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About davidnair

David, a Mentor, NLP Life Coach & Corporate Trainer to many. David's DEFINITE MAJOR PURPOSE (DMP) is to make a mindset shift in 1 million minds to stretch that little more in each of us, thereby contributing towards a better world for all of us and generations to come..... The Books, CD's, DVD's & Video's a man/women reads, sees and hears, maketh the person. The People he/she Associates with, grooms that person for Life. David's detailed experience could be found in the following links. http://www:ixlincorporated.com https://www.facebook.com/david.nair.98 https://davidnairblog.wordpress.com/ http://in.linkedin.com/pub/david-nair/21/219/739

Human Being or Being Humane?

What does it take to be #Humane?

1. Being Humane is an ability to show great #compassion, #consideration, #care and #kindness for others

2. Being Humane is an ability to alleviate another’s #suffering

3. Being Humane is an ability to have #empathy for people suffering and in #distress

Before we can practice being humane, we need to live and walk these traits within us

• If we do not know what they are?
• If we do not have those traits how do we practice them?
• How do we do the “talk the talk” without doing the walk the walk

That’s why I keep saying and hold steadfast on this opinion –

1. People do things incorrectly because they don’t know ( I experienced it when I first came to India in 1998, took a number of years to understand, appreciate and work in passing the baton in up skilling them rather than getting annoyed for not meeting the standard. Once shown they Soared like Eagle.)

2. They are too shameful to admit that they don’t know.

3. They lack exposure

Hence we should not assume anything – it’s like putting a young child through kindergarten and starting its education with the 3R’s.


Similarly, we need this steamrolled across all communities.

 How? (STA)

#Show what it takes to be humane
 #Tell how it’s practiced
 #Act on it in real life


As I mentioned in my video recently — work on our self outwards. (Check my YouTube link here)  

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNuZ7HYPrzJbg5FYcM49ERg?sub_confirmation=1

See how it impacts — from you to your inner influence circle, intermediate influence circle, and outer influence circle …..

The best way to step up and conquer this mammoth challenge of #RACISM — is through drip-feed #EXPOSURE

David Nair
 
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Posted by on July 2, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

God-given Potential

Find the answer within…

For you have God-given potential 

Find the answer…

From three platforms…

Nothing beats Silence for that’s where the answer to all resides…. train yourself to get into this state

Nothing beats Reading for its home to solutions found from others expression, experience and education.

Nothing beats Association power of an inner circle core of minds for its home to strengthening and manifesting their common purpose; spending time mulling over the sizzle – the drawing power is in the sizzle, not the fire, talking round campfire where wisdom was passed from elders to upcoming elders, just talking, sharing, sketching, reflective is nurturing that purpose…

Some days I enrich from all three domains,

Some days from two

Some days from one…

Every day I would at least enrich from one domain… 

Yesterday and for quite some time now, I am grateful to have had all three domains to fill my hunger ( 3 meals a day) 

At times there would only be two meals or sometimes one meal – worry not for that’s your time of fasting, Building the reserve during winter months for summer…

Universe Bless (Om – On meditative mood)

Cheers,

David Nair

 
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Posted by on June 26, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

FLOW & LONGEVITY

A variety of bromides in bloom in our garden, as we head into winter….!

Interesting? Strange? 

Are the plants too affected by our current crisis?

For it to bloom during winter? 

Love to see this section of the garden in full bloom

As mentioned in my telecasted discourse “Flow & Longevity” with Meera Nair…

The power of working and feeling nature especially something you have put time and effort into nurturing.

Helps with the build of one’s serotonin levels – the Mood Stabilizer

Connect with David in the “IXL My Ten Minutes Challenge” community through this link

https://www.facebook.com/groups/205273631118891/ for more on:

  • The Love Hormone
  • The Pain Killer
  • The Reward Chemical

Click on the below link to check out my recent discourse with Meera Nair about “Flow and Longevity”

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNuZ7HYPrzJbg5FYcM49ERg?sub_confirmation=1

Cheers,

David Nair

 
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Posted by on June 8, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

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Morning Routines

The world is saturated with calls for people to do daily rituals; to the point that many are saying enough is enough! Some are saying, what is so special about daily rituals? Why should we do them?

My call on this subject is quite simple. Why the need for rituals and Why do we have them?

