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David, a Mentor, NLP Life Coach & Corporate Trainer to many. David's DEFINITE MAJOR PURPOSE (DMP) is to make a mindset shift in 1 million minds to stretch that little more in each of us, thereby contributing towards a better world for all of us and generations to come..... The Books, CD's, DVD's & Video's a man/women reads, sees and hears, maketh the person. The People he/she Associates with, grooms that person for Life. David's detailed experience could be found in the following links.

Hajj 2021

I am a Christian, an avid reader of scriptures of various religions. I keep abreast with Islam, as a significant per cent of my global friends are Muslims and I am interested in various rituals, activities and celebrations that are performed in Islam and other religions. 
With EID on us, last weekend I was having a discussion, with a few Muslims friends on “Hajj…. The Journey” basically is a demonstration of the solidarity of a person with his creator and his submission to God (Allah).

What is the literal meaning of “The Journey”? 
As one of those in the discussion mentioned, it is an “outward act of a journey, and the Inward act of Intentions”. Put in simple terms, a period of soul searching and internal reflections.

Wow — I thought, the statement was deep …He followed through with his reflection — “I am one of those 60000 lucky fellows who were shortlisted this time for Hajj 2021”. He went on to say, “I request all my near, dear and well-wishers to pray to Allah to accept my hajj.” He concluded by saying, “I also request you all to forget and forgive if wittingly or unwittingly, I have hurt any of you in any way.”

This, soul searching and internally reflections, the Christians do in the form of retreats during Lent, leading up to Easter.

This intrigued me and I felt there was an area of commonality which is what prompted me to write on this subject of HAJJ. I have heard about it a lot, as I grew up in Malaysia with numerous Muslim friends.

What is Hajj and why is it important?

An annual pilgrimage to Mecca that all able Muslims are expected to complete at least once in their lives. Hajj is one of the Five Pillars of Islam and is a sacred event in Islam. Muslims retrace the route as followed by the Prophet Muhammad, Ibrahim, and Ismail, as well as the path that the wife of Ibrahim, Hagar, ran seven times between two hills as she sought water for her dying son. In Islamic belief, Allah created a spring that continues to run to this very day.

It is also believed that this journey allows Muslims to wipe away any sins and wipe the slate clean in front of Allah.

Prior to the Pandemic, this five-day pilgrimage would annually draw around two to three million Muslims. This pilgrimage happens in the last month of the Islamic (lunar) calendar. The journey, Hajj, as mentioned above, is one of the Five Pillars of Islam, and is a sacred event in Islam faith. The other four pillars being Declaration of Faith, Obligatory Prayer, Compulsory Giving and Fasting in the Month of Ramadan.

Who goes on Hajj?

The faith requires every Muslim who is physically able, of sound mind and financially capable to go on Hajj at least once in their lifetime. Those who complete the pilgrimage may add the title of Hajji to their name.

Hajj translates from Arabic as ‘to intend a journey, thus giving the pilgrimage its name. There is no obligation for children to undertake Hajj as they are not yet considered able, just as those under the age of puberty do not observe the fast in Ramadhan.

When 2021, is Hajj?

In 2021, Hajj is due to begin on Saturday 17 July and end on the evening of Thursday 22 July, along with Eid ul-Adha. As the Covid-19 pandemic continues, though, it is uncertain how viable it will be for vast numbers of Muslims to travel for Hajj this year. Due to the Coronavirus pandemic, only 60000 Muslims are allowed for Hajj. This is to respect the social distancing rules.

Pilgrims head to Mina as Hajj 2021 officially begins

Hajj pilgrims streamed out of the holy city of Mecca and into the Mina valley on Sunday, launching the rituals of the great pilgrimage. For the second year running, there is a scaled-down in attendance from 2,5 million to 60000 this year. This is drastically smaller than in normal times, creating resentment among Muslims abroad who are further restricted once again.

What happens on Hajj?

The five-day Hajj occurs during Dhul Hijjah, the 12th and final month. It begins two days prior to Eid ul-Adha and goes through the three-day festival of the sacrifice.

Pilgrims arrive in Mecca for the second Hajj during Covid Pandemic.

On the first day, a smaller pilgrimage (Umrah) takes place in Mecca. This is when Muslims retrace the steps of Hagar between two hills — this is after circling the Kaaba, the building housed in the centre of the Masjid al-Haram which is the most important mosque in Islam faith. Small groups of pilgrims will be performing the “tawaf” at Mecca’s Grand Mosque, circling the Kaaba, a large cubic structure draped in golden — embroidered black cloth towards which Muslims around the world pray. On route to Mecca, some Muslims choose to visit Medina which is where the tomb of the Prophet Muhammad rests. These pilgrims end their day by spending the night in the valley of Mina.

