. 

1. You are the most important person today  

-You will feel good about yourself and have more confidence in what you do 

– You will feel better about yourself and be happier 

– You will feel better about what you eat and be healthier 

– You will sleep better and be more productive at work 

– You will feel more energized and alert 

2. Learn to Enjoy  

– Family is not just blood-related. There are many people who are important to us. 

– I know that many times we feel like we are not loved by our families because they don’t do enough to help us. It is not their fault; there are other things in life that are more important to them than us. The key is to try to let go of the guilt that comes with this. 

– You don’t always have to do what they ask. Sometimes, you can ask them what they want and then go and do it for them without even asking. 

– Be happy with yourself no matter how much you do 

3. Learn to Take 

– Learn to take compliments and accept them! 

– Accepting a compliment can be hard, especially when it comes from someone you don’t like 

– But there are times when accepting a compliment is important, especially if you are trying to do something special for someone else. 

4. Nourish to Flourish 

How many of you spend quality time with your family on Sundays? 

– be kind to each other, love each other, listen to each other 

– talk about how much you love each other and how great things are 

– tell your partner what they mean to you and how much you appreciate them 

– let them know that you see them and how important they are to you 

– ask them what makes them happy and tell them so you can do the same for them 

– give them compliments 

If you want to be happy, you have to take care of yourself first. If you do not do that, it will be impossible for you to give love to others. 

 Use your Sundays wisely! 

You are the most important person Today  

Learn to Enjoy You. 

Learn to Take.  

Nourish to Flourish 

 Self-Care is not an Expense, It’s an investment. Do not be Guilty  

Love David 

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Posted by on December 11, 2022 in Uncategorized


A difference to the One Starfish! Are you the One?

There was a man who lived by the beach, whilst he is in India he lived by Thiruvanmiyur beach, whilst he is in Malaysia he lived by Port Dickson and whilst he is in Australia, he lived by the Gold Coast. The man would generally take his morning walk by the beach, before Breakfast.

One day, as usual, this man got down to the beach, to proceed with his morning walk. No sooner did he hit the beach than he was startled to see the beach was carpeted with Starfish, washed up from the previous night’s high tide. As he started his morning walk, the man stepped toed past the starfish.

Each time he did take a step forward, the man would bend down pick up a starfish look at it and hurl the starfish back into the sea. He continued doing this for some time.

Sitting on a little knoll was a small nine-year-old boy. He was perplexed at what the man was doing, from the distance, all that the boy could see was, the man bending down and stretching as he rises up. He could not see anything else. In the past, the same boy was usually sitting in the same place, but never saw the man bend and as he rose up stretched his hand. The boy was intrigued so he came down from the knoll, and ran towards the beach. As he got to the beach the little boy was dumbfounded, to see thousands of starfish carpeting the beach. He now realized what the man was doing….

The little boy cried out to the man, “stupid man why are you doing that, wasting your time, why don’t you do your morning walk and go home for your breakfast, as it is not going to make a difference to the one starfish that you are throwing back into the sea”. The man ignored the cries of the boy…. 

The man continued to take a few steps bend down pick a starfish and hurled it to the sea… He did this a number of times. After each hurl of the man, the boy would cry out “stupid man why are you doing that, wasting your time, why don’t you do your morning walk and go home for your breakfast, as it is not going to make a difference to the one starfish that you are throwing back into the sea”. 

The boy got furious now and ran in front of the man and shouted to the man as he was hurling another starfish, “stupid man why are you doing that, wasting your time, why don’t you do your morning walk and go home for your breakfast, as it is not going to make a difference to the one starfish that you are throwing back into the sea”. The man ignored the boy and proceeded with what he was doing. 

The furious, angered boy approached the man held him in his hands and shouted the same cry again, “stupid man why are you doing that, wasting your time, why don’t you do your morning walk and go home for your breakfast, as it is not going to make a difference to the one starfish that you are throwing back into the sea”. This time the man slowly palmed the boy aside and picked up a starfish, holding it in his hands and staring at the boy, retorted back saying, IT DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE TO THIS ONE STARFISH…..

Ladies and Gentleman my question to you is,

Are you that one starfish? if so, rise up, stand out of the crowd and make your mark.


Because you have it in YOU to do, whatever it takes, just need to start that engine…Go out and make that difference first to yourself, then to your near and dear friends and finally to the community at large…..


