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David, a Mentor, NLP Life Coach & Corporate Trainer to many. David's DEFINITE MAJOR PURPOSE (DMP) is to make a mindset shift in 1 million minds to stretch that little more in each of us, thereby contributing towards a better world for all of us and generations to come..... The Books, CD's, DVD's & Video's a man/women reads, sees and hears, maketh the person. The People he/she Associates with, grooms that person for Life. David's detailed experience could be found in the following links. http://www:ixlincorporated.com https://www.facebook.com/david.nair.98 https://davidnairblog.wordpress.com/ http://in.linkedin.com/pub/david-nair/21/219/739

A time to Plough, a time to Sow, a time to Harvest…..

For that Moment, be the Touch.

The journey through life is akin to planting a crop for Harvest – ploughing, sowing and reaping…. Instead, many look for a shortcut…. I keep saying there is no shortcut to a short cut…This is the shortcut – plough, sow and reap….

One cannot make curd in an hour, it needs to be kept overnight for it to ferment. A child is not born in a day or a month (unless a premature baby) It takes twelve months for the gestation period.
Similarly, anything that we do, takes that gestation period….
It all starts with the almighty “I”

When the “I” is right inside and outside, the seed for self-achievement starts with planting it, watering it, keeping the weeds and birds away, nurturing it, for a period before the fruit is ready for harvest.

Many miss the boat in understanding this congruency, between the “inside” and the “outside”. Of the “I”

Many set their dreams and goals. They try working hard at it but fall short of achieving that goal. After repeated attempts, their self-image goes for a toss and the “Big D” – Domino Effect comes to play…All because of the lack of understanding the environment that the goal seed is planted is misaligned.

Many loose perspectives of this temple within us “I”. Unknowingly, we treat this temple, whatever way we want, we let rubbish pile up in and around it – we let unscreened thoughts float in and out, influences from our past, current and future. Many just treat it as it is, what comes, let it come, what goes, let it go, with no filters…. then we expect this body, mind and soul to perform at its peak…. Will it? you know the answer to this question.

So, what do we do about it? How do we correct that path?

Commonly referred to as the process man, I could easily lay out the process for change here, the steps in detail for what it takes to transform for where you are to where you want to be…. Instead I would extend an invitation to you to come and taste what we have to offer, for that transformation… Details will follow in our subsequent campaigns…

As so succinctly put by Jim Rohn,
“The greatest form of maturity is at harvest time. This is when we must learn how to reap without complaint if the amounts are small and how to reap without apology if the amounts are big.”

Through our I XL Personal Effectiveness Mastery, we will guide you, how to Sow, where, how and what to Plant, how to care and nurture that Plant until harvest time. Once Harvest is completed we will also guide you how to rejoice at harvest time, how to anchor on that achievement to step up to the next crop to be harvested….

Have a wonderful life… David Nair

 
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Posted by on September 13, 2018 in IXL Personal Mastery

 

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The Kick that stings!!!!

BABY giraffes never go to school. But they do learn a very important lesson rather early in life. The birth of a baby giraffe is quite an earth-shaking event.

The baby falls from its mother’s womb, some eight feet above the ground. It shrivels up and lies still, too weak to move. The mother giraffe lovingly lowers her neck to smooch the baby giraffe. And then something incredible happens. She lifts her long leg and kicks the baby giraffe, sending it flying up in the air and tumbling down on the ground.

As the baby lies curled up, the mother kicks the baby again and again until the baby giraffe, still trembling and tired, pushes its limbs and for the first time learns to stand on its feet. Happy to see the baby standing on its own feet, the mother giraffe comes over and gives it yet another kick. The baby giraffe falls one more time, but now quickly recovers and stands up.

Mama Giraffe is delighted. She knows that her baby has learnt an important lesson:
Never mind how hard you fall, always remember to pick yourself up and get back on your feet.

Why does the mother giraffe do this? She knows that lions and leopards love giraffe meat. So unless the baby giraffe quickly learns to stand and run with the pack – it will have no chance of survival.

Most of us though are not quite as lucky as baby giraffes. No one teaches us to really stand up every time we fall. In most cases when we fail, when we are down, we just give up. No one kicks us out of our comfort zone to remind us that to survive and succeed, we need to learn to get back on our feet.