In the high point of the Hajj, worshippers will on Monday climb Mount Arafat. Also known as the “Mount of Mercy”, it is the site where it is believed that the Prophet Muhammad delivered his final sermon. This high point of Hajj sees pilgrims head towards Mount Arafat where they will spend the afternoon. They will also climb the hill, Jabal al-Rahma, (commonly referred to as the “Mount of Mercy”) which is where Prophet Muhammad delivered his final sermon. Worshippers will undertake hours of prayers and Quranic recital.

Later in the day, as the sun sets, the pilgrims will head 5.5 miles west of Arafat to Muzdalifa — and while there is the option of taking a bus, many choose to walk this distance.

After descending the following day, they will gather pebbles and perform the symbolic “stoning of the devil”.

During the next three days, Muslims circle the Kaaba one final time, cast stones (picked up along the walk to Muzdalifa) in Mina, and remove the Ihram (a sacred state Muslims enter to perform the pilgrimage). Men will shave their heads and women cut a lock of hair as a sign of renewal. In addition to completing the Hajj pilgrimage over the three days of Eid ul-Adha, Muslims will carry out the ritual sacrificial slaughter of livestock and distribute shares of meat to the poor, in accordance with Islamic tradition.

A wonderful powerful journey did once in a lifetime. Most of these practices can be done regularly and some days within the confines of one’s own environment and home.

We need to be a person who practices our faith 24/7 and still be living in the NOW.

I have always advocated our relationship with our GOD does not start and stop on a Sunday when the Christians go to church or on a Friday when the Muslims go to Mosque or on the day when the Hindus go to Temple. Instead, it is a 24/7 awareness of ensuring you drive Empowering values of goodness, integrity, kindness etc….

That is practising once religion in the truest of forms. It’s pointless going to church on Sunday or the mosque on Friday or Hajj or the temple, and on coming out of that prayer time, we go all out to contravene what the premises of the religious connection with the god you believe is advocated you do.

David Nair

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Posted by on July 27, 2021 in Uncategorized


Power of Association – whom you hang out with crystallizes your future

The brain’s hard-wiring may have a significant influence on character development. 

It is also true that the “culture” of a neighborhood/environment, plays a critical role. By culture, I mean the prevailing social norms, influential networks, and the behaviors expected by one’s family, friends and associates and colleagues 

Hence interesting to note whom you spend most of your time hanging out with? 

Put bluntly – you hang out with Flies, Liars, Cheats & Looser you become a Fly, Liar, Cheat & Loser.

You hang out with Butterflies, Winners & People with Credibility; you become a butterfly, Winner and a Person of Credibility…

Your Choice, Your Destiny… Your Why! 

Choose Wisely,

David Nair.

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Posted by on July 16, 2021 in Uncategorized



Bit lengthy? An interesting read? all the same….. only for those who carry that streak of humility in them to still class themselves as a student of Life…..

2000 years ago a Tamil Poet / Writer, called Tiruvalluvar wrote a string of well-versed poetry, which in South India is commonly referred to as Tirukkural. 

It touches on various aspects of Human Psychology and Behaviour.

Today, with the advancement in science & technology we seem to be still driving these fundamentals through enhanced learning & development channels.  Amazing to say how relevant those words of wisdom were 2000 years ago….

Some points from the Tirukkural to ponder over ……. Amazing how relevant it is today……

A translated extract from the TIRUKKAL:
 1. If your child lies to you often, it is because you overreact too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.
 2. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them.
 3. If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advise them more than you encourage them.
 4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.
 5. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them chose what they want.
 6. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.
 7. If your child does not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them.
 8. If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehavior and you give little attention to good behavior.
 9. If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when they improve at something even if they don’t successfully complete it.
 10. If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.
 11. If your child is openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.
 12. If your child is secretive, it is because they don’t trust that you won’t blow things out of proportion.
 13. If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think it’s normal behavior.
 14. If your child doesn’t listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions
 15. If your child rebels it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right

Thank You
David Nair

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Posted by on July 8, 2021 in Uncategorized


Human Being or Being Humane?

What does it take to be #Humane?