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Posted by on November 24, 2022 in Uncategorized



Most of my early school teachers would constantly harp on reading being essential… As a kid I only did what was necessary and not vital … as time passed I found what the adage “Readers are Leaders” really meant. 

As I journeyed through the self-development path, I found many gurus in this community, too, pushed the fact of reading for a minimum of 30 mins a day. This is as vital, for our sustenance. 

Jim Rohn, one of the self-development gurus, made mentioned that reading is something of substance, something of value, something that was nourishing, something that taught you distinctions, was more important than eating. “Miss a meal,” he said, “but don’t miss your reading.” 

Today, I am hooked on this habit. If I miss a day it’s like getting to bed without a shower and being wedged between two soiled sheets. It’s a very horrible feeling.

Most of my participants know how much I push this tool for their personal growth. You are welcome to visit my Good reads account, to view some books that might be of interest to you. Here is the link… 

Have a pleasant evening…

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Posted by on October 25, 2022 in Uncategorized


Ripple Effect of a Small Act … Pass It Forward…

A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees. The greatest work that kindness does to others is that it makes them kind to themselves. Amelia Earhart – Reams have been written on the empowering acts of kindness, gratitude, forgiveness, and the list goes on and on…. This true story struck me, as it relates so closely to a movie titled, “Playing it forward”. How the baton of life is passed forward on any act of goodness… 

If you have not watched the movie, I would recommend you pull together your family or some friends one Saturday afternoon and over snacks and juice, watch this empowering movie… 

The story at hand……. 

A few years ago, a lady, Hilde Back, from Europe, felt the desire to help a needy child in Africa. She did look at numerous possibilities; on how to help, in what manner and where she could best utilise her contribution … 

A young student, Chris Mburu from Kenya was selected… She thought nothing of this gesture and certainly never expected to hear from this young student. Interesting enough, years later she did hear from him. Chris had moved on from that little mud-walled primary classroom, to study at Harvard and he became a Human Rights Lawyer for United Nations. 

It plagued Chris to go find that lady, who had provided for his initial step up in Life, and after many years of searching, Chris did eventually find Hilde. 

Chris was so inspired by her generosity, that he started a scholarship program of his own and named it after his former benefactor…with the hope of ensuring that one small act of kindness would flow onto the hands of many….. 

Each of us in our own communities could kick start such small acts….. For the price of a burger, a newborn baby’s life could be saved, for the price of a reasonable meal at a restaurant, a child could be educated. These small acts cause a shift in poverty standards….. “When the poor are able to get jobs and fend for themselves,, they forge their own paths out of poverty”, thereby creating a new nation with different dimensions. 

Sending out Love, David.

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Posted by on October 13, 2022 in Uncategorized


Matter is a Manifestation of thoughts

Most of us work very hard, toil through the day on routine operations and wonder why we are where we are. Why is life not treating me right? I am putting as much effort but do not seem to just get above it all. Why is he/she so much luckier? What is happening to me? Some go to the extent …. Why has God forsaken me? 


The strength of the effort is the measure of the result. Circumstance does not make the person, instead, it reveals the person. 

This is not the effort of work, the energy dissipated from one run to the next run of tasks…. Though they are important, but not vital. What is it then?
The effort put into crystallizing that “Padi Field” in our mind. How have we cultivated that field? Have we nurtured it, if so how well and how regularly?

Are there weeds in that field? What type of weeds? Some are deep-rooted, which creates the type of person we are, the habits we have, the behaviour we have, the look of the world we have… All this from that little field …. The mind

What have we done to remove those weeds? What are we doing to prepare that “Padi Field”? How are we preparing that “Padi Field”

Does the strength come from that preparedness of the mind?

What have we really done to prepare it?

What are we doing daily to feed it?

What are we doing to protect it from the birds and the bees?

This is especially so where in some cultures our relatives care so much for us that they live our lives of us. Do they know how to infuse into us that required fertilizer? In a lot of these cases, the answer is a resounding NO. Then just be polite to them and in your own way say “SHUT UP” “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH” 

The question is what do we do then? 

Just go back to your own self, through introspection, silence and some who have moved to the next level of Meditation, ….. seek from within the answer. 

Believe that it will come from within… 

As I have always said, “Prayer is our conversation with God and Meditation is God’s conversation with us.” 

A chatterbox mind will not resolve this ….. A quiet, Calm, Cool Collected mind sitting in silence for the solution… This is the strength that comes from the preparedness of the mind that will deliver what we want. When there is congruence between what is within and what we want, it polarizes and draws the required energy to pave for that manifestation of that thought.

