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Hurt, Pain, Sa𝗰𝗿𝗶𝗳𝗶𝗰𝗲 & 𝗚𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗱𝗲- Moments to Ponder, during Easter

Weaving through the tapestry of Life during Holy Weekend the lead up to it are great annual moments to ponder over and introspect. Amazing revelations unfold and if the umbilical link is there with your Coaches & Mentors for a discourse, then it is even more impactful.  

Little did I realize at the age 14,leaving the comforts of a home in Malaysia and thrown into the wilderness to scramble and climb the rungs of the ladder of Life, there is a “Sine Curve journey’ of peaks and troughs waiting. 

In each of those times of being thrown into the swimming pool, (as my 7th coach Gerry would say) there will always be a tsunami breakthrough – a light bulb moment when you climb out of the pool.
Yes, for me, there have been great moments of achievements, joy, happiness and just as many moments of sadness and pain – the journey.

Little did I realize at 14, I would have had the privilege and opportunity to have worked with hundreds of thousands of people over 3 decades… and seen some of their success and failure journey. 

Out of that, you see a trend of those that have scaled the heights of “their”Success and others are still struggling. These two groups of people have identical traits but different in their approach leading to miles apart outcomes. 

This raises a myriad of questions…

Why do good things happen to good people? 

Why do bad things happen to good people?

Why do bad things happen to bad people? 

Why does the world have so much pain?

The endless list of why’s 

The most painful, is to watch people with huge potential, being swayed by the wind – in search for a short cut to their success. Their impatience gets the better of them and unfortunately some take the unscrupulous route with their impetuous hope of making it big in a short time span without putting in the required effort.

Success is inevitably only with the right ingredients. There is no shortcut to a shortcut success.  Even more painful, is to watch the many that bite on the hand that provides them their milk as feed, for the day. The person with the bitten hand would ask why? The answer is simple. Leave them with enough rope to hang, as the universe laws will always balance the ledger weather it is this generation, the next or thereafter.

Unfortunately for some, years could flow by, before they realize they had taken the wrong turn on their road to success and are still a wondering minstrel in search of success – happiness? Probably the solution could have been for them to have gone in search for help from others or a coach.    

Grateful, that I was in a good position to have had the support and guidance of a coach from an early stage. Totally grateful to all 14 Coachers that helped me get to where I am today. I would not know which road I would have taken if it was not for them. Thank You from the bottom of my heart to those Coachers. 

For me, it has never been a question of faith, instead one of choice, and how best to execute it. “Destiny is a matter of Choice, not Chance”.  

There are some things that I had just known just naturally, it comes from within – Internalized. These were automatically triggered as I journey through my day, with my faith. A life of its own, with absolute certainty, and clarity for the outcome that I had mapped out.

Religion to me is manmade, but I strongly adhere to its values, baseline, codes its teachings. Whether you are a Christian, a Muslim, a Hindu, a Buddhist, a Jain, or whatever religiously following, they all have similar values, as reflected in the Koran, Gita, Tripitaka, and the Bible. I was brought up as a Christian, hence follow its values – My faith is Crystal clear with identical values that are reflected across in other religions. 

Each one of us have the choice and nobody has the right to judge someone else’s belief.

Just like some celebrate Ramazan, Judaism, Passover and many other religious beliefs, Christians celebrate Easter – the Resurrection on last Sunday, we celebrate in worship, in party and in family, the overcoming of “death”.

Imagine that, not fearing death and instead choosing eternity. What a breakthrough? 

This is different for everyone, and as I stood amongst hundreds celebrating victory, I remembered the words of the rapper Maclemore:

“Whatever God you believe in.

We all come from the same one.”

Hmmm, is it not startling to see what Man-made silos have created – the religion that many out their practice, imbibe the following Values: –

#Do unto others what you would like others do unto you

#Your word is sacrosanct 

# There is an endless list of flow on values 

These religious fundamentals have evolved over time, 40 + billion years. Not developed over night. 

If you are a believer of the Abbah, Allah, God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, Jehovah, Universe or any other, to abide by the base value is what distinguishes you from the rest of Animal Kingdom – you have beliefs, you have values and you believe in God, 

Always remember when you break past that VALUE, tearing it apart by not sticking to your words, the whole fabric of what you build crumbles. You do not have to go far, just turn the pages of history and reflect. It’s unfortunate that scar of illicit behavior will not ever disappear. It is like a nail being hammered into a fence post …. even if you pull that nail off the post, that hole will be their Ad Infinitum. 