1. Being Humane is an ability to show great #compassion, #consideration, #care and #kindness for others

2. Being Humane is an ability to alleviate another’s #suffering

3. Being Humane is an ability to have #empathy for people suffering and in #distress

Before we can practice being humane, we need to live and walk these traits within us

• If we do not know what they are?
• If we do not have those traits how do we practice them?
• How do we do the “talk the talk” without doing the walk the walk

That’s why I keep saying and hold steadfast on this opinion –

1. People do things incorrectly because they don’t know ( I experienced it when I first came to India in 1998, took a number of years to understand, appreciate and work in passing the baton in up skilling them rather than getting annoyed for not meeting the standard. Once shown they Soared like Eagle.)

2. They are too shameful to admit that they don’t know.

3. They lack exposure

Hence we should not assume anything – it’s like putting a young child through kindergarten and starting its education with the 3R’s.

Similarly, we need this steamrolled across all communities.

 How? (STA)

#Show what it takes to be humane
 #Tell how it’s practiced
 #Act on it in real life

As I mentioned in my video recently — work on our self outwards. (Check my YouTube link here)

See how it impacts — from you to your inner influence circle, intermediate influence circle, and outer influence circle …..

The best way to step up and conquer this mammoth challenge of #RACISM — is through drip-feed #EXPOSURE

David Nair
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Posted by on July 2, 2021 in Uncategorized


God-given Potential

Find the answer within…

For you have God-given potential 

Find the answer…

From three platforms…

Nothing beats Silence for that’s where the answer to all resides…. train yourself to get into this state

Nothing beats Reading for its home to solutions found from others expression, experience and education.

Nothing beats Association power of an inner circle core of minds for its home to strengthening and manifesting their common purpose; spending time mulling over the sizzle – the drawing power is in the sizzle, not the fire, talking round campfire where wisdom was passed from elders to upcoming elders, just talking, sharing, sketching, reflective is nurturing that purpose…

Some days I enrich from all three domains,

Some days from two

Some days from one…

Every day I would at least enrich from one domain… 

Yesterday and for quite some time now, I am grateful to have had all three domains to fill my hunger ( 3 meals a day) 

At times there would only be two meals or sometimes one meal – worry not for that’s your time of fasting, Building the reserve during winter months for summer…

Universe Bless (Om – On meditative mood)


David Nair

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Posted by on June 26, 2021 in Uncategorized



A variety of bromides in bloom in our garden, as we head into winter….!

Interesting? Strange? 

Are the plants too affected by our current crisis?

For it to bloom during winter? 

Love to see this section of the garden in full bloom

As mentioned in my telecasted discourse “Flow & Longevity” with Meera Nair…

The power of working and feeling nature especially something you have put time and effort into nurturing.

Helps with the build of one’s serotonin levels – the Mood Stabilizer

Connect with David in the “IXL My Ten Minutes Challenge” community through this link for more on:

  • The Love Hormone
  • The Pain Killer
  • The Reward Chemical

Click on the below link to check out my recent discourse with Meera Nair about “Flow and Longevity”


David Nair

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Posted by on June 8, 2021 in Uncategorized


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Morning Routines

The world is saturated with calls for people to do daily rituals; to the point that many are saying enough is enough! Some are saying, what is so special about daily rituals? Why should we do them?

My call on this subject is quite simple. Why the need for rituals and Why do we have them?

Each of us, in this life, is given a precious gift by our Creator–Our BREATH of life. What we do with that life is our gift back to that Creator. We could return to the creator on a tray our work for the day.

How would your performance be if we measured it on a scale of 1 to 10? Would it be a 4, 6, 8, or even a 9 out of 10? For our performance to be at the higher end of the continuum, we need to have some cutting-edge practices.

It is interesting to observe like any sport when we apply these cutting-edge practices, huge dynamic shifts happen to the outcome that we put through. Hence, we could put a higher, more effective excellent performance on that tray in our next offering back to that Creator.

This cutting-edge practice, we commonly refer to as Daily Rituals.

It has also been proven that these rituals when performed at a specific time during the day, release a better outcome. Many, who understand this philosophy, do not go against this flow, instead work with it to achieve the best in performance.

We at IXL Academy promote three levels of Rituals– Basic (30 mins), Intermediate (60 mins), and advance (90 mins). The practices are discussed and worked, by our members in the Facebook Group. “IXL My Ten Minute Challenge”

Click on the link below to join in this amazing community.

David Nair.

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Posted by on June 3, 2021 in Uncategorized


Mentoring and Coaching

Such sustainable long-term links are built with care and nurture. Not a wham bang quickie in making a buck or in duping people by not standing to your word… what else is valuable?