As Buddha says, “Matter is a manifestation of Thought” 

This is what and how most if not all our Gurus have worked through in achieving their fulfilment. The same applies to us mere mortals. 

I hope this food for thought has provided that digestion for Self Achievement. 

David Nair.

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Posted by on September 24, 2022 in Uncategorized


Miracles do happen…when we learn to tap the power within each of us

In the early hours of a foglight morning in 1981, Morris Goodman, head of a large Insurance firm, had taxied his single-engine plane onto the runway, ready for take-off. All was clear and Morris was up in the air flying. Within ten minutes into his flight time, Morris hit a fog density zone and lost clear visibility. Before he knew it his plane was entangled in power lines and crashed…. 

When the salvage crew arrived, all claimed that there would be no survivors from this crash site…. On reaching the cockpit they found Morris still with a pulse or two struggling for his life. The paramedics rushed Morris to the hospital.

On arrival and when the doctors examined him, they found his neck was broken in two places (the first and the third vertebrae), the nerves to his diaphragm had been severed, and his diaphragm was crushed, so badly that he lost the ability to swallow, to speak, and to breathe without a respirator. His nervous system was so badly damaged in places that it caused dysfunction of his kidney and liver, and he was paralyzed from the neck down. His doctors gave him a meek possibility of survival.

Even if he did survive, he would never gain control of his body and its function and would remain a vegetable in a wheelchair for the rest of his life. That was the turnaround of Morris’s condition within hours of him leaving his home that morning. 

In fact, a few of the doctors gave up hope on him and announced this to his waiting family at the hospital theatre lounge. 

Morris’s closest connection as a child and as he grew up, was his sister. She understood and knew the will and tenacity of Morris’s mind. Despite what the doctors said, his sister vowed that she was going to work with Morris on his survival… Sitting by the motionless vegetable bedside of Morris Goodman, his sister was waiting…… And waiting…… She kept asking if he heard her give a sign….

And after hours of patient waiting, Morris winked his eyes… That was the start for them to put their minds together in re-building Morris… His sister went through the process of creating charts for them to communicate, she asked the question and he winked a number of times to indicate the answer yes, no, or maybe.

Morris had, in his business created a habit of working with goals… though he was motionless, his mind was ticking, and he mapped out in his mind the blueprint for him successful walking out of the hospital before Christmas….

That was a mere eight months away. He and his sister and family work through the month’s relentless chipping at it and in a lot of instances Morris would give up hope, but at that moment flies hope from fellow patients, who had observed how hard Morris pushed himself to get up from a fall the 100th time etc. and that was his anchor for his next betterment.

In all this Morris had to initially create that shield around him to avoid SNIOP (Susceptible to the Negative Influence of Other People). They went to the extent of having a plaque titled SNIOP, created and place by his bedside. 

Morris would many times rebuff them by saying, I do not care what medical science expected, and it is when I lose my expectation that I am gone…. He lived by this motto, in the board rooms of his insurance business and he lived his life with them…. 

Through the use of creative visualization, intense Physiotherapy, verbalization and dogged determination, Morris baffled his doctors and started on the road to recovery. Slowly he had to relearn how to breathe, eat, and swallow and these reflexes were built. His next was to work and control his limb movements.

Within the set time, Morris recovered to walk out of the hospital before Christmas. 

Morris worked with hope, and with the help of universal law defied all impossibilities from the surroundings to achieve his outcome…. WALK OUT OF HOSPITAL BEFORE CHRISTMAS. 

This is the same Morris, who was interviewed in “The Secret” 

Friends, this is a preamble to my future articles on Belief…. And its journey within each of us.
God Bless

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Posted by on September 17, 2022 in Uncategorized


Food For Thought

Friends, there is no habit which will bring so much value to our life as that of always carrying an optimistic, hopeful attitude of really expecting that things are going to turn out well with us and not ill, that we are going to succeed and not fail, are going to be happy and not miserable. 

Unfortunately, many people no sooner do they have the above thought, neutralize a large part of their efforts because their mental attitude does not correspond with their endeavour, so that although working, for one thing, they are really expecting something else, and what we expect we tend to get.

There is no way a man can arrive at the success goal when facing the opposite direction. Every step he takes is towards that road to failure. He talks like a failure and acts like a failure.

