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About davidnair

David, a Mentor, NLP Life Coach & Corporate Trainer to many. David's DEFINITE MAJOR PURPOSE (DMP) is to make a mindset shift in 1 million minds to stretch that little more in each of us, thereby contributing towards a better world for all of us and generations to come..... The Books, CD's, DVD's & Video's a man/women reads, sees and hears, maketh the person. The People he/she Associates with, grooms that person for Life. David's detailed experience could be found in the following links. http://www:ixlincorporated.com https://www.facebook.com/david.nair.98 https://davidnairblog.wordpress.com/ http://in.linkedin.com/pub/david-nair/21/219/739

‘Get out of there’ – A Preventive Self Talk for the Genesis of a Downward Spiral

How often do we belittle ourselves? Talk ourselves down, let others berate us in one form or another.

I am not good? I am not beautiful? I am not smart? I do not know. I am black? I am white? I am olive? I am cappuccino?

Whatever the Derogation, STOP, STOP, STOP… that immediately.

What I have learnt in my 3 decades of work in this arena – THE OPPOSITE IS TRUE.

There is innate creativity flowing through you, and if you let it out, you will be surprised and delighted at what the outcome would be. Many do not understand this – each of us is tapped into the creative flow of energy in the #Universe – #THEFLOW.

At this stage only a handful have been able to unshield themselves for that backpack that they are carrying to express themselves more creatively from the stance of #possibilitythinking rather than #probabilitythinking. A total switch in the form of conditioning the brain, to follow that FLOW. This needs repeated practices for this skill to be mastered, and you then are in the driver’s seat of controlling your Brain

We start a new chapter in our life every day. Compilation of our daily chapters creates the #tapestry of our #Life. Our unique talents and abilities are reflected in our outcomes. It is unfortunate, many of us had well-meaning adults in our life that stifle or in some cases beat that creativity out of us when we were children.

I had a teacher who once told me I would not amount to anything in life and that I will not be able to address any group of people, as I was so #timid, #shy, and #lackedconfidence. Little did she know, in the early two thousand, I had the honour and privilege of addressing 45000 people in an open-air stadium, in North India. ‘Sock it up Teacher’ is what went through my mind and as one of my mentors added fuel with the comment ‘revenge is sweet,’ it is like pure honey oozing out of a working bee.

Many are fearful of the unknown – we were taught the “3 R’s” reading, writing and arithmetic, but not taught how to take a leap in faith, into the unknown to venture for where the reassures of life are hidden.

When you understand the Laws of the universe, how it operates and works in line with its energy you will be surprised by what can be manifested. It is an art to learn to align oneself with THE FLOW

Coupled with #faith when a purpose or path is laid before you, you have the choice to just trust and let it flow or remain stuck in fear. Trusting that power within you is the key. In the first instance, yes, it is traumatic and frightening. Repeating this a number of times would break that barrier of fear and slowly but surely will allow for proficiency to take over and thereafter it becomes second nature. We swing into autopilot mode and wonder why it took us that long to deep dive and master this skill.

To support and complement the above, the following #affirmations will help.

 Here are some empowering affirmations you can use to express creativity:

Every day in every way my life is getting better and better.

Every day I do …. (Insert what you planned to do, Something new or different).

All creative projects bring enamours satisfaction

I am talentedand in demand

I am unique and appreciated by those around me especially those I love most.

I feel good expressing myself in all sorts of creative ways.

I create miracles in my life.

Step up, do not be selfish, share yourself with the world as it is waiting for you.


Cheers,

David Nair.


 
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Posted by on November 25, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

What is your Purpose in Life?

Benefits of Living a Purpose Driven Life.

Dexter Yager, a Multilevel Marketer, Crown Ambassador with the Amway Corporation, made this comment in the mid sixty’s “If your dream is big enough, The Facts don’t count.” In the same vein, I would go on to say, “If your Why is Big enough, The Facts don’t Count.”

Your Why will drive you to achieve whatever it is you want, out of life, no matter what life throws at you. Because of that Why, you will work through that task filled with passion, commitment dedication and gusto, ensuring the end is met, not in any other way but in an extraordinary way.

“When Your Why is Clear,

Your What, When, Where, Who, and How falls into Place.” -David Nair

A Definite Major Purpose (DMP), is the panacea to life’s concerns, issues, turmoil, turbulence etc. I feel it is the cure-all and the prime driver for a person, from the simplest act of bouncing out of bed on a Monday morning to go to work, to, resolving the more complex matters that life throws at us.

A