It’s amazing to wade through the stories of the scramble up the ladder, done by many, who strife for personal gains in momentary, relationship, health, family matters. Always remember the nail hammered into a log will always leave an unfilled hole. Does not matter under which mushroom the culprit will hide, the universe will in time catch up and resolve.

Your integrity becomes your baseline – all else is immaterial. Does not matter how this malpractice is camouflaged their conscience will always haunt them.

“All because of a momentary lapse of emotional competence in making the wrong decision, the spat of anger, anxiety, or listen to the inexperienced voice of a friend or relative. Despite the turbulent time, the key was in the word “communicate”

The art to communicate 

Always remember this,

Communication in any relationship is like blood to live.

You take blood away, what happens to Life?

It dies

You take communication away from a relationship, what happens to the relationship

It dies …

“Life will never be the same again”

David Nair

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Posted by on May 27, 2021 in Uncategorized


Ramzan from the Eye of a Malaysian

Hari Raya Puasa as they call it in Malaysia or Eid al-Fitr is the “Festival of Breaking the Fast” commonly referred to as EID, a religious day celebrated by Muslims worldwide that marks the end of the month-long dawn-to-sunset fasting of Ramadan. Many Muslims attend communal prayers, listen to a khutba (sermon) and give zakat al-Fitr (charity in the form of food) during Eid al-Fitr.

Love to share some of the festive mood swings, dos & treats that happen in ASEAN countries in particular Malaysia during this festive period.

The words ‘Hari Raya’ mean ‘day of celebration, to some Hari Raya Puasa is often mistaken to be the Muslim New Year but it is not, instead it marks the end of the month of Ramadan preparations for the Festival of the Breaking of the Fast

The Spirit of Hari Raya

In these South East Asian Countries, of Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand, Indonesia, and the Philippines where there are many Muslims, Hari Raya preparations in a Multicultural Society as Malaysia, the mood of this festive becomes visible from about one month prior to Ramzan.

A variety of delicacies to break their fast.

In each suburb, night Street markets come alive, the place is lit up with glittering lights. where varieties of savory food and sweets are made available for Muslims to purchase and take how to break their fast, whilst non-Muslims purchase and savor the varieties of their favorite flavor of food, at the street side outlet.


During Ramadan. Women start to sew beautiful curtains and buy new clothes for the family.

A family breaking their fast during the fasting period.

Some families also do renovation so that their home will look better when any guests visit it during the festival. After fulfilling their month-long fast, the Muslims are joyful to celebrate Hari Raya Puasa.

On the morning of the festival, the Muslims wear their new clothes and go to the mosque to pray. They offer their thanks to Allah (God) and ask for forgiveness from their elders, relatives, friends, work colleagues, business associates for whatever wrong they had done over the last year. They feel the need (a wonderful practice to be imbibed in their life) to ask for forgiveness, during this period is an important part of the Ramzan ritual.

On the day, they also visit their relatives and friends to celebrate the happy occasion. Being in a Multi-cultural society, with numerous race and religious practices that blend in creating that unique tapestry of Life. A unique fabric of a community.

During this period, it’s an open house for friends, work, and business colleagues to visit the homes of Muslim families that they know and be part of this celebration. The opportunity to taste a wide variety of delicious spicy dishes. Some favorite dishes that can be found in Muslim homes on this special occasion are ketupat, lontong, nasi padang, and beef rendang. The Muslims also have the habit of giving packets of money to kids when they go visiting. The packets are usually green, and children often look forward to getting these money tokens on Hari Raya Puasa.

A family enjoying Hari Raya with India & Chinese friends

Life in Kampong (Village)

The week prior to Hari Raya, many start their journey home to their villages, in India commonly referred to as their native, in Malaysia its referred to as Balik Kampung

The ambiance of Hari Raya is totally different celebrating it from a kampong. A once in a lifetime experience.

Hope you enjoyed reading this!
David Nair.

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Posted by on May 26, 2021 in Uncategorized


Hurt, Pain, Sa𝗰𝗿𝗶𝗳𝗶𝗰𝗲 & 𝗚𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗱𝗲- Moments to Ponder, during Easter

Weaving through the tapestry of Life during Holy Weekend the lead up to it are great annual moments to ponder over and introspect. Amazing revelations unfold and if the umbilical link is there with your Coaches & Mentors for a discourse, then it is even more impactful.  

Little did I realize at the age 14,leaving the comforts of a home in Malaysia and thrown into the wilderness to scramble and climb the rungs of the ladder of Life, there is a “Sine Curve journey’ of peaks and troughs waiting. 

In each of those times of being thrown into the swimming pool, (as my 7th coach Gerry would say) there will always be a tsunami breakthrough – a light bulb moment when you climb out of the pool.
Yes, for me, there have been great moments of achievements, joy, happiness and just as many moments of sadness and pain – the journey.

Little did I realize at 14, I would have had the privilege and opportunity to have worked with hundreds of thousands of people over 3 decades… and seen some of their success and failure journey. 

Out of that, you see a trend of those that have scaled the heights of “their”Success and others are still struggling. These two groups of people have identical traits but different in their approach leading to miles apart outcomes. 

This raises a myriad of questions…

Why do good things happen to good people? 

Why do bad things happen to good people?

Why do bad things happen to bad people? 

Why does the world have so much pain?

The endless list of why’s 

The most painful, is to watch people with huge potential, being swayed by the wind – in search for a short cut to their success. Their impatience gets the better of them and unfortunately some take the unscrupulous route with their impetuous hope of making it big in a short time span without putting in the required effort.

Success is inevitably only with the right ingredients. There is no shortcut to a shortcut success.  Even more painful, is to watch the many that bite on the hand that provides them their milk as feed, for the day. The person with the bitten hand would ask why? The answer is simple. Leave them with enough rope to hang, as the universe laws will always balance the ledger weather it is this generation, the next or thereafter.

Unfortunately for some, years could flow by, before they realize they had taken the wrong turn on their road to success and are still a wondering minstrel in search of success – happiness? Probably the solution could have been for them to have gone in search for help from others or a coach.    

Grateful, that I was in a good position to have had the support and guidance of a coach from an early stage. Totally grateful to all 14 Coachers that helped me get to where I am today. I would not know which road I would have taken if it was not for them. Thank You from the bottom of my heart to those Coachers. 

For me, it has never been a question of faith, instead one of choice, and how best to execute it. “Destiny is a matter of Choice, not Chance”.  

There are some things that I had just known just naturally, it comes from within – Internalized. These were automatically triggered as I journey through my day, with my faith. A life of its own, with absolute certainty, and clarity for the outcome that I had mapped out.

Religion to me is manmade, but I strongly adhere to its values, baseline, codes its teachings. Whether you are a Christian, a Muslim, a Hindu, a Buddhist, a Jain, or whatever religiously following, they all have similar values, as reflected in the Koran, Gita, Tripitaka, and the Bible. I was brought up as a Christian, hence follow its values – My faith is Crystal clear with identical values that are reflected across in other religions. 

Each one of us have the choice and nobody has the right to judge someone else’s belief.

Just like some celebrate Ramazan, Judaism, Passover and many other religious beliefs, Christians celebrate Easter – the Resurrection on last Sunday, we celebrate in worship, in party and in family, the overcoming of “death”.

Imagine that, not fearing death and instead choosing eternity. What a breakthrough? 

This is different for everyone, and as I stood amongst hundreds celebrating victory, I remembered the words of the rapper Maclemore:

“Whatever God you believe in.

We all come from the same one.”

Hmmm, is it not startling to see what Man-made silos have created – the religion that many out their practice, imbibe the following Values: –

#Do unto others what you would like others do unto you

#Your word is sacrosanct 

# There is an endless list of flow on values 

These religious fundamentals have evolved over time, 40 + billion years. Not developed over night. 

If you are a believer of the Abbah, Allah, God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, Jehovah, Universe or any other, to abide by the base value is what distinguishes you from the rest of Animal Kingdom – you have beliefs, you have values and you believe in God, 

Always remember when you break past that VALUE, tearing it apart by not sticking to your words, the whole fabric of what you build crumbles. You do not have to go far, just turn the pages of history and reflect. It’s unfortunate that scar of illicit behavior will not ever disappear. It is like a nail being hammered into a fence post …. even if you pull that nail off the post, that hole will be their Ad Infinitum. 

Whatever hurt, damage you had done to another it will be there, can’t be erased?

Many having experienced,greater trails & tribulations, this Easter more than any other, the suffering & pain of millions from various parts of the globe. A world that has gone crazy, we need as much, ️ as we can give, we receive, not excusing the wrong doer instead bring them to the fore otherwise that toxicity will spread like wildfire. 

I wish you celebrations of joy and love, knowing that we have been created to be powerful beyond belief and assured that there is something greater for us all, leaving behind a legacy of goodness that others will benefit, without scrambling over them but in love. 

I pray you find a way to tap into your potential and Master it in every way. 

A Blessed Easter to you and your family ️

God Bless 

David Nair

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Posted by on April 12, 2021 in Uncategorized

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