People are contended to envelop themselves in their cocoon of lives and dread venturing out of that comfort zone. Sometimes it takes a shift, a kick or whatever to break that pattern. In most cases it needs that Guru, that Coach, that Mentor…..to create that Break Through, the rest becomes history.

 

 
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Posted by on September 12, 2018 in IXL Personal Mastery

 

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Paradigm shift in Confidence Building

In one of my Campus 2 Corporate (C2C) programs, we had the following incident happen. As part of that session, everyone had to do a 3 minute presentation in front of the class. There was one guy, who came up to the front and just froze. He stood there staring for a while, and next minute he urinated on the floor. The FEAR !!! Call it what ever you want. This did create an upheaval and embarrassment for him and for the rest in the class. The cleaning ladies were called in to mop, clean and disinfect the floor. Subsequently, we proceeded with the segment, leaving the participant out on his presentation.  At the end of the day, I spent personal 1 on 1 time with the participant – asking if he wanted to overcome that anxiety, that fear, that embarassment, that, that, that endless list of Self Image concerns and issues. I also made it emphatically clear to him, there is a lot of work, and if he is prepared to dig into it for the outcome. His response was a resounding YES!!!

I laid out a POA.  (plan of action) – which he had to practice three times daily. In addition, worked on his steps to “Confidence builder exercise”. We will be covering that in the next segment of this course. The details will be disclosed there. Now he went and practiced on it. I meet with him once a month but talk to him over phone at least once a week. After six months of this intense work by the participant, this was the outcome….

Whilst I was conducting a “Change Management Program” (CMP) for the same company, with their senior management team, this guy knew that I was on campus, he came to the training room and knocked on the training room door and said I want to share an achievement that hapened this week Although I was in the middle of a session I took a few minutes off, as the other participants, in the CMP, was working on a case study exercise, and was briefed on his success.

On hearing the success of what he had done, I felt it appropriate for him to share his story to his superiors in the room. His triumph needed to be shared and recognized such that he could anchor on that for his future step up’s…. One of the seniors in the room was his immediate manager and that managers VP was also present. He got to share his success story.

For the last four months he was practicing on his presentation skills. He was a very good domain expert but interactive, networking and presentation skills were as low as a pregnant ant…

Early in that week, he did a solo presentation to his team in Pan India and the US. They said his presentation was fantastic and well summed with the key points for delivery, so much so, that they were going to table it to the tech committee in US, without any modification such that they could forward it on to the other stakeholders. So, as a payoff, I suggested he shared his success story to the group of managers present in the room, which he did, the managers were over the moon on such an achievement, in four months. His manager too substantiated the outcome by congratulating him and said the team and he had been to lunch as a reward for the effort.

I emphasized, this was a lesson for Mangers in the room too. Always understand the need for recognition…. “My nesting story to the primary story was – “Babies cry for recognition, adults will die for it.” We need to know how to caress, our teams for them to perform at a level better than where they currently are sitting

Now fast forward this story, 9 years –  that person today, is an Assistant VP of logistics with another organization and his confidence is say the least – Overflowing.

Have a Fabulous Day. Cheers David Nair

 

 
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Posted by on September 11, 2018 in IXL Personal Mastery

 

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Thoughts – The Building Blocks of our Life!

Our thoughts build our personality, character and lives.  Our thoughts determine what we are and what we will be in future. Many do not understand the seriousness of this concept, as we live in an era where proof is required for all things before it is accepted.

Religions, philosophers, great thinkers, and high achievers affirm that we are actually the materialization of our thoughts, and these thoughts are our building blocks to our life.

Buddha reflects, ‘All matter is the manifestation of thought’

The Bible quotes, ‘As a Man thinketh so is he’

In Gita, the manifestation of thought into action, this is the Form of the Formless …. The nearest equivalent word in English is ‘Righteousness‘.

Koran says, man directly experiences will, intelligence, and thought within his …. of attributes and characteristics and thus be the equivalent of the purposeful. …

Hence, thoughts built upon thoughts, built upon more thoughts, create the life we live. As put succinctly by George Sala, “Thoughts engender thoughts, the more you think, the better you will express yourself.”