Always remember Prosperity begins in the mind and is impossible while the mental attitude is hostile to it. 

No one can become prosperous while he really expects or half expects to be always poor, for holding the poor thoughts keeps him in touch with poverty-producing conditions. 

David Nair

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Posted by on August 30, 2022 in Uncategorized


Expressing Your Hurt

Reflecting thoughts from recent issues that have come to the fore when working with people in different corporate positions…… Superior subordinate relationship, peer relationship, life relationship.

For all of this, some basics, in approach, might help ease the pain. It is imperative to always remember, in such situations never, never, never should we argue, defend or justify one’s case. Instead, we should try our best to have a rapport-built platform, for discussion. Here are my thoughts for “THE FEW”, who have asked how to resolve such pain……. for the others, enjoy this slant on my perceptive to HURT…

The surest way to become unhappy is to keep your hurt inside.

If there is a secret to mental health, this is it: tell the people who hurt you that they hurt you when they hurt you.

Hurt is the pain of the moment. Hurt is happening right now. Its cause is right in front of you. Hurt speaks for itself motivating you to limit your pain.

Anxiety is a pain in the future. It may happen and then again, it may not. Anxiety inspires you to get out of the way of danger.

Withheld hurt turns into anger.

Anger helps you express your hurt by energizing you to protect yourself.

When you hold in hurt, you redirect your anger at yourself. Such inward anger is called guilt. It serves no positive purpose. It only makes you think of getting even, fills your head with bad thoughts, and erodes your self-confidence as you begin to doubt your goodness.

Obviously, the only anger that makes sense is still attached to the hurt that caused it.

You need to learn to express your hurt as it happens.

Telling someone how he or she hurt you can be risky because the person who hurt you is probably someone you care about.

What if the other person calls you “oversensitive” or tells you that your hurt is unimportant and doesn’t take your feelings seriously?

If the other person doesn’t care about your feelings, he or she doesn’t care about you. The sooner you know this the better. Why waste more time?

What if the other person says he or she hurts you out of anger because of being hurt by you? It’s a good time to discover the truth, clear the air and become friends again.

What if the other person can’t remember hurting you or simply denies that the hurtful event ever took place?

He or she may be telling the truth because most people do not hurt others intentionally. When you are silent it is sometimes hard for others to recognize that you have been hurt.

Expressing your hurt sometimes puts your love or friendship on the line. It always tests your love for yourself.

It is always the right thing to do in any relationship that you value.

Express your hurt as simply and as directly as possible when you first notice it.

Tell the other person how you were hurt. You can mention that you are angry but don’t display the anger or attack. That will only hurt the other person, who won’t be able to listen, making matters worse.

Whatever you do, don’t allow you’re hurt to age.

If you cannot express your hurt to another person, you cannot express your love, for anger blocks positive feelings.

If you value your love you need to express your hurt.

Holding in hurt is the way that love dies.

Meditative Statement:

“I show my hurt when I am hurt so I can feel love the rest of the time.”

Have an expressive happy journey……..

David Nair

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Posted by on August 16, 2022 in Uncategorized



Our thoughts build our personality, character and lives. Our thoughts determine what we are and what we will be in future. Many find this hard to grasp, as we live in an era where substantiation is required before it is accepted.

I shall endeavour to weave through this article and future articles on this subject with the hope, in the end, to provide a tapestry that would be enlightening, thought-provoking and substantiate the belief, that “our thoughts are our building blocks to our life”. We need to be continuously working and building the base.

Many religions, philosophies, great thinkers, and high achievers affirm that we are actually the materialization of thought….  

The Bible quotes, ‘As a Man thinketh so is he’ 

Buddha reflects, ‘All matter is the manifestation of Thought’ 

Thoughts built upon thoughts, built upon thoughts, create the lives we live or, as put succinctly by George Sala, “Thoughts engender thoughts” ……. The more you think, the better you will express yourself.” 

Emerson’s perspective is thoughts rule the world. He goes on to say there is no thought in any mind. Interesting? He goes on to say as soon as a thought originates in the mind, it is converted immediately into power. Science today has proven that thought is a wave, an electromagnetic wave transmission. So thought is converted into power. What power?


It is commonly referred to that man of action are, after all, only the unconscious instrument of the men of thought. 

Thoughts in addition to forming the building blocks of life are the root source of personal power and it is through thought, that we attain personal success. 

