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The Cancerous “Doubt” – Its removal!

expectancy Whatever the unconscious is taught to expect it will go and source for it, working in line with the universe. Therefore our heart longings, our soul aspirations are more than mere vaporing of imagination and idle dreams. They are indicators of what can be achieved. They are our KPI’s the height of our aim or our efficiency.

From the time the idea flickers in our mind, of wanting something, yearning for it with all our heart, we commence a relationship with that DESIRE. Like any relationship for it to grow and blossom in beauty, we need to nurture it, feed it, nourish it, care of it and love it, only then will it become a wholesome developed MANIFESTATION OF THAT DESIRE.  This is commonly referred to the IDEAL SIDE of life –living …….   MANIFESTATION SIDE

Unfortunately for most of us we live too much in the material side, the realistic side – not enough in the ideal side. The secret of all secrets is to live mentally in this ideal side, which we wish to make real. (Commonly referred as the Dream world)

As an example, to keep constantly in our mind the ideal man or woman we would like to become. We need to hold that image of that “ideal” person in whole and when any disease to affect that image or the slightest suggestion (in word or thought) to belittle our self, arises, we will need to immediately strangle that disease that inferiority thought. We should never allow our self to dwell upon our weakness, deficiencies or failures.

For this seed to germinate, we need to work, work, and work at it constantly through life, until it becomes second nature, until it becomes A HABIT, until it happens – like an AUTO PILOT. When the thought of pulling one-self down, starts in our mind, we should immediately forcefully create the SWITCH to prevent that belittlement, stop that cancerous pull down.

When we achieve this state, there is tremendous power created in this HABIT OF EXPECTANCY, I can fd9ca892-5266-11e3-806b-22000a893e09-mediumof believing we can realize our ambition, that our dream, whatever it is can come true.

There is no uplifting habit than that of bearing a hopeful attitude, of believing that things are going to turn out well and not ill. We need to constantly carry this optimistic, expectant attitude – the attitude which always looks for and expects the best, the highest, the happiest and never allow one to be pessimistic, discouraging mood.

We need to believe with all our heart that we will do what we were made to do. At no point should we allow that cancer of DOUBT to enter our thinking. When it does, and it will keep coming back many times, the pattern of habit that we built above should auto pilot its way into drive that cancer out?

We should only entertain friendly thoughts that will help nurture that desire. It does not matter what we are trying to do, achieve, from the time that idea is created, we need to always assume an expectant, hopeful, optimistic attitude. When the mind has formed the habit of holding cheerful, happy, prosperous pictures, it will not be easy to form the opposite habit.

The very habit of expecting that the future is full of good things for us, that we are going to be prosperous and happy, that we are going to have a fine family, a beautiful home, amass enough material and non- material wealth and we are going to stand for something. This is one of the faithbest forms of capital to start and live a fulfilled life.

What is persistently, passionately and with feeling  expressed through visualisation & affirmation is achieved, even though it may seem unlikely, or impossible to achieve, provided  we live and express in the IDEAL, the things we want to come true in our lives, whether it is good health, noble character, or a superb career……..

Enjoy this practice and share your outcomes.

Cheers David Nair

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Posted by on January 26, 2014 in Planning & Goal Setting, Thoughts

 

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How Will You Turn Your Dreams Into Reality?

The sixties saw the birth of many great social game changers … Martin Luther King, President JFK, Nelson Mandela, Castro just to name a few. Many might not be aware of what some of these “great men” did to create change and catapult the world to the stature it is today. One of the top reformers is Martin Luther King, in his speech, “I have a Dream” crystalizes and framed the blue print for the racial discrimination laws of US and the rest of the world. The right of the minority, leading up to the Minority Laws set in the US during the 60’s. Here Kings touches on realisation of Dreams. Check it out. Cheers David

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Today is the day that we celebrate the man who changed history forever. Martin Luther King, Jr. saw injustice in the world and decided that he would not stay silent. He stood up for his people, his country, and for his God. He gave up his comfortability and convenience for the challenge of leading others. He understood that a better future could be achieved and made it his goal to see it happen. He did not let fear stop him because he knew that “God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control” (2 Timothy 1:7). He was a man of honor, courage, and faith.