Emerson’s perspective is that the thoughts rule the world. He goes on to say that the mind does not hold any thought. Interesting? As soon as a thought originates in the mind, it is immediately converted into power. Science today has proven that every thought is a wave, an electromagnetic wave. So, thought is converted into power. What power? PERSONAL POWER that can either make you or break you.

It is commonly referred that men of action are, after all, only the unconscious instrument of the men of thought.

Thoughts in addition to forming the building blocks of life, are the root source of personal power and it is through thought, that we attain personal success.

One of Dr Norman Vincent Pearl’s mantra is ‘Think Success, Visualize Success, and you will set in motion the power force of the realizable wish.’ When this mental picture is strongly held, it actually controls condition, circumstances and creates the environment to germinate that thought into reality.

Just like an apple seed planted in the ground. The soil needs to be tilled, weeds and debris need to be removed, it has to be watered, fertilized, cared and nurtured and only then the seed will germinate and grow into a tree that will bear thousands of apples in its lifetime. The same applies to thought, with a difference, it has a greater rate of return on investment, it carves our entire life, shapes our destiny, makes us what we are.

But how many of us nurture and create that ambience, that environment, for that thought to flourish. This I shall be covering in our future articles, Forthcoming book “Purpose” and in our “I XL Personal Excellence Mastery.” programs. 

To quote from one of the Mystic Yogi’s,

 Music means various types of sounds

When they’re in Tune it becomes Music

Out of tune it becomes noise.

The same with YOU

If all the different ingredients of who you are is in tune,

You are like music; out of tune you become noise

Our mind reverberates in the same form, Music or Noise…. We need to master the art to control our mind and direct it with that SINGLENESS OF Purpose.

We will in our I XL Personal Excellence Mastery” program, synchronize “the noise / music” within each of us, and in so doing, channelize over time the Definiteness of Purpose that we strive to constantly manifest matter from our thoughts.

Come, join us and experience this incredible journey through our program and forthcoming book.

Register now: ixlincorporated.com 

To your Ultimate Success,

David Nair

 
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Posted by on August 22, 2018 in Thoughts

 

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To Scale Up, Coach Up……. Power in a Coach

Wow…. The best of the best and one of the world’s most wealthiest man (Bill Gates) with about 75 Billion dollars under his belt, has a coach / an advisor in his financial matters (Larsdon)…. Tony Robbins, the worlds most sort after coach has a coach. who gets paid (very well might I say) for advice…. some understand the true value of what it takes to pay for the right advise.

So what’s stopping our up and coming budding… employee, analyst, managers, VP, to grasp this idea and work diligently towards a balanced wealthy life with the help of a coach? Their lack of understand of what the coach can do and does for the individual. Just as in sport a coach helps fine tune the athlete in his / her performance, similarly in life or any matters of life a coach helps fine tune that aspect of it for the individual. In some countries this concept of coaching for life performance is still at its infancy. Many who pluck up enough courage to ask, feel its normal and ok to do so, without considering to pay of that service.

Basically it is proprietary right, knowledge / experience and applicability of that wisdom that gets that coach to provide the prudent advise. the more mature markets of the west have had this concept of seeking advise / support from  a coach and paying for it…. In some of the less mature market of self development, and despite the fact that they heard of the term they do not engage a coach for guiding them through specific matters of life be it personal or professional. Instead they approach their friend, their neighbor etc…. That’s good, but many lack the foresight to understand, in most cases that friend or neighbor is earning just as much as the individual seeking the advise. The question then is how can someone earning the same level of income, or, have the same experience help that individual to earn (50 or 100) % more – that individual will not have that process mentally such that they could provide the right guidance.

With a Coach, their Return on Investment would be far greater than asking a peer, similar level friend, a person with similar exposure? simple question to ask of oneself…. would you approach a GP doctor to perform a cardiac surgery, or would you approach a cardiologist, similarly would we ask a person earning Rs 30K to provide advice on how to earn Rs 1L. The answer goes without saying… a resounding No. Then why is it when it comes to Life matters (Career movement, Financial Growth, Recreational & Social Growth, Spiritually growth) do we fall back and accept the unacceptable. Many would remark, It’s only Life!….. When we treat Life that way, Life knows no better but to return that back to us…. the way we treat that LIFE. (the true understanding of the Law of Attraction)

This is primary caused due to lack of awareness, lack of exposure, lack of understand … what the power of a coach can do… It’s a MINDSET Shift … It does take some time for this switch to happen mentally. To understand, it is ok to ask for advice and ok to appropriately reimburse for it, and not be hurdled by upbringing or culturally norms…. that if one asks. what would other think of me…

The culture of Coaching and paying for it in some developing countries is still in its infancy…. When this is understood, the exponential, holistic growth that transpires is priceless. World Look out then.