Each of us, in this life, is given a precious gift by our Creator–Our BREATH of life. What we do with that life is our gift back to that Creator. We could return to the creator on a tray our work for the day.

How would your performance be if we measured it on a scale of 1 to 10? Would it be a 4, 6, 8, or even a 9 out of 10? For our performance to be at the higher end of the continuum, we need to have some cutting-edge practices.

It is interesting to observe like any sport when we apply these cutting-edge practices, huge dynamic shifts happen to the outcome that we put through. Hence, we could put a higher, more effective excellent performance on that tray in our next offering back to that Creator.

This cutting-edge practice, we commonly refer to as Daily Rituals.

It has also been proven that these rituals when performed at a specific time during the day, release a better outcome. Many, who understand this philosophy, do not go against this flow, instead work with it to achieve the best in performance.

We at IXL Academy promote three levels of Rituals– Basic (30 mins), Intermediate (60 mins), and advance (90 mins). The practices are discussed and worked, by our members in the Facebook Group. “IXL My Ten Minute Challenge”

Click on the link below to join in this amazing community.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/205273631118891/

Cheers,
David Nair.

 
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Posted by on June 3, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

Mentoring and Coaching

Such sustainable long-term links are built with care and nurture. Not a wham bang quickie in making a buck or in duping people by not standing to your word… what else is valuable?

It’s amazing to wade through the stories of the scramble up the ladder, done by many, who strife for personal gains in momentary, relationship, health, family matters. Always remember the nail hammered into a log will always leave an unfilled hole. Does not matter under which mushroom the culprit will hide, the universe will in time catch up and resolve.

Your integrity becomes your baseline – all else is immaterial. Does not matter how this malpractice is camouflaged their conscience will always haunt them.

“All because of a momentary lapse of emotional competence in making the wrong decision, the spat of anger, anxiety, or listen to the inexperienced voice of a friend or relative. Despite the turbulent time, the key was in the word “communicate”

The art to communicate 

Always remember this,

Communication in any relationship is like blood to live.

You take blood away, what happens to Life?

It dies

You take communication away from a relationship, what happens to the relationship

It dies …

“Life will never be the same again”

David Nair

 
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Posted by on May 27, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

Ramzan from the Eye of a Malaysian

Hari Raya Puasa as they call it in Malaysia or Eid al-Fitr is the “Festival of Breaking the Fast” commonly referred to as EID, a religious day celebrated by Muslims worldwide that marks the end of the month-long dawn-to-sunset fasting of Ramadan. Many Muslims attend communal prayers, listen to a khutba (sermon) and give zakat al-Fitr (charity in the form of food) during Eid al-Fitr.

Love to share some of the festive mood swings, dos & treats that happen in ASEAN countries in particular Malaysia during this festive period.

The words ‘Hari Raya’ mean ‘day of celebration, to some Hari Raya Puasa is often mistaken to be the Muslim New Year but it is not, instead it marks the end of the month of Ramadan preparations for the Festival of the Breaking of the Fast

The Spirit of Hari Raya

In these South East Asian Countries, of Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand, Indonesia, and the Philippines where there are many Muslims, Hari Raya preparations in a Multicultural Society as Malaysia, the mood of this festive becomes visible from about one month prior to Ramzan.

A variety of delicacies to break their fast.

In each suburb, night Street markets come alive, the place is lit up with glittering lights. where varieties of savory food and sweets are made available for Muslims to purchase and take how to break their fast, whilst non-Muslims purchase and savor the varieties of their favorite flavor of food, at the street side outlet.

Celebrations

During Ramadan. Women start to sew beautiful curtains and buy new clothes for the family.

A family breaking their fast during the fasting period.

Some families also do renovation so that their home will look better when any guests visit it during the festival. After fulfilling their month-long fast, the Muslims are joyful to celebrate Hari Raya Puasa.

On the morning of the festival, the Muslims wear their new clothes and go to the mosque to pray. They offer their thanks to Allah (God) and ask for forgiveness from their elders, relatives, friends, work colleagues, business associates for whatever wrong they had done over the last year. They feel the need (a wonderful practice to be imbibed in their life) to ask for forgiveness, during this period is an important part of the Ramzan ritual.

On the day, they also visit their relatives and friends to celebrate the happy occasion. Being in a Multi-cultural society, with numerous race and religious practices that blend in creating that unique tapestry of Life. A unique fabric of a community.