One of Dr Norman Vincent Pearl’s mantras is ‘Think Success, Visualize Success, and you will set in motion the power force of the realizable wish.’ When this mental picture is strongly held it actually controls conditions, circumstances and creates the environment to germinate that thought into reality.  

Just like an apple seed planted in the ground…. Unless the soil is tilled, roots & all debris removed, the soil watered, fertilized, cared and nurtured, only then will the seed germinate, and grow into a tree that will fruit thousands of apples in its lifetime. The same applies to thought, with a difference, it has a greater rate of return on investment, than what was derived from the apple seed.  

How many of us nature and create that ambience for that thought to flourish……This I shall be covering in future articles. 

To quote from one of the Mystic Yogis…… 

Music means various types of sounds: 

When they’re in Tune it becomes Music: 

Out of tune, it becomes noise. 

The same with YOU 

If all the different ingredients of who you are are in tune, 

You are like music; out of tune you become noise’

Our mind reverberates in the same form, Music or Noise….. We need to master the art of the control of our mind and direct it with that SINGLENESS OF PURPOSE…… 

As we journey through, our thoughts determine what we are and what we will be, our thoughts are our source of personal power, and our thoughts are the principal means of our successful achievements. It is these thoughts that can bestow upon us the gifts of happiness and pleasures.  

Thousands of years of wisdom, experience and observation have proven, beyond any doubt, that you will become what you think….  

So what should we think?  

If we let our mind drift, it will idly contemplate, like a river meandering through a flat plane as it approaches the sea. It begins to form distributaries…. The mind too will form distributaries…. of thoughts/ideas, and none will surpass or materialize in any form….  


Whatever happens, to attract its attention it will set in motion a chain of thoughts one leading to another and endlessly drifting….As opposed to having a DOMINANT THOUGHT in our mind… this dictates to the mind and triggers a set of processes to move in that set direction… as we create certain habit patterns this will be further reinforced and by repetition of this same process, these thoughts are embedded and well set for the inevitable achievement….

David Nair 

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Posted by on August 4, 2022 in Uncategorized



Did you know that we are constantly in communiqué with ourselves all day?

No, not the mental chatter about activities and chores we must remember throughout the day. That’s a form of self-talk too — but I’m referring to the things we say to ourselves regularly; and more importantly, the tone we tell them.

When we make a mistake, do we berate ourselves angrily? Do we put ourselves down or call ourselves self-derogatory names? 

When we have a hard time making positive changes in our life, do we bemoan what a “worthless” person we are and conclude that we can’t do anything right? 

Negative self-talk can be incredibly damaging to our self-esteem, especially if it’s a big part of our daily life. When we keep saying things like that to ourselves, eventually we begin to BELIEVE them! 

The highest self-esteem and self-confidence are two of the “keys” to unlocking the door to our desires. 

Most often these negative messages begin as statements uttered by the adults in our life when we were a child… They may have said something negative about us when our actions displeased them, or perhaps they had a habit of saying unkind things even when we didn’t deserve it. 

As painful as these experiences can be, even worse is when we pick up where they left off and keep repeating the same negative messages to ourselves over and over! 

The good news is that you can change your “self-talk” any time you want. The first step is to become AWARE of the ‘tone’ of your messages and consciously ‘replace’ them with more encouraging ones. 

Try these simple steps for starters: 

* Develop AWARENESS of your self-talk. It may take practice, but if we start “listening” to our inner voice, we’ll begin to notice when we talk negatively to ourselves. 

* CHALLENGE the negative messages. When we notice ourselves, saying something negative such as, “We’re such a screw-up, we can’t do anything right” – Stop our self and challenge that belief. Is that really true? Maybe we mess up sometimes, but do we ALWAYS mess up? Probably not 

* REPLACE these negative messages with positive messages. When we realize we’re saying unkind and untrue things to ourselves, simply TURN IT AROUND in our minds. 

Using the above example, we might say, “Wow, that’s not true at all! I do plenty of things right. It’s true I make mistakes, but so does everyone. I’m a good person and I try my best. That’s good enough for me.” 

Over time, these efforts will pay off in the form of stronger self-esteem and RESPECT for Ourselves and our Capabilities. It probably won’t happen overnight, but the more we work at turning our self-talk in a more positive direction, the better we’ll feel about ourselves. 

Make this our mission to ensure we are at that cutting edge to be in control of OUR SELF TALK. 

David Nair

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Posted by on July 26, 2022 in Uncategorized

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