Whatever hurt, damage you had done to another it will be there, can’t be erased?

Many having experienced,greater trails & tribulations, this Easter more than any other, the suffering & pain of millions from various parts of the globe. A world that has gone crazy, we need as much, ️ as we can give, we receive, not excusing the wrong doer instead bring them to the fore otherwise that toxicity will spread like wildfire. 

I wish you celebrations of joy and love, knowing that we have been created to be powerful beyond belief and assured that there is something greater for us all, leaving behind a legacy of goodness that others will benefit, without scrambling over them but in love. 

I pray you find a way to tap into your potential and Master it in every way. 

A Blessed Easter to you and your family ️

God Bless 

David Nair

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Posted by on April 12, 2021 in Uncategorized


Self Motivation

We can wallow in self pity and suck our thumb, crying ‘poor little me‘ and live with that syndrome or work on getting that mental resilience to combat, and live the life possible… on you Shalini …. 👍WhatsApp Image 2018-02-13 at 9.18.13 PM

Extract of msg from Shalini….
* Courage.*

When I arrived to have my legs amputated, I was wearing bright purple nail polish on my feet. Might as well go out in style, I figured. A month had passed since my right arm decided to auto-amputate, just dropping off into my brother-in-law’s hands. A few months before that, my left arm had been amputated as well. Now it was time to move on.

I had been a successful 32-year-old, doing well at work, happily married and newly pregnant. I was just back from a vacation in Cambodia and reveling in ticking one off the bucket list when I fell sick with a fever. It all began rather innocently. And then it escalated, and how. Fever became organ failure. Organ failure became a brush with death. Months later, I had lost both my arms and legs to a bacterial infection that the doctor had heard of only in his exam.

I raged. I was angry and hurt and upset. Why did this happen to me? What had I done wrong? I thought it was karma, but I couldn’t think of anything I had done this wrong. But finally, I decided it was time to move on.

And so I ran. In the beginning, it was just to lose weight and get fit, but the challenge was addictive. When I run, I feel like I win over my body. I can look back at Destiny and swear at how wrong it was about me. It didn’t win. I still get to call the shots. My life, my decisions, my dreams; limbs or no limbs.

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Posted by on February 22, 2018 in Uncategorized


Two finger value…

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Two finger value

What A wonderful metaphor …..

What and Who we choose to surround ourself truly determines our value….

The best guidance our mums used to give us, pull us away firm certain friends and encourage us to hang out with certain friends… we never questioned why? Indirectly we were selecting / screening our friends back then…. do we do that now that we are adults ???
A point worthy to ponder over.

A wise mentor Jim Rohn once said, show me your friends and I can within a $100 tell you what your bank account balance is….

be mindful of your association Power and select them wisely..

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Posted by on February 19, 2018 in Uncategorized


Importance of Motivation in Life

Capture1The true power within a person is drawn out by external interventions guided by a coach or mentor.. it’s only in the recent years that this support structure has come to the fore particularly so in the sporting fraternity…

Interesting to also note for shifts to happen, one needs to have their back to the wall – in a do or die situation… as had happened here the partial transformation was guided by F’s coach…. the real immersion took place, when F on realising the required shift in Behaviour had to happen, for him to step up further, he took responsibility and moved forward… (note in a lot of cases it’s not the technique of the serve, the return serve, or the smash, that matters instead it’s BEHAVIOUR) …….

In today’s constant changing world, the power of Coaching / Mentoring is priceless…. the sporting fraternity has got this under their belt. The Corporate fraternity is still testing the water to see if it is cold, luke warm or hot….

In the last few years we have been involved with multiple companies from Banking, IT, Telecommunication,  Pharma and Manufacturing and have found those that have taken the development of their primary asset (People) seriously are light years ahead of others…

‘Build People to Build Organisations’

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Posted by on February 14, 2018 in Uncategorized


Power of the Unconscious Mind

I had a mentor who kept drilling into me, to make the unconscious mind our “best ally.” Initially I scoffed at the idea and thought that mentor had lost it, and with age, was out of this planet. Little did I realize how naive I was, to the power of the unconscious….


Over time and repeated guidance… its full power had unfolded…. So much so that I have experienced in many cases, by communicating to the unconscious and when there is total congruency between our states within yourself and the universe, the law manifests itself into being….. Wow to some… yes Wow.

Carl Jung, put it so succinctly , until you make your unconscious, conscious, the conscious will always direct your Life and you will call it FATE…..

I love to share a very simple experience on the above. This happened at 11 am this morning….
As many who have been interacting with me would know that the last 6 weeks since my arrival back into India was packed back to back with sessions, in particular the weekends ….. This coming weekend was the only weekend that I had unbooked.

Unbeknown I got a call from a past senior manager who I had coached some three years ago. Before he commenced the conversation he mentioned it was a con call with a CFO from an IT company in Mumbai. He introduced and following the pleasantries, the CFO indicated his need for specific interventions with his senior executive team….

He proceeded to say they had a fabulous year in revenue and as reward to the team the company is taking the group to Pataya, Thailand. They felt, it would have be of extreme value, if they could spice it with, some self- developmental work.

We proceed to discuss the developmental work, and within 30 minutes of my outlining a brief for intervention, he concurred and accepted that idea for the development of his senior core executives.

Hmmm, so the weekend is now booked… in Pataya Thailand… some work, some sighting seeing some water sport (as Pataya is renowned for it) and back into India, mainstream work on Monday….

To the many they might refer to this as LUCK, but to a few, they know and call it, “Labor under correct knowledge”, or put it bluntly “you make your luck”.

Numerous lessons learnt. Keep ploughing… digging and the harvest will come to fruit elsewhere. Never get bogged down with “the crabs” who like to pull others down to their levels. Never get disheartened, when, an associate from Singapore who rightly pointed out in our discussion yesterday, he had trained his staff and many competitors have head hunted them, or that some of those past staff had taken his clients away from him. As I pointed to this associate, that is normal business, but never to anchor and burden oneself with that baggage, just move on and let the Law of the universe work with you not against you…. That in itself had come home to roost in my case today.

It is interesting, I can now tick another from the list of things that I wanted to be able to have done…. Fly in and Fly out into countries on weekends for programs…. One that was on that list for over 4 years.
Friends, the power in believing in oneself, and setting the sail right for whatever you want, keeping one’s head down, bum up and just beaver at the task on hand…..

Have fun doing it.

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Posted by on June 11, 2017 in Uncategorized


Visionarians are Priceless, Administrators are Cheap to Keep.

“Visionarians are Priceless, Administrators are Cheap to Keep” …..
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Dr Abdul Kalam, a visionarian, left a legacy of can do mindset, in achieving Dreams, whilst keeping our two feet to the ground. It is up to each of us to carry that flame, and not just strive towards being that super power, instead, be that Role Model of a nation, that other countries could look towards and aspire to be……

Thank You Dr Abdul Kalam for being that person that lit the torch and carried it, whilst we were in darkness. Though your inspiration, Indians as we are, will continue in that journey keeping that torch aflame for our Nation.

Dr Abdul Kalam, please do keep a mindful watch over us, and through universal signs, guide us through to that destination…..
Abdul Kalam1a

God Bless

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Posted by on July 29, 2015 in Uncategorized


Break that cult of Mediocrity ….

Friends a Forty Eight hour weekend transformation session designed to create the shift in YOU: as a person, transforming your mindset, you’re thinking, your level of Confidence, your fears, and your energy your relationship, and the way you live…

TransformationA complete transformation to be that CUTTING EDGE PERSON.

You walk in on Saturday, walk out on Sunday…. Experience the glow within, the ideals you learn, the systems you learn, the tools you learn, the way you feel, the emotions you express….will be a few of the takeaways you will walk away with, in being that magnificent person…..

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Chennai: 20th and 21st of September at Hotel Vestin Park, Egmore, Chennai.
Trichy: 13th and 14th of September at Hotel Royal Sathyam, 42A, Singarathope, Trichy.

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Stay Great, Stay Charged & Present your M F Hussain to the world……
David Nair

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Posted by on September 3, 2014 in Uncategorized


Knowledge is Power, Application makes it Wealth!

The Professor & The Boat man

There was once a professor who wanted to go down the river, so he approached a local boatman who agreed to row him downstream for a small sum of money.

As they made their way downstream, the professor decided to show off his intelligence and high education so he decided to test the boatman.

Taking up a stone he picked from the river bank, the professor asked the boatman, “Have you ever studied geology?” The boatman looked at him and said Eh! No.. hardly even understanding what the word meant.

The professor then loftily said, “I am afraid, 25% of your life is gone.” The boatman felt really bad about his ignorance but continued to row on.

As they move further downstream, the river currents begin to get stronger and stronger and stronger. The professor picks a leaf up and asks condescendingly, “Boatman, have you studied botany”. Confused, the boatman again said no.

The professor again shakes his head and says, “I am afraid 50% of your life is gone.” He then signals him to carry on rowing. As they move downstream, the currents get even stronger, and stronger, and the boat is beginning to sway violently.

Suddenly the professor sees a mountain range, points at it and asks the boatman, “Have you studied geography?” Feeling very inferior and humiliated, the boatman again says no. The professor snaps back and says “I thought so, then 75% of your life is gone.”

At this point the river became a raging torrent. The water is moving so strongly that the boatman loses control of the boat and it smashes against the rocks and springs a leak and begins to sink.

This time the boatman turns to the professor and asks, “Professor, do you know how to swim?” to which the professor answers No. “Then I am afraid 100% of your life is gone.” And he leaps off the boat and powers his way to the shore.

The River of Life

Just like the river, we are living in times of rapid, unpredictable and evolutionary change. It is not money, position or reputation that matters, but a wholesome education of life that does.

Change or be left behind

What used to take a decade to change merely takes a few months to change today. Example, it took 50 years for cassettes to replace records. It took less than 10 years for compact disc to replace cassettes.


Mega billions made and lost overnight, due to obsolescence. Some companies could have become world leaders, but were completely washed out. Similarly, professionals with years of experience became economically unviable within a short period.

The world must change or be changed!

There are 100 times more millionaires and many more billionaires than a decade ago.

For some to cope in such an environment, it could be mind-blowing and stressful, to others it’s a piece of cake, and they accomplishments come with a deep feeling of fulfillment.

Knowledge is Power, Application makes it Wealth

Education is important but not enough to make it in turbulent economic times like now. Some of the big names (Bill Gates, Larry Ellison – Oracle, Richard Branson – Virgin Group) with very little education got into the river of life and made wealth. How?

Understand people, build that Rapport, and thereby create that chemistry for success.

To constantly take charge of your life, and be in control of your emotional state and bring out the best in your personal potential.

KAIZEN: The flexibility to learn, unlearn and relearn. It is the ability to model excellence in a short period of time. It is the ability to respond to empowering ways to the events swirling around you.

Circumstance control you or you control circumstance.

Those that lack the swimming skills will continue to be controlled by their external environment and ruled by fear of change and unpredictability. They will be frustrated powerless victims of the environment. Those that can swim will experience wealth, success and fulfillment beyond their wildest dreams.

We at IXL Inc, have created this program specifically for you, and it will show you how to cope with such changing environmental conditions. The program will also address specific ways in finding that required balance to live a satisfying life for yourself.

All you have to do is fill in the form (if you have still not done so) and register to attend the program.


Learn more about it at our event Website: ixlincorporated

People just like you are now living the lives they’ve always dreamed of because they have mastered the art of shifting their mindset to cope with such continuous change and be equipped themselves to be proactive in situations rather than reactive to it…

So come join the flip side of life.

Register for this LIFE TRANSFORMING SESSION. Don’t procrastinate, begin your transformation now.

To your ultimate success,

David Nair


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Posted by on July 25, 2014 in Uncategorized


The Baby Giraffes Kick – What a Learning!!!

BABY giraffes never go to school. But they do learn a very important lesson rather early in life. The birth of a baby giraffe is quite an earth-shaking event.

The baby falls from its mother’s womb, some eight feet above the ground. It shrivels up and lies still, too weak to move. The mother giraffe lovingly lowers her neck to smooch the baby giraffe. And then something incredible happens. She lifts her long leg and kicks the baby giraffe, sending it flying up in the air and tumbling down on the ground.


As the baby lies curled up, the mother kicks the baby again and again until the baby giraffe, still trembling and tired, pushes its limbs and for the first time learns to stand on its feet. Happy to see the baby standing on its own feet, the mother giraffe comes over and gives it yet another kick. The baby giraffe falls one more time, but now quickly recovers and stands up.


Mama Giraffe is delighted. She knows that her baby has learnt an important lesson:
Never mind how hard you fall, always remember to pick yourself up and get back on your feet.

Why does the mother giraffe do this? She knows that lions and leopards love giraffe meat. So unless the baby giraffe quickly learns to stand and run with the pack – it will have no chance of survival.


Most of us though are not quite as lucky as baby giraffes. No one teaches us to really stand up every time we fall. In most cases when we fail, when we are down, we just give up. No one kicks us out of our comfort zone to remind us that to survive and succeed, we need to learn to get back on our feet.

If you study the lives of successful people though, you will see a recurring pattern.

Were they always successful in all they did? No…

Did success come to them quick and easy? No…


You will find that the common streak running through their lives is their ability to stand up every time they fall. The ability of the baby giraffe!

The road to success is never an easy one. There are several obstacles,and you are bound to fall sooner or later. You will hit a road block, you will taste failure. But success lies in being able to get up every time you fall. That is a critical life skill. And it is the habit of all successful people.

The above to many might just be a Baby Giraffe story, but through this metaphor, the patterns for habit change are numerous. We at THE Breakthrough Development Program will walk you through these patterns to ingrain them in you and to empower and cement for your success journey. Come join us at the city closest to you and allow us to bring life transforming changes. 

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To your ultimate success,

David Nair




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Posted by on July 14, 2014 in Uncategorized


Map your Desire correctly for Manifestation

A flow on from yesterday’s blog: Now that we have commenced a relationship with DESIRE, and know how to handle and dislodge the DOUBT element, we can progress on to mapping the desire.

Desire Mapping is a holistic Life Planning Tool. Vision board 2

Many have worked on resolutions year after year and wonder why within weeks of setting their resolution the Tsunami has uprooted that resolution. In most cases resolutions do not work, they are what I referred to in my previous article, residing on the Material or Realistic side. They do not have what it takes for progressing through to the end. They are fear driven, and come from the place of motivation (hot bath) rather than from Universe. Those resolutions would have lots of measurable, with tasks set to do, but with little or no FEEL VITALS.

On the other hand, goal setting with the soul, with desire, with the feel factor is wholesome and well- grounded for achievement.

So, in this context, what is this DESIRE? It basically is everything that surrounds the journey to that fulfilled achievement. It is the material and non-material elements that contribute towards the achievement of the goal. Any idea of desire will be manifested, provided it is natured well.

So in ensuring desire is manifested well, the environment should be set right…. What’s that? The way you feel, what you draw towards you, the choices you make, the meaning to life you create, the service to life and in so doing you become a DELIBERATE CREATOR.

optimism 3Guy’s it is like, we want to bring so much of value to our life, as always carrying the optimistic, hopeful attitude of really expecting  things are going to manifest and we are going to succeed in it, and be happy not miserable. Unfortunately no sooner do we set that thought in concrete, we straight away neutralize a large part of our efforts because in most cases, our mental attitude does not correspond with what we are thinking and want.

We are really working towards a goal, but our thoughts and actions are really expecting something else. We fall in our lack of commitment, focus, dedication, and association power, all of this obstacle and on account of that we shrink our dreams and aspiration, we downsize it to the current condition and the environment we are in.

We get what we expect, that is adjusted for these obstacles.  How could we expect wheat, when we plant corn, or expect mangos when we plant sago? Think, so for true manifestation to take place our mental attitude cannot be hostile to that expectation, not even one degree variation. That is what FOCUS / DEDICATION / (the endless list of intangibles), you will need play with, like kneading dough for that pastry. Feel it, Touch it, Smell it, Taste it and smell it, Just manifest itthat what gives it your all, until the goal is achieved.

We cannot hold on to poverty thought attitude and expect prosperity thinking expectation.  We need to shed that poverty thinking attitude, processes, associations, and water, fertilize, water, fertilize, water, and fertilize that field as we journey through the expectation. In so doing, the expectation unfolds and is manifested…. Cheers David

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Posted by on January 27, 2014 in Uncategorized

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