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The Cancerous “Doubt” – Its removal!

expectancy Whatever the unconscious is taught to expect it will go and source for it, working in line with the universe. Therefore our heart longings, our soul aspirations are more than mere vaporing of imagination and idle dreams. They are indicators of what can be achieved. They are our KPI’s the height of our aim or our efficiency.

From the time the idea flickers in our mind, of wanting something, yearning for it with all our heart, we commence a relationship with that DESIRE. Like any relationship for it to grow and blossom in beauty, we need to nurture it, feed it, nourish it, care of it and love it, only then will it become a wholesome developed MANIFESTATION OF THAT DESIRE.  This is commonly referred to the IDEAL SIDE of life –living …….   MANIFESTATION SIDE

Unfortunately for most of us we live too much in the material side, the realistic side – not enough in the ideal side. The secret of all secrets is to live mentally in this ideal side, which we wish to make real. (Commonly referred as the Dream world)

As an example, to keep constantly in our mind the ideal man or woman we would like to become. We need to hold that image of that “ideal” person in whole and when any disease to affect that image or the slightest suggestion (in word or thought) to belittle our self, arises, we will need to immediately strangle that disease that inferiority thought. We should never allow our self to dwell upon our weakness, deficiencies or failures.

For this seed to germinate, we need to work, work, and work at it constantly through life, until it becomes second nature, until it becomes A HABIT, until it happens – like an AUTO PILOT. When the thought of pulling one-self down, starts in our mind, we should immediately forcefully create the SWITCH to prevent that belittlement, stop that cancerous pull down.

When we achieve this state, there is tremendous power created in this HABIT OF EXPECTANCY, I can fd9ca892-5266-11e3-806b-22000a893e09-mediumof believing we can realize our ambition, that our dream, whatever it is can come true.

There is no uplifting habit than that of bearing a hopeful attitude, of believing that things are going to turn out well and not ill. We need to constantly carry this optimistic, expectant attitude – the attitude which always looks for and expects the best, the highest, the happiest and never allow one to be pessimistic, discouraging mood.

We need to believe with all our heart that we will do what we were made to do. At no point should we allow that cancer of DOUBT to enter our thinking. When it does, and it will keep coming back many times, the pattern of habit that we built above should auto pilot its way into drive that cancer out?

We should only entertain friendly thoughts that will help nurture that desire. It does not matter what we are trying to do, achieve, from the time that idea is created, we need to always assume an expectant, hopeful, optimistic attitude. When the mind has formed the habit of holding cheerful, happy, prosperous pictures, it will not be easy to form the opposite habit.

The very habit of expecting that the future is full of good things for us, that we are going to be prosperous and happy, that we are going to have a fine family, a beautiful home, amass enough material and non- material wealth and we are going to stand for something. This is one of the faithbest forms of capital to start and live a fulfilled life.

What is persistently, passionately and with feeling  expressed through visualisation & affirmation is achieved, even though it may seem unlikely, or impossible to achieve, provided  we live and express in the IDEAL, the things we want to come true in our lives, whether it is good health, noble character, or a superb career……..

Enjoy this practice and share your outcomes.

Cheers David Nair

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Posted by on January 26, 2014 in Planning & Goal Setting, Thoughts


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How Will You Turn Your Dreams Into Reality?

The sixties saw the birth of many great social game changers … Martin Luther King, President JFK, Nelson Mandela, Castro just to name a few. Many might not be aware of what some of these “great men” did to create change and catapult the world to the stature it is today. One of the top reformers is Martin Luther King, in his speech, “I have a Dream” crystalizes and framed the blue print for the racial discrimination laws of US and the rest of the world. The right of the minority, leading up to the Minority Laws set in the US during the 60’s. Here Kings touches on realisation of Dreams. Check it out. Cheers David

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Today is the day that we celebrate the man who changed history forever. Martin Luther King, Jr. saw injustice in the world and decided that he would not stay silent. He stood up for his people, his country, and for his God. He gave up his comfortability and convenience for the challenge of leading others. He understood that a better future could be achieved and made it his goal to see it happen. He did not let fear stop him because he knew that “God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control” (2 Timothy 1:7). He was a man of honor, courage, and faith.