“To Scale Up, Coach Up”

For further directional support and guidance, you are welcome to reach out to us or contact David Nair at davidnairixl@gmail.com

Cheers

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Posted by on March 7, 2018 in Coaching, General

 

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Self Motivation

We can wallow in self pity and suck our thumb, crying ‘poor little me‘ and live with that syndrome or work on getting that mental resilience to combat, and live the life possible… on you Shalini …. 👍WhatsApp Image 2018-02-13 at 9.18.13 PM

Extract of msg from Shalini….
* Courage.*

When I arrived to have my legs amputated, I was wearing bright purple nail polish on my feet. Might as well go out in style, I figured. A month had passed since my right arm decided to auto-amputate, just dropping off into my brother-in-law’s hands. A few months before that, my left arm had been amputated as well. Now it was time to move on.

I had been a successful 32-year-old, doing well at work, happily married and newly pregnant. I was just back from a vacation in Cambodia and reveling in ticking one off the bucket list when I fell sick with a fever. It all began rather innocently. And then it escalated, and how. Fever became organ failure. Organ failure became a brush with death. Months later, I had lost both my arms and legs to a bacterial infection that the doctor had heard of only in his exam.

I raged. I was angry and hurt and upset. Why did this happen to me? What had I done wrong? I thought it was karma, but I couldn’t think of anything I had done this wrong. But finally, I decided it was time to move on.

And so I ran. In the beginning, it was just to lose weight and get fit, but the challenge was addictive. When I run, I feel like I win over my body. I can look back at Destiny and swear at how wrong it was about me. It didn’t win. I still get to call the shots. My life, my decisions, my dreams; limbs or no limbs.

Motivational Speakers

 

 
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Posted by on February 22, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

Two finger value…

Soft Skill Development in Chennai

 

Two finger value

What A wonderful metaphor …..

What and Who we choose to surround ourself truly determines our value….

The best guidance our mums used to give us, pull us away firm certain friends and encourage us to hang out with certain friends… we never questioned why? Indirectly we were selecting / screening our friends back then…. do we do that now that we are adults ???
A point worthy to ponder over.

A wise mentor Jim Rohn once said, show me your friends and I can within a $100 tell you what your bank account balance is….

be mindful of your association Power and select them wisely..

 
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Posted by on February 19, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

Importance of Motivation in Life

Capture1The true power within a person is drawn out by external interventions guided by a coach or mentor.. it’s only in the recent years that this support structure has come to the fore particularly so in the sporting fraternity…

Interesting to also note for shifts to happen, one needs to have their back to the wall – in a do or die situation… as had happened here the partial transformation was guided by F’s coach…. the real immersion took place, when F on realising the required shift in Behaviour had to happen, for him to step up further, he took responsibility and moved forward… (note in a lot of cases it’s not the technique of the serve, the return serve, or the smash, that matters instead it’s BEHAVIOUR) …….

In today’s constant changing world, the power of Coaching / Mentoring is priceless…. the sporting fraternity has got this under their belt. The Corporate fraternity is still testing the water to see if it is cold, luke warm or hot….

In the last few years we have been involved with multiple companies from Banking, IT, Telecommunication,  Pharma and Manufacturing and have found those that have taken the development of their primary asset (People) seriously are light years ahead of others…

‘Build People to Build Organisations’

 
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Posted by on February 14, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

Power of the Unconscious Mind

I had a mentor who kept drilling into me, to make the unconscious mind our “best ally.” Initially I scoffed at the idea and thought that mentor had lost it, and with age, was out of this planet. Little did I realize how naive I was, to the power of the unconscious….

Unconscious

Over time and repeated guidance… its full power had unfolded…. So much so that I have experienced in many cases, by communicating to the unconscious and when there is total congruency between our states within yourself and the universe, the law manifests itself into being….. Wow to some… yes Wow.