During this period, it’s an open house for friends, work, and business colleagues to visit the homes of Muslim families that they know and be part of this celebration. The opportunity to taste a wide variety of delicious spicy dishes. Some favorite dishes that can be found in Muslim homes on this special occasion are ketupat, lontong, nasi padang, and beef rendang. The Muslims also have the habit of giving packets of money to kids when they go visiting. The packets are usually green, and children often look forward to getting these money tokens on Hari Raya Puasa.

A family enjoying Hari Raya with India & Chinese friends

Life in Kampong (Village)

The week prior to Hari Raya, many start their journey home to their villages, in India commonly referred to as their native, in Malaysia its referred to as Balik Kampung

The ambiance of Hari Raya is totally different celebrating it from a kampong. A once in a lifetime experience.

Hope you enjoyed reading this!
David Nair.

 
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Posted by on May 26, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

Hurt, Pain, Sa𝗰𝗿𝗶𝗳𝗶𝗰𝗲 & 𝗚𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗱𝗲- Moments to Ponder, during Easter

Weaving through the tapestry of Life during Holy Weekend the lead up to it are great annual moments to ponder over and introspect. Amazing revelations unfold and if the umbilical link is there with your Coaches & Mentors for a discourse, then it is even more impactful.  

Little did I realize at the age 14,leaving the comforts of a home in Malaysia and thrown into the wilderness to scramble and climb the rungs of the ladder of Life, there is a “Sine Curve journey’ of peaks and troughs waiting. 

In each of those times of being thrown into the swimming pool, (as my 7th coach Gerry would say) there will always be a tsunami breakthrough – a light bulb moment when you climb out of the pool.
Yes, for me, there have been great moments of achievements, joy, happiness and just as many moments of sadness and pain – the journey.

Little did I realize at 14, I would have had the privilege and opportunity to have worked with hundreds of thousands of people over 3 decades… and seen some of their success and failure journey. 

Out of that, you see a trend of those that have scaled the heights of “their”Success and others are still struggling. These two groups of people have identical traits but different in their approach leading to miles apart outcomes. 

This raises a myriad of questions…

Why do good things happen to good people? 

Why do bad things happen to good people?

Why do bad things happen to bad people? 

Why does the world have so much pain?

The endless list of why’s 

The most painful, is to watch people with huge potential, being swayed by the wind – in search for a short cut to their success. Their impatience gets the better of them and unfortunately some take the unscrupulous route with their impetuous hope of making it big in a short time span without putting in the required effort.

Success is inevitably only with the right ingredients. There is no shortcut to a shortcut success.  Even more painful, is to watch the many that bite on the hand that provides them their milk as feed, for the day. The person with the bitten hand would ask why? The answer is simple. Leave them with enough rope to hang, as the universe laws will always balance the ledger weather it is this generation, the next or thereafter.

Unfortunately for some, years could flow by, before they realize they had taken the wrong turn on their road to success and are still a wondering minstrel in search of success – happiness? Probably the solution could have been for them to have gone in search for help from others or a coach.    

Grateful, that I was in a good position to have had the support and guidance of a coach from an early stage. Totally grateful to all 14 Coachers that helped me get to where I am today. I would not know which road I would have taken if it was not for them. Thank You from the bottom of my heart to those Coachers. 

For me, it has never been a question of faith, instead one of choice, and how best to execute it. “Destiny is a matter of Choice, not Chance”.  

There are some things that I had just known just naturally, it comes from within – Internalized. These were automatically triggered as I journey through my day, with my faith. A life of its own, with absolute certainty, and clarity for the outcome that I had mapped out.

Religion to me is manmade, but I strongly adhere to its values, baseline, codes its teachings. Whether you are a Christian, a Muslim, a Hindu, a Buddhist, a Jain, or whatever religiously following, they all have similar values, as reflected in the Koran, Gita, Tripitaka, and the Bible. I was brought up as a Christian, hence follow its values – My faith is Crystal clear with identical values that are reflected across in other religions. 

Each one of us have the choice and nobody has the right to judge someone else’s belief.

Just like some celebrate Ramazan, Judaism, Passover and many other religious beliefs, Christians celebrate Easter – the Resurrection on last Sunday, we celebrate in worship, in party and in family, the overcoming of “death”.

Imagine that, not fearing death and instead choosing eternity. What a breakthrough? 

This is different for everyone, and as I stood amongst hundreds celebrating victory, I remembered the words of the rapper Maclemore:

“Whatever God you believe in.

We all come from the same one.”

Hmmm, is it not startling to see what Man-made silos have created – the religion that many out their practice, imbibe the following Values: –

#Do unto others what you would like others do unto you

#Your word is sacrosanct 

# There is an endless list of flow on values 

These religious fundamentals have evolved over time, 40 + billion years. Not developed over night. 

If you are a believer of the Abbah, Allah, God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, Jehovah, Universe or any other, to abide by the base value is what distinguishes you from the rest of Animal Kingdom – you have beliefs, you have values and you believe in God, 

Always remember when you break past that VALUE, tearing it apart by not sticking to your words, the whole fabric of what you build crumbles. You do not have to go far, just turn the pages of history and reflect. It’s unfortunate that scar of illicit behavior will not ever disappear. It is like a nail being hammered into a fence post …. even if you pull that nail off the post, that hole will be their Ad Infinitum. 

Whatever hurt, damage you had done to another it will be there, can’t be erased?

Many having experienced,greater trails & tribulations, this Easter more than any other, the suffering & pain of millions from various parts of the globe. A world that has gone crazy, we need as much, ️ as we can give, we receive, not excusing the wrong doer instead bring them to the fore otherwise that toxicity will spread like wildfire. 

I wish you celebrations of joy and love, knowing that we have been created to be powerful beyond belief and assured that there is something greater for us all, leaving behind a legacy of goodness that others will benefit, without scrambling over them but in love. 

I pray you find a way to tap into your potential and Master it in every way. 

A Blessed Easter to you and your family ️

God Bless 

David Nair

 
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Posted by on April 12, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

A time to Plough, a time to Sow, a time to Harvest…..

For that Moment, be the Touch.

The journey through life is akin to planting a crop for Harvest – ploughing, sowing and reaping…. Instead, many look for a shortcut…. I keep saying there is no shortcut to a short cut…This is the shortcut – plough, sow and reap….

One cannot make curd in an hour, it needs to be kept overnight for it to ferment. A child is not born in a day or a month (unless a premature baby) It takes twelve months for the gestation period.
Similarly, anything that we do, takes that gestation period….
It all starts with the almighty “I”

When the “I” is right inside and outside, the seed for self-achievement starts with planting it, watering it, keeping the weeds and birds away, nurturing it, for a period before the fruit is ready for harvest.

Many miss the boat in understanding this congruency, between the “inside” and the “outside”. Of the “I”

Many set their dreams and goals. They try working hard at it but fall short of achieving that goal. After repeated attempts, their self-image goes for a toss and the “Big D” – Domino Effect comes to play…All because of the lack of understanding the environment that the goal seed is planted is misaligned.

Many loose perspectives of this temple within us “I”. Unknowingly, we treat this temple, whatever way we want, we let rubbish pile up in and around it – we let unscreened thoughts float in and out, influences from our past, current and future. Many just treat it as it is, what comes, let it come, what goes, let it go, with no filters…. then we expect this body, mind and soul to perform at its peak…. Will it? you know the answer to this question.

So, what do we do about it? How do we correct that path?

Commonly referred to as the process man, I could easily lay out the process for change here, the steps in detail for what it takes to transform for where you are to where you want to be…. Instead I would extend an invitation to you to come and taste what we have to offer, for that transformation… Details will follow in our subsequent campaigns…

As so succinctly put by Jim Rohn,
“The greatest form of maturity is at harvest time. This is when we must learn how to reap without complaint if the amounts are small and how to reap without apology if the amounts are big.”

Through our I XL Personal Effectiveness Mastery, we will guide you, how to Sow, where, how and what to Plant, how to care and nurture that Plant until harvest time. Once Harvest is completed we will also guide you how to rejoice at harvest time, how to anchor on that achievement to step up to the next crop to be harvested….

Have a wonderful life… David Nair

 
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Posted by on September 13, 2018 in IXL Personal Mastery

 

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The Kick that stings!!!!

BABY giraffes never go to school. But they do learn a very important lesson rather early in life. The birth of a baby giraffe is quite an earth-shaking event.

The baby falls from its mother’s womb, some eight feet above the ground. It shrivels up and lies still, too weak to move. The mother giraffe lovingly lowers her neck to smooch the baby giraffe. And then something incredible happens. She lifts her long leg and kicks the baby giraffe, sending it flying up in the air and tumbling down on the ground.

As the baby lies curled up, the mother kicks the baby again and again until the baby giraffe, still trembling and tired, pushes its limbs and for the first time learns to stand on its feet. Happy to see the baby standing on its own feet, the mother giraffe comes over and gives it yet another kick. The baby giraffe falls one more time, but now quickly recovers and stands up.

Mama Giraffe is delighted. She knows that her baby has learnt an important lesson:
Never mind how hard you fall, always remember to pick yourself up and get back on your feet.

Why does the mother giraffe do this? She knows that lions and leopards love giraffe meat. So unless the baby giraffe quickly learns to stand and run with the pack – it will have no chance of survival.

Most of us though are not quite as lucky as baby giraffes. No one teaches us to really stand up every time we fall. In most cases when we fail, when we are down, we just give up. No one kicks us out of our comfort zone to remind us that to survive and succeed, we need to learn to get back on our feet.

People are contended to envelop themselves in their cocoon of lives and dread venturing out of that comfort zone. Sometimes it takes a shift, a kick or whatever to break that pattern. In most cases it needs that Guru, that Coach, that Mentor…..to create that Break Through, the rest becomes history.

 

 
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Posted by on September 12, 2018 in IXL Personal Mastery

 

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Paradigm shift in Confidence Building

In one of my Campus 2 Corporate (C2C) programs, we had the following incident happen. As part of that session, everyone had to do a 3 minute presentation in front of the class. There was one guy, who came up to the front and just froze. He stood there staring for a while, and next minute he urinated on the floor. The FEAR !!! Call it what ever you want. This did create an upheaval and embarrassment for him and for the rest in the class. The cleaning ladies were called in to mop, clean and disinfect the floor. Subsequently, we proceeded with the segment, leaving the participant out on his presentation.  At the end of the day, I spent personal 1 on 1 time with the participant – asking if he wanted to overcome that anxiety, that fear, that embarassment, that, that, that endless list of Self Image concerns and issues. I also made it emphatically clear to him, there is a lot of work, and if he is prepared to dig into it for the outcome. His response was a resounding YES!!!

I laid out a POA.  (plan of action) – which he had to practice three times daily. In addition, worked on his steps to “Confidence builder exercise”. We will be covering that in the next segment of this course. The details will be disclosed there. Now he went and practiced on it. I meet with him once a month but talk to him over phone at least once a week. After six months of this intense work by the participant, this was the outcome….

Whilst I was conducting a “Change Management Program” (CMP) for the same company, with their senior management team, this guy knew that I was on campus, he came to the training room and knocked on the training room door and said I want to share an achievement that hapened this week Although I was in the middle of a session I took a few minutes off, as the other participants, in the CMP, was working on a case study exercise, and was briefed on his success.

On hearing the success of what he had done, I felt it appropriate for him to share his story to his superiors in the room. His triumph needed to be shared and recognized such that he could anchor on that for his future step up’s…. One of the seniors in the room was his immediate manager and that managers VP was also present. He got to share his success story.

For the last four months he was practicing on his presentation skills. He was a very good domain expert but interactive, networking and presentation skills were as low as a pregnant ant…

Early in that week, he did a solo presentation to his team in Pan India and the US. They said his presentation was fantastic and well summed with the key points for delivery, so much so, that they were going to table it to the tech committee in US, without any modification such that they could forward it on to the other stakeholders. So, as a payoff, I suggested he shared his success story to the group of managers present in the room, which he did, the managers were over the moon on such an achievement, in four months. His manager too substantiated the outcome by congratulating him and said the team and he had been to lunch as a reward for the effort.

I emphasized, this was a lesson for Mangers in the room too. Always understand the need for recognition…. “My nesting story to the primary story was – “Babies cry for recognition, adults will die for it.” We need to know how to caress, our teams for them to perform at a level better than where they currently are sitting

Now fast forward this story, 9 years –  that person today, is an Assistant VP of logistics with another organization and his confidence is say the least – Overflowing.

Have a Fabulous Day. Cheers David Nair

 

 
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Posted by on September 11, 2018 in IXL Personal Mastery

 

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