“I come to say to you this afternoon, however difficult the moment, however frustrating the hour, it will not be long… How long? Not long, because the arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.” – MLK’s ‘Our…

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Posted by on January 24, 2014 in Planning & Goal Setting

 

Person’s Goals reveals his Character

One of our Guest Bloggers perspective:  Goals reveal’s a person’s charater …….

Goals Character1It is that time of the year. Some are wondering how 2013 passed by very quickly. Some are reflecting on how effectively they spent the last year. How much have they grown or how much are they lagging behind their expectations. Some are busy jotting down their goals for 2014. Some are unaffected. Years come and go; they choose to go with the flow.

Anyway, if you have planned goals for this year, I have something important to share with you. Even if you do not have specific goals for the course of this year, we all want something at every point in life. Most of us are wired that way.

Do you give enough thought on what you truly want to do? Or are you just playing around. For example, there are people wanting to learn guitar because they think it is cool to play a guitar. There are people wanting to hit the gym because their neighbours seem divinely motivated to work out. There are people who travel so that they brag about their experiences to others. Is this your definition of setting goals? Or are you being fair to yourself and to life and are accountable for it?

A person’s goals reveals a lot about his character, his deepest desires, his longings and what he feels to be his purpose in life. Let us peek into the process of goal setting.

  1.      You get into deep introspection.
  2.      You set a goal.
  3.      You reach out for the required resources.
  4.      You get into the process of achieving it.
  5.      You are brave enough to ask for required help.
  6.      You reach it.
  7.      You are not the same person that you were at the step one.Goals mossion value

Now, it is not the fulfilment of the goal that brings joy. Real joy is when you look back and see how much you have grown internally in the process. How much it has altered and moulded your personality. How far have you reached in becoming what you want to be. What kind of person were you when you began and what are you at the end. Fulfilment of the goal gets you high temporarily but it is this realization that brings you joy that doesn’t fade away with time, it becomes a part of you and becomes one of the many things that define you. So goals are very personal for they have the capability to strike chords in your deep inside.

What happens when you do not resonate with your goal? You might give up for the smallest of obstacles. You might not feel empowered enough to reach the destination. Your focus might shift and you might not want to achieve it any longer. You might hate yourself for fooling around. Waste of time and effort, isn’t it?

David Nair taught me how to set the right goals. I ask myself questions like why am I doing this? Where did I get this desire from? What does this mean to me deeply? How is this related to the entity that I am in the inside?  Will it bring out my capabilities and let go of my limitations? Will this help me evolve to become that that I want to be? Ask questions that mean to you goals who U becomepersonally. Reflect on what, why, when of it, the universe will take care of the how. And you would be amazed to see how you just flow through the entire process crossing the obstacles, overcoming the limitations, effortlessly.

 

 
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Posted by on January 24, 2014 in Planning & Goal Setting

 

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Another Year, New sets of Goals ….. Oh No …. What’s it all for !!!!

ReflectionsAs 2013 came to an end, many would have gone through a reflective period thinking what are my plans for 2014?

As we ventured into the process of set resolutions, goals, and plans for the coming year, a thought or two would float into our mind … for some it will go this way, hello, you did the same as you closed the year 2012, and were planning to move into 2013. The same would have happened for the previous year, and the previous year. What is going to make this year any different. So why go through the process of setting goals… What is so different in 2014 to make the effort of setting goals?

The logically reasons are plentiful, it will give the drive, the motivation, the clarity, etc., etc., etc… the list is endless.

Very frankly in today’s approach none of this will cement a solid goal setting framework for anyone, any year let alone 2014.

Then what would be the most logically next question… How could we live without goals? We were taught by these developmental gurus, to set goals, break it and drive through the year.

Well …. Friends the illogical answer to this logical stance is very simple… sunrise 3

I am going to work through a number of principles and share them over the next few blogs such that the assimilation of these basic fundamentals would put a different approach to setting and achieving your expectations, this year and the coming year.

My approach through this and the next few blogs would be from a holistic approach, with particular focus on emotions and the commonly referred feel factor.

Many would have heard the common catch cry, “Success is the progressive realization of worthwhile dreams and goals”. This is logical; it is a very matter of fact statement. Is this going to take a person far? Success means different to different people. It is like asking for a black forest cake, instead a chocolate cake is provided. Would you settle for it? A resounding no would be the response from most people. So the factor that triggers inside of a person is more than success…

Earl Nightingale reframes this in a slightly different way. To him “happiness is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal, or goal”.

Well, happiness crosses all boundaries. It is from within, it is a flame, it’s the chocolate cream icing, with the strawberries on that black forest cake. Now that happiness sensation is different Eyeand carries more weightage than the success. The latter has body, fullness, feel factor, as opposed to the former being very stereotype, flat and ok so to speak. “I get you,” type of feeling, another success, so what… the inner sensational button to satisfy the basic human need is minimal. This is so succinctly put by Victor Frankl, the founder of logotherapy, “the greatest human need of human being is for a sense of meaning a sense of purpose in Life, an inner unexplainable emotion”  – Happiness.

Look out on my next blog, I will be expanding into Desire mapping and Core Desire feelings as the pressure points for goals Cheers davidnair

 
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Posted by on January 18, 2014 in Planning & Goal Setting, Thoughts

 

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Harvest a time to access maturity

404212_455991417775879_199648984_n“The greatest form of maturity is at harvest time. This is when we must learn how to reap without complaint if the amounts are small and how to reap without apology if the amounts are big.”  Jim Rohn

The harvest time is not from season to season ….. When we chunk it down, it is from month to month, week to week, day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute… the moment.

So on planting a seed and leaving it be to the end season provides a range of harvest outcomes. As opposed to on planting the seed, watering it, weeding the field, fertilizing, keep the birds flocks or other predators away from it … basically nurturing it every moment of the day is what produces the size of the harvest.

Some have been able to capsule this to being their best and live and work, the fullest every moment of their life, thereby producing that required harvest, while others are only able to capture a smaller part and still others a lesser part.

All of that harvest is achievements and the result to be admired and acknowledged. The one that is able to view that harvest this very moment and see how better he /she can do it the next moment, and the next, and the next and tomorrow, and the next and the next day is self-progress, development and achievement…. Or put in lay man’s terms is success.

If we fall short of not getting into this pattern, reflect to see if it important, should it be done, what is in it for you to do so?… surprising the answer in most instance would be towards the affirmative.

It is interesting, when this happens, it triggers something within the self, that produces that chemical within oneself, to make one happy, to make one motivated, to make one more emphatic, to make one more, more this and more that, and the list is endless.

If these are the outcomes from such a simple exercise, then why not spend some time once a week just to reflect…and think?

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In which areas of your life would you like to sow, to invest, to…? To….? To…? more time?

Just take a minute size step, in reflecting on that goal. What does it take to tune up for the moment to scale the next rung of the ladder and see how life turns around?

Love David Nair

 
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Posted by on November 7, 2013 in General, Planning & Goal Setting

 

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Reflective thought on Goal Setting

images[1]I was on a Skype call early this week with a few past participants who were wanting reassurances on what they have done with their goals for 2013 and whether they were on track with it The conversation was taped and this was the transcript that was sent to me yesterday…. Thought I would put this on open forum as it could be of help to some…. Check it out……

  • Men / Women who have goals & plans dictate to others, while Men / Women, who have no goals or plans, are dictated to.
  • Basic Natural Law of the Universe – “Anything you can think of and believe in, you can achieve.” / “Believing in the Key.” Therefore it’s imperative we build our Belief Factor.
  • Quit thinking about the reasons why you “can’t” do something and think of all the reasons why you “can.”
  • True success avoids extremes! It is a journey. It is a gradual process. In this journey of Up’s & Down’s, RELAX, HAVE FUN AND ENJOY THE JOURNEY. Be surprised how fast the results are on hand.
  • The three elements to success:

Direction – setting your sights on the things that are worthwhile in life and then establishing a plan to continuously work towards their fulfilment and accomplishment.

Balance – Keeping the proper perspective about every area of your life. Staying in harmony with nature’s law which produces perfect balance. Balance in all things brings about happiness.

Belief – No man / women will become successful, who does not possess belief. The greater his / her belief – the greater his / her degree of success. Successful Man / Women are believers.

  • As Emerson has repeated mentioned, “A man is what he thinks about all day long”. Similarly, when we fervently believe, and act upon our belief with all our heart, the inevitable is just round the corner.
  • The Law of Cause & Effect…. “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. “ Holds so true in Goal setting…. It is imperative for congruency to be at the helm of this process, in mind & action.
  • As you sow, so shall you reap?”
  • Remember the paddy field story.(will be released in this blog shortly)
  • Most of us try to change other people. To achieve our goals, we do not need to change others, instead, OTHERS CHANGE AS WE CHANGE OUR THOUGHTS ABOUT THEM, thus accelerating the process in achieving the goal.
  • Only three percent, of all people have goals and plans and write them down. Interesting these three precent always drives the ninth seven percent, who end up being followers.
  • Remember as we stubble through working on our goal, “Out of every adversity comes an equal or greater opportunity”, the next round the corner is what we should focus our thoughts and activity. – This never fails.
  • It is better to aim your arrow at a Star and hit an Eagle, than to aim your arrow at an Eagle and hit a Stone.
  • Two can accomplish more than twice as much as one, for the results can be much better. If one falls, the other pulls him up, but if a man falls when he is alone, he’s in trouble.

Closing true story on how goals were set by the then youngest president in 1960, President J F Kennedy. He with a few days of taking office addressed the nation, announcing the beginning of a Ten year space program designed to put a man on the moon. Mind you when this announcement was made there was no Apollo mission, NASA was at its infancy, and this young bold president boldly says, “we will put a man on the moon by the turn of the decade”…. that is within 10 years.

What and how did they do it? The process for the space program took shape as follows:

(1)   A Goal was set.

(2)   A Plan was made.

(3)   A Firm Target was established.

(4)   Group Thinking was employed.

(5)   Everyone kept the Goal constantly in Mind.

(6)   Action was applied.

(7)   They fervently kept their Faith.

The Result – It was impossible for NASA to fail – Neil Armstrong landed on the moon on July 1969. The rest is history.

Now if the President of America & United States believes in Goal setting and in working out simple steps as detailed above, you & I can do the same.

Have fun as you dig through the process!!!!!!

 

 
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Posted by on March 8, 2013 in Planning & Goal Setting

 

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Awaken the Giant in US

How many of us have at time reflected on what we have been doing for the last number of years. Have we achieved what we wanted to achieve? If No, then continue to do what we are doing, do you thing we can achieve what we want? In most instances the answer is No. Therefore we need to CHANGE.

How? The answer is within each of us, Awaken the giant within us.

EVERY LIVING SOUL ON PLANET EARTH HAS THE POTENTIAL – MASSIVE, UNTAPPED POTENTIAL!

Collectively, that’s the richest source of wealth in the entire world. Nothing ever invented, nothing ever dreamed of, produced, or multiplied a thousand times over could ever match the wealth that lies in the untapped potential of our minds and our beings!

The libraries are filled…and news articles abound…with story after story of awkward kids, young people who couldn’t pass exams in school, athletes who didn’t make the team early on. Yet some way, somehow, they went on to great success!

So how did all of these people separate themselves from the “average” the ordinary mass of people, comprising the 80% within the Bell curve?

They made a conscious choice and a conscious decision to do whatever they had to do to wake up the sleeping giant.

They set a goal to tap their unused potential. And with practice, practice, practice, practice, dedication, commitment, and hard work they move up that notch.

Some basic steps to awake that giant within each of us I have never seen them fail to produce the required result!

First, BELIEVE IN OURSELF!

Believe that we do have a sleeping giant within and an untapped potential that you are unique and different and that we can develop and grow and achieve.

Second, EXPECT TO SUCCEED! 

Just like gravity is here to stay to indefinitely, so will the Law of Expectation.
Living life with positive expectancy produces great rewards. Remember, the only limitations we will ever have are those we place on our self.

Third, VISUALIZE OUR SUCCESS!!

Never see our self as who, we are now, instead how we would be, if you wake up the giant and develop our hidden potential. Always remember each success draws us closer to the mental picture that you have of our new future and the satisfaction that comes from accomplishing the step-by-step goals that we have set.

Fourth, VERBALIZE OUR GOALS!!

Constantly repeating our goals statements, rein enforces in us that the results are achievable. It is the turbo boost, the speed that inoculates us for the run to success.
Fifth, PURSUE THESE NEW GOALS WITH EMOTION!

*     Get emotionally involved!
**      Become passionate!
***       Get excited!
****        Become enthusiastic!
*****         Feel your adrenaline pump!
******          And feel the sleeping giant awaken.

Happy Journey……..

 
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Posted by on February 27, 2013 in Planning & Goal Setting

 

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