Carl Jung, put it so succinctly , until you make your unconscious, conscious, the conscious will always direct your Life and you will call it FATE…..

I love to share a very simple experience on the above. This happened at 11 am this morning….
As many who have been interacting with me would know that the last 6 weeks since my arrival back into India was packed back to back with sessions, in particular the weekends ….. This coming weekend was the only weekend that I had unbooked.

Unbeknown I got a call from a past senior manager who I had coached some three years ago. Before he commenced the conversation he mentioned it was a con call with a CFO from an IT company in Mumbai. He introduced and following the pleasantries, the CFO indicated his need for specific interventions with his senior executive team….

He proceeded to say they had a fabulous year in revenue and as reward to the team the company is taking the group to Pataya, Thailand. They felt, it would have be of extreme value, if they could spice it with, some self- developmental work.

We proceed to discuss the developmental work, and within 30 minutes of my outlining a brief for intervention, he concurred and accepted that idea for the development of his senior core executives.

Hmmm, so the weekend is now booked… in Pataya Thailand… some work, some sighting seeing some water sport (as Pataya is renowned for it) and back into India, mainstream work on Monday….

To the many they might refer to this as LUCK, but to a few, they know and call it, “Labor under correct knowledge”, or put it bluntly “you make your luck”.

Numerous lessons learnt. Keep ploughing… digging and the harvest will come to fruit elsewhere. Never get bogged down with “the crabs” who like to pull others down to their levels. Never get disheartened, when, an associate from Singapore who rightly pointed out in our discussion yesterday, he had trained his staff and many competitors have head hunted them, or that some of those past staff had taken his clients away from him. As I pointed to this associate, that is normal business, but never to anchor and burden oneself with that baggage, just move on and let the Law of the universe work with you not against you…. That in itself had come home to roost in my case today.

It is interesting, I can now tick another from the list of things that I wanted to be able to have done…. Fly in and Fly out into countries on weekends for programs…. One that was on that list for over 4 years.
Friends, the power in believing in oneself, and setting the sail right for whatever you want, keeping one’s head down, bum up and just beaver at the task on hand…..

Creating SMALL SHIFTS, to GENERATE BIG GAINS.
Have fun doing it.

 
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Posted by on June 11, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

Malaysia 2nd Independence – Bersih 4

I have had many personal queries and comments on my global posts of Bersih sent out during this week. Many have quipped why bring politics into what I promote and stand for in my work with empowerment of people.

Bersih 4Bersih, is not just a street March, It is the tipping point for this nation.

Malaysia has weathered a fabulous journey of growth, prosperity and this is not shown just in the physical infrastructure that surrounds the nation today, but more in its people, a tribe (I felt the urge for a social media term), that is well educated; in country and some have settled in various parts of the world. Many had claimed that brain drain on the country loosing such caliber of people in 60’s, 70’s, 80’s & 90’s, to another country, could have been stopped if ……. (The reasons are numerous – not for this blog).

A tribe with a special type of Comradeship, a twig in its flavor, of how it deals and interacts with people…. That innate flavor (a special blend of the east and the west) is rarely found elsewhere, in the colonized world, Lah! This is one part of what the people are fighting for today, in particular freedom.

The other outcomes expected are:Bersih 4 street rally

• Free & fair elections,
• Transparent government,
• Strengthen the parliamentary system,
• Save the national economy,
• Right to Dissent.

Leaving all of this aside, the last thing we do not want to see is where our parents, migrants from India, China and other parts of the world came to this country with the HOPE of providing something better for their children. They toiled hard and contributed to where we are today and where the nation was in the lime light days. We cannot had over to our children (even if they are living abroad – the homing instinct for Malaysia is there amongst them) a broken nation. Bersih is the unified force to create that change……

Bersih 4 flagMalaysia it’s time for a CHANGE…

It’s time for our 2nd Independence.

I would like to share the views of the former president of the Bar Association in Malaysia and Co – Chairperson of Bersih…. Ambiga Sreenevasan.

Unfortunately the Malaysian Government, yesterday has banned a number of website, in it’s bid to curtail freedom of speech…. This was one site that was targeted by the government. there are other ways to circumvent the hurdle….

 

 
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Posted by on August 29, 2015 in General

 

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