“I come to say to you this afternoon, however difficult the moment, however frustrating the hour, it will not be long… How long? Not long, because the arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.” – MLK’s ‘Our…

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Posted by on January 24, 2014 in Planning & Goal Setting


Person’s Goals reveals his Character

One of our Guest Bloggers perspective:  Goals reveal’s a person’s charater …….

Goals Character1It is that time of the year. Some are wondering how 2013 passed by very quickly. Some are reflecting on how effectively they spent the last year. How much have they grown or how much are they lagging behind their expectations. Some are busy jotting down their goals for 2014. Some are unaffected. Years come and go; they choose to go with the flow.

Anyway, if you have planned goals for this year, I have something important to share with you. Even if you do not have specific goals for the course of this year, we all want something at every point in life. Most of us are wired that way.

Do you give enough thought on what you truly want to do? Or are you just playing around. For example, there are people wanting to learn guitar because they think it is cool to play a guitar. There are people wanting to hit the gym because their neighbours seem divinely motivated to work out. There are people who travel so that they brag about their experiences to others. Is this your definition of setting goals? Or are you being fair to yourself and to life and are accountable for it?

A person’s goals reveals a lot about his character, his deepest desires, his longings and what he feels to be his purpose in life. Let us peek into the process of goal setting.

  1.      You get into deep introspection.
  2.      You set a goal.
  3.      You reach out for the required resources.
  4.      You get into the process of achieving it.
  5.      You are brave enough to ask for required help.
  6.      You reach it.
  7.      You are not the same person that you were at the step one.Goals mossion value

Now, it is not the fulfilment of the goal that brings joy. Real joy is when you look back and see how much you have grown internally in the process. How much it has altered and moulded your personality. How far have you reached in becoming what you want to be. What kind of person were you when you began and what are you at the end. Fulfilment of the goal gets you high temporarily but it is this realization that brings you joy that doesn’t fade away with time, it becomes a part of you and becomes one of the many things that define you. So goals are very personal for they have the capability to strike chords in your deep inside.

What happens when you do not resonate with your goal? You might give up for the smallest of obstacles. You might not feel empowered enough to reach the destination. Your focus might shift and you might not want to achieve it any longer. You might hate yourself for fooling around. Waste of time and effort, isn’t it?

David Nair taught me how to set the right goals. I ask myself questions like why am I doing this? Where did I get this desire from? What does this mean to me deeply? How is this related to the entity that I am in the inside?  Will it bring out my capabilities and let go of my limitations? Will this help me evolve to become that that I want to be? Ask questions that mean to you goals who U becomepersonally. Reflect on what, why, when of it, the universe will take care of the how. And you would be amazed to see how you just flow through the entire process crossing the obstacles, overcoming the limitations, effortlessly.



Posted by on January 24, 2014 in Planning & Goal Setting


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Another Year, New sets of Goals ….. Oh No …. What’s it all for !!!!

ReflectionsAs 2013 came to an end, many would have gone through a reflective period thinking what are my plans for 2014?

As we ventured into the process of set resolutions, goals, and plans for the coming year, a thought or two would float into our mind … for some it will go this way, hello, you did the same as you closed the year 2012, and were planning to move into 2013. The same would have happened for the previous year, and the previous year. What is going to make this year any different. So why go through the process of setting goals… What is so different in 2014 to make the effort of setting goals?

The logically reasons are plentiful, it will give the drive, the motivation, the clarity, etc., etc., etc… the list is endless.

Very frankly in today’s approach none of this will cement a solid goal setting framework for anyone, any year let alone 2014.

Then what would be the most logically next question… How could we live without goals? We were taught by these developmental gurus, to set goals, break it and drive through the year.

Well …. Friends the illogical answer to this logical stance is very simple… sunrise 3

I am going to work through a number of principles and share them over the next few blogs such that the assimilation of these basic fundamentals would put a different approach to setting and achieving your expectations, this year and the coming year.

My approach through this and the next few blogs would be from a holistic approach, with particular focus on emotions and the commonly referred feel factor.

Many would have heard the common catch cry, “Success is the progressive realization of worthwhile dreams and goals”. This is logical; it is a very matter of fact statement. Is this going to take a person far? Success means different to different people. It is like asking for a black forest cake, instead a chocolate cake is provided. Would you settle for it? A resounding no would be the response from most people. So the factor that triggers inside of a person is more than success…

Earl Nightingale reframes this in a slightly different way. To him “happiness is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal, or goal”.

Well, happiness crosses all boundaries. It is from within, it is a flame, it’s the chocolate cream icing, with the strawberries on that black forest cake. Now that happiness sensation is different Eyeand carries more weightage than the success. The latter has body, fullness, feel factor, as opposed to the former being very stereotype, flat and ok so to speak. “I get you,” type of feeling, another success, so what… the inner sensational button to satisfy the basic human need is minimal. This is so succinctly put by Victor Frankl, the founder of logotherapy, “the greatest human need of human being is for a sense of meaning a sense of purpose in Life, an inner unexplainable emotion”  – Happiness.

Look out on my next blog, I will be expanding into Desire mapping and Core Desire feelings as the pressure points for goals Cheers davidnair

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Posted by on January 18, 2014 in Planning & Goal Setting, Thoughts


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Harvest a time to access maturity

404212_455991417775879_199648984_n“The greatest form of maturity is at harvest time. This is when we must learn how to reap without complaint if the amounts are small and how to reap without apology if the amounts are big.”  Jim Rohn

The harvest time is not from season to season ….. When we chunk it down, it is from month to month, week to week, day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute… the moment.

So on planting a seed and leaving it be to the end season provides a range of harvest outcomes. As opposed to on planting the seed, watering it, weeding the field, fertilizing, keep the birds flocks or other predators away from it … basically nurturing it every moment of the day is what produces the size of the harvest.

Some have been able to capsule this to being their best and live and work, the fullest every moment of their life, thereby producing that required harvest, while others are only able to capture a smaller part and still others a lesser part.

All of that harvest is achievements and the result to be admired and acknowledged. The one that is able to view that harvest this very moment and see how better he /she can do it the next moment, and the next, and the next and tomorrow, and the next and the next day is self-progress, development and achievement…. Or put in lay man’s terms is success.

If we fall short of not getting into this pattern, reflect to see if it important, should it be done, what is in it for you to do so?… surprising the answer in most instance would be towards the affirmative.

It is interesting, when this happens, it triggers something within the self, that produces that chemical within oneself, to make one happy, to make one motivated, to make one more emphatic, to make one more, more this and more that, and the list is endless.

If these are the outcomes from such a simple exercise, then why not spend some time once a week just to reflect…and think?

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In which areas of your life would you like to sow, to invest, to…? To….? To…? more time?

Just take a minute size step, in reflecting on that goal. What does it take to tune up for the moment to scale the next rung of the ladder and see how life turns around?

Love David Nair

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Posted by on November 7, 2013 in General, Planning & Goal Setting


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Reflective thought on Goal Setting

images[1]I was on a Skype call early this week with a few past participants who were wanting reassurances on what they have done with their goals for 2013 and whether they were on track with it The conversation was taped and this was the transcript that was sent to me yesterday…. Thought I would put this on open forum as it could be of help to some…. Check it out……

  • Men / Women who have goals & plans dictate to others, while Men / Women, who have no goals or plans, are dictated to.
  • Basic Natural Law of the Universe – “Anything you can think of and believe in, you can achieve.” / “Believing in the Key.” Therefore it’s imperative we build our Belief Factor.
  • Quit thinking about the reasons why you “can’t” do something and think of all the reasons why you “can.”
  • True success avoids extremes! It is a journey. It is a gradual process. In this journey of Up’s & Down’s, RELAX, HAVE FUN AND ENJOY THE JOURNEY. Be surprised how fast the results are on hand.
  • The three elements to success:

Direction – setting your sights on the things that are worthwhile in life and then establishing a plan to continuously work towards their fulfilment and accomplishment.

Balance – Keeping the proper perspective about every area of your life. Staying in harmony with nature’s law which produces perfect balance. Balance in all things brings about happiness.

Belief – No man / women will become successful, who does not possess belief. The greater his / her belief – the greater his / her degree of success. Successful Man / Women are believers.

  • As Emerson has repeated mentioned, “A man is what he thinks about all day long”. Similarly, when we fervently believe, and act upon our belief with all our heart, the inevitable is just round the corner.
  • The Law of Cause & Effect…. “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. “ Holds so true in Goal setting…. It is imperative for congruency to be at the helm of this process, in mind & action.
  • As you sow, so shall you reap?”
  • Remember the paddy field story.(will be released in this blog shortly)
  • Most of us try to change other people. To achieve our goals, we do not need to change others, instead, OTHERS CHANGE AS WE CHANGE OUR THOUGHTS ABOUT THEM, thus accelerating the process in achieving the goal.
  • Only three percent, of all people have goals and plans and write them down. Interesting these three precent always drives the ninth seven percent, who end up being followers.
  • Remember as we stubble through working on our goal, “Out of every adversity comes an equal or greater opportunity”, the next round the corner is what we should focus our thoughts and activity. – This never fails.
  • It is better to aim your arrow at a Star and hit an Eagle, than to aim your arrow at an Eagle and hit a Stone.
  • Two can accomplish more than twice as much as one, for the results can be much better. If one falls, the other pulls him up, but if a man falls when he is alone, he’s in trouble.

Closing true story on how goals were set by the then youngest president in 1960, President J F Kennedy. He with a few days of taking office addressed the nation, announcing the beginning of a Ten year space program designed to put a man on the moon. Mind you when this announcement was made there was no Apollo mission, NASA was at its infancy, and this young bold president boldly says, “we will put a man on the moon by the turn of the decade”…. that is within 10 years.

What and how did they do it? The process for the space program took shape as follows:

(1)   A Goal was set.

(2)   A Plan was made.

(3)   A Firm Target was established.

(4)   Group Thinking was employed.

(5)   Everyone kept the Goal constantly in Mind.

(6)   Action was applied.

(7)   They fervently kept their Faith.

The Result – It was impossible for NASA to fail – Neil Armstrong landed on the moon on July 1969. The rest is history.

Now if the President of America & United States believes in Goal setting and in working out simple steps as detailed above, you & I can do the same.

Have fun as you dig through the process!!!!!!



Posted by on March 8, 2013 in Planning & Goal Setting


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Awaken the Giant in US

How many of us have at time reflected on what we have been doing for the last number of years. Have we achieved what we wanted to achieve? If No, then continue to do what we are doing, do you thing we can achieve what we want? In most instances the answer is No. Therefore we need to CHANGE.

How? The answer is within each of us, Awaken the giant within us.


Collectively, that’s the richest source of wealth in the entire world. Nothing ever invented, nothing ever dreamed of, produced, or multiplied a thousand times over could ever match the wealth that lies in the untapped potential of our minds and our beings!

The libraries are filled…and news articles abound…with story after story of awkward kids, young people who couldn’t pass exams in school, athletes who didn’t make the team early on. Yet some way, somehow, they went on to great success!

So how did all of these people separate themselves from the “average” the ordinary mass of people, comprising the 80% within the Bell curve?

They made a conscious choice and a conscious decision to do whatever they had to do to wake up the sleeping giant.

They set a goal to tap their unused potential. And with practice, practice, practice, practice, dedication, commitment, and hard work they move up that notch.

Some basic steps to awake that giant within each of us I have never seen them fail to produce the required result!


Believe that we do have a sleeping giant within and an untapped potential that you are unique and different and that we can develop and grow and achieve.


Just like gravity is here to stay to indefinitely, so will the Law of Expectation.
Living life with positive expectancy produces great rewards. Remember, the only limitations we will ever have are those we place on our self.


Never see our self as who, we are now, instead how we would be, if you wake up the giant and develop our hidden potential. Always remember each success draws us closer to the mental picture that you have of our new future and the satisfaction that comes from accomplishing the step-by-step goals that we have set.


Constantly repeating our goals statements, rein enforces in us that the results are achievable. It is the turbo boost, the speed that inoculates us for the run to success.

*     Get emotionally involved!
**      Become passionate!
***       Get excited!
****        Become enthusiastic!
*****         Feel your adrenaline pump!
******          And feel the sleeping giant awaken.

Happy Journey……..

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Posted by on February 27, 2013 in Planning & Goal Setting


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Law of Attraction

When I was spending some me time last night, after a few conference calls to associates, extracts from the book THE SECRET was running through me and it went this way.

One of the critical steps to the Law of Attraction is visualizing exactly what you want. All of the experts interviewed agree – the more precisely you visualize – the better the Law of Attraction works.

But the opposite is true as well. The less you visualize, the less noticeable the results.

And even worse for most folks – if you are unable to visualize exactly what you want, the Law of Attraction can give you the opposite of what you desire and you never see the results you want.

I do not know about you, but this is an extremely frightening thought. It is like in the movie Armageddon, where the meteoroid is head towards earth and all effort is used to deflect it from the gravity pull into earth. Once that opposite force is there and it is greater than gravity, it will deflect the meteoroid, and never will it touch earth.

The law of attraction does it the same way, if we do not have it visualized (like most folks – 95% of people), then the LAW OF ATTRACTION WILL DEFLECT IT AND YOU WILL NEVER SEE THE RESULT YOU WANT.

First, we will need to know what we need to visualize, therefore the importance of SETTING GOALS. We do not need to wait for a New Year to start setting goals. We start today, when the idea is planted in our mind to do and achieve something. Although we are moving in March 2013, (2 months off 2013 is gone). It does not matter, it’s not too late and I think we are adults to recognize and realize the importance of this process. We can again, leave it as a low priority and work or something else and completely loose on the opportunity described above and work that double hard trying, to make ends meet, or do something that is different for our change and benefit.

For those who need help please do not hesitate to contact david nair on For the participants who have come to my programs, please do not send your goals to the Yahoo groups that we have established for your team. These goals are not for all to see in the public forum.

I take this opportunity to wish you and your family a belated Happy & Prosperous New 2013 Year.

Make it your year for Dynamism.

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Posted by on February 27, 2013 in Planning & Goal Setting


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Resolution for 2013

Hi friends,

2013 is round the corner. Many have set the plans for 2103. Some are still thinking and wondering, I have done that in the past, and where has it taken me….

To all your questions / doubts, I would sincerely suggest you revisit and list your 2013 resolutions. Some might find it had to start. To help here is a starting point….

I shall later this week follow this article with another on the process of what needs to be done…Until then have a great time enjoying the festival season and just send some time on yourself… reflecting… silence is amazing.

Cheers David Nair

2013 Year Resolution

 I had in quarter four sent an email to past participants with a list of last year’s new resolutions December 23, 2011. The list had 90 points divided into the following categories:

  1. Self-Development
  2. Family
  3. Profession
  4. Pay it forward
  5. Financial

Today I am taking the liberty to cut down the list to 25 most effective points. Make your choice and prepare for the resolution 2013

Self development: Self development: Self development: Self development:

  1. Slim down your waist by 2 inches – 0.5      inches a quarter
  2. Join a video making class.
  3. Make your voice heard in by taking up      community initiatives – write to local newspapers or become an active      member of your community
  4. Buy a good notebook and write in your      daily journal
  5. Read one book a month.
  6. Develop your creative streak, practice      exercises from “The beautiful mind” by De Bono

Family: Family: Family: Family: Family

  1. Switch off the TV and spend an hour a      week of quiet time with your family playing a game.
  2. Create a video of your family      activities.
  3. Set mutually agreeable goals for every      family member and jointly measure progress every week.
  4. Together, learn a foreign language at      home, alternate as a student and teacher.
  5. Proactive impromptu speaking (Table      Topics) with your kids.
  6. Build a new network of seven families.

Profession: Profession: Profession: Profession: Profession: Profession:

  1. Network more and create 1000 new      professional connections in the year 2013
  2. Subscribe to one magazine on STRATEGY.
  3. Create a secondary profile – become a      Consultant, Advisor, Trainer or an Author.
  4. Cross connect with employees from your      top five business competitors – organization and become their trust      advisors and adversaries.
  5. Download a professional podcast or      YouTube educational programs and listen to them when travelling.

Pay it forward: Pay it forward: Pay it forward: Pay it forward:

  1. Teach professional skills to blue collar      workers – Computer skills, management skills, leadership skills, public      speaking skills.
  2. Spend an hour a month with less      privileged kids.
  3. Help four people get a job.
  4. Create a team of ten people to help less      privileged people.

Financials: Financials: Financials: Financials: Financials: Financials:

  1. Save 10% more.
  2. Invest 5% more.
  3. Identify four businesses that will pay      for your expertise.
  4. Learn to think like an entrepreneur by      focusing on results.

Life is about better planning and a better life is about executing better plans in time.
RECREATE YOURSELF in the year 2013.

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Posted by on January 18, 2013 in Planning & Goal Setting


 To create a Blue Print of your Life

 As we close out a year and prepare to enter a new year, it’s time we focus on our current Life Blueprint.  If you’ve not created one then now is the time.  It’s kind of hard to build the life we desire without a Life Blueprint to follow.

I’ve read where it’s estimated that only 3% of people ever write down their goals.  Personally I believe this is because most of us have failed so many times at reaching them, we’re too embarrassed to write them down.  We don’t want to take the chance of facing the same disappointment we did last year, and the year before, and the year before that, when did not turn out like we planned.  Now it’s much safer for us just to keep our goals and ambitions tucked safely in the back of our minds.

Well, what we need to think about over the next few days as we enter into a new year it is not goal setting.  Instead we need to focus on creating a Life Blueprint.

I firmly believe we’re not created to push ourselves through life, but to be pulled by something so compelling and irresistible that there would be an empty space inside if we don’t follow those longings.  Stop and think about it a second.  What deep unspoken dream have you not yet achieved?  In other words what’s your true purpose?  What is it you have always wanted to do, but have been afraid to give it your 100% commitment?

Social Scientists from the beginning of recorded history have all concluded that at the core of all humans is a quest to find purpose and meaning.  Yet, year after year we never take the time to truly reach deep inside to create the Life Blueprint that could help us build the fulfilling life we so desire.

For most of us, life is a compromise of a God-given dream.  Our situation usually isn’t that life is a complete disappointment.  But there’s a haunting feeling that it was meant to be so much more.  And in each case the compromise we settle for can be traced directly to a lack of purpose somewhere in our lives.

So as we move forward in creating a Life Blueprint we need to realize that a blueprint is a rough draft… a picture of the end result as seen by the architect.  With a Life Blueprint suddenly there’s a place to turn for reference when things are on track, and when it’s time to take the next step.  This Life Blueprint will act as a guide for establishing a strong foundation, developing our inner wiring; even tend to some of the cosmetic details.

This Life Blueprint goes far beyond simply learning our purpose.  It includes a plan for intentional living in every area of our life.  Our Life Blueprint gives us a practical framework for life.  It’s a set of plans to organize our life’s priorities and determine specific action steps to make sure we meet the objectives that will create a true sense of fulfillment.

Here’s the basic blueprint, if we complete each of these 8 steps we’ll be well on our way to a year like we’ve not known in a while, if ever.  Take the time to write down your answers to the following 8 questions.  Review these daily as you create your Life Blueprint.

Passion – What are you passionate about? If money was no object, where would you choose to focus your time and energy?

Giftedness – What special gifts or skills do you have? What are the things you do best? Is there something that comes effortlessly for you while others struggle to keep pace?

Resources – What resources or possessions do you have that can be leveraged?  Do you have money, a position of influence, a vehicle, or an education that could be the building block for what you truly want to pursue?

Opportunities – What opportunities are sitting on your doorstep?  What opportunities are just over the horizon?

You’re Past – How has your past helped to prepare you for your future?  What have you succeeded at?  What have you failed at?  Have you gained valuable experience that will now be helpful in a similar arena?

Key Environments – Are there certain environments in which you tend to thrive?  Is there a certain area of the country that gets your juices flowing?  Are there particular people or personality types that make you productive?

Personal/Spiritual Growth – This is the cornerstone of our search for our true purpose. Each of us are trying to find our way on this journey we call life.  Well in order to continue going forward, and not around in circles we need to focus on our personal and spiritual growth.   What are you currently doing to grow personally and spiritually?

Wise Counsel – If you were to ask the mentors in your life, what would they say you should do?  Find someone or several that you respect and trust.  People who have already aspired to where you want to go, and who have nothing to win or lose by your decisions, and find out what they did to get where you want to go.

Ok, now we need to look at the top six areas of our life and see where we are strong and where we need to firm up the foundations.

  1. Physical
  2. Emotional
  3. Financial
  4. Family
  5. Spiritual
  6. Business/Career

We have to take a real close look at these six areas of our life and figure out how to gain balance.  See if we desire to have a life of prosperity, we have to live a life of balance.  In our Life Blueprint we need to write down both our personal and professional areas of improvement.  What areas do we need to work on?  Who do we need to turn for help?

The above exercises are the foundation for helping us to create a Life Blueprint.  It is not the end, it’s just the beginning.  Over the next few days we will start to see a clear picture of what we truly desire, and how to strive towards it.

Once, we’ve accomplished this step, it’ll be time for us to write in vivid detail what we would call our perfect day;

If time, money, recourses and energy was no object what would your perfect day look like?  Where would you live, what type of financial success would you achieve, how would you and your family invest your time?

You may be asking “Why is this so important?” I think the third King of the Hebrews said it best in his writings in the book of Proverbs “Where there is no vision, the people perish… Proverbs 29:18”

We must create a vision that comes from deep in our soul. If we do this, we’ll be light years ahead of those who are trying to accomplish success without a Life Blueprint.

Our vision is what keeps us going when things aren’t going has we planned.  It’s what keeps us going when others tell us it’s not worth it.  By writing down our vision and keeping it in front of us at all time, we’ll ensure our psychology is focused forward and not hanging out with the dull, disillusioned, negative cry- babies in our life;  People who would love for us to stay in the same cesspool of failure that they call home. Yes, these are harsh words, yet if you take a gut check you’ll see I’m right.

Take time right now and create your vision for success.  In creating this part of your Life Blueprint, take time to remember these two things.

  1. Small visions have no power to move our passion.  Most people just don’t  have a vision that motivates them to act.
  2. Reasons come first, answers come second. Most people will do more for others than for themselves.  Who in your life deserves for you to      reach your vision?

Now, you are ready to focus in on the action plan of your Life Blueprint.

  1. Write on a 3×5 card your Ultimate Vision
  2. Write on a 3×5 card your Ultimate Purpose
  3. Write on a 3×5 card The Roles you have to fill daily i.e. “world’s best husband”, “super dad”, “Chief Rainmaker”,  “Chief Solutions Officer” name your roles with titles that inspire you to act.
  4. Write on a 3×5 card the three areas you must focus on daily in order to thrive and live out your ultimate vision and purpose?
  5. Write on a 3×5 card the recourses you have at hand which will allow you to reach your ultimate vision and ultimate purpose?
  6. Write on a 3×5 card your 90-day and one year Results/Outcomes
  7. Write on a 3×5 card your Daily R.P.M. (Results-Focused, Purpose-Driven, Massive-Action-Plan)

Remember in order to create your Life Blueprint you must ask yourself the following questions.

  1. What result do I want to achieve?
  2. What is my purpose in achieving this result?
  3. What specific action must I take in order to  achieve this result?

Now, let’s look at the definitions of Results/Outcomes, Purpose, and Action as they pertain to this Life Blueprint guide.

Results/OutcomesAn Outcome is a specific measurable result that you want to achieve.  Use words like create, establish, determine, begin, resolve, maintain, or make major progress on.

PurposeYour purpose gives you the emotional reasons why you want to follow through.  When you become associated to why you are doing something, you will create the emotional excitement and “juice” that will give you the drive to create the results.  Is your language powerful?  Ask yourself “Why do I want to do this?  What will it give me and others? How will it make me feel?

 ActionAction items are the specific activities that you must complete in order to produce the outcome/results you are committed to.  The secret is that you do not need to accomplish every action item on your “to-do” list in order to achieve your desired outcome.  Is it something you can take action on today?  Be ruthlessly specific: who, what, where, when and how – specifically!

 Ok, we have come to the end of this Life Blueprint outline and we’re at a crossroads.  Will we take the time needed and invest in creating your Life Blueprint?  Or, will we decide to blow it off once again, and continue to allow others to control our outcomes?

Every decision we make carries consequences.  The decision we make has the power to create great rewards for our life; or our decision can cause negative consequences that denigrate the quality of our life.

Think of all the experiences you have had in your life and where your life would be today.  Would your life be radically different if you had made some different decisions?  Even small decisions can have a profound impact when they are measured over the course of several years or decades.

Maturity is anticipating the consequences of your decisions in advance of making them.

Your brain in constantly making three decisions:

  1. What am I going to focus on?
  2. What does this mean?
  3. What am I going to do?

 We have to ask ourselves, if decisions have so much power in our lives, why do we tend to put them off?

  1. Fear – Many of us are afraid of failing or of making the wrong decision. However, the only failure is failing to decide.  
  2. Uncertainty about what the decision is going to meanThe way to get good at making decisions is to make more of them.  Then if we make the wrong ones, we’ll learn more quickly and we can use what we’ve learned to make better decisions in the future.  
  3. We feel overwhelmed In today’s society, we all experience a  constant deluge of information – it’s on our e-mails, our voice mail, our cell phones, and our PDA’s.  And we      are constantly pressured to make decisions based on the information that surrounds us.  Often, we simply don’t know where to start. We need a system for making decisions that will cause us to focus on our outcomes and produce the results that will benefit us most in the long run.

 So let’s look at four principles for making decisions.

  1. All important and/or difficult decisions must be made on paper. Don’t do it in your head!  This causes a “Looping Process” that makes effective decision making difficult to impossible, and makes us crazy!
  2. The most important first step in all decision making is to be clear about what you want (your outcome) and why you want it (your purpose). How will you know when you’ve achieved your outcome? What is your evidence procedure?
  3. Remember, decisions are made based on probability.  Rarely will you have the luxury of      absolute certainty.  All decision making carries some consequences – that’s its power.  However, failing to make a timely and intelligent decision can also carry severe consequences to individuals and organizations.
  4. All  decisions making is Value Clarification. Often, you will have several outcomes you      want to achieve simultaneously.Therefore, you must be clear about the order of importance of all these outcomes.

Let me suggest six steps that can help you make effective decisions and get you started on creating your Life Blueprint.

  1. Outcomes –  What is the result you are after? Why do you want to achieve it?  You must be clear about our outcomes and their order of importance in your life.
  2. Options Write down all of your options, including those that initially may sound far-fetched.
  3. Consequences  – What  are the upsides and downsides of each option? What do you gain by each option and what could it cost you?
  4. Evaluate Weigh the consequences of each option.  Review your options and evaluate each of  their upsides and downsides.
    1. What outcomes are affected?
    2. How important is each upside/downside in terms of meeting your outcomes (on a scale from 0-10)
    3. What is the probability that the upside/downside will occur (0-100 %?)
    4. What is the emotional benefit or consequence if this option were to actually happen?
  5. Mitigate – Review the “downside” consequences for each of your remaining options.  Then brainstorm alternative ways to eliminate or reduce the downside.
  6. ResolveBased on the most probable consequences, select the option that provides the greatest certainty you will meet your desired outcomes and needs.
    1. Select your best option and strengthen your resolve to make it work.
    2. Resolve that no matter what happens, this option will give you a win.
    3. Design your plan for implementation and then take massive action.  You know your       outcome – now it’s time to develop an RPM plan for attaining it.

Now if while you are creating your Life Blueprint you run into a situation where you need to solve a problem before you can move forward, here are four simple steps to use.

  1. Get Resourceful
    1. Decide that you are going to solve this. Decide to stop focusing on the problem and       start focusing on the solution. Most people spend 95% on the problem and 55% on the solution. You must do the opposite.
    2. Get perspective from others who have successfully dealt with such situations       before.
    3. Remember a tough time in your life when you pulled yourself through.  What was it that pulled you through?  A belief? An understanding? How can you utilize that resource in this situation?
    4. Believe that you’re guided as long as you’re doing something for the greater good, and that if you’re committed, there is always a way.
  2. Define the current situationYou must define the current situation as factually as      possible without your “story.”  For most of us, there is the actual event and then there is our story about the event. To solve a problem, you must remove yourself from your “story” and      simply define the situation as it is.
  3. Get a clear Vision for what you really wantWhat do you want to have happen that is different from how it is now?  Again, write down exactly how you want this situation to turn out.
  4. List the resources available to you and any constraints or limitations you may have.
    1. What are the resources you could utilize to help solve this problem?  Who do you know who could help you?  What physical resources do you have (i.e., money, time, etc.)? What information is available to you that you are not maximizing?
    2. What constraints do you have in solving this situation?  List only real limitations or parameters to solving this situation.  Be sure that they are really constraints and not just limiting beliefs.  For example, are you limited to spending a certain amount of money?  Is there a time frame by which this must be resolved?  Is there a resource that you don’t want to tap into for this particular situation?

Congratulations! We’ve made it to the end of this email! You’re one of the “Few who do” versus “the many who talk.”  And, you now have the basis information you need to start creating your Life Blueprint for the new year.

If any of you have any questions please feel free to contact me personally and we’ll chat about your Life Blueprint.

Stand Firm & Never give Up.

Cheers David Nair     

Blue Print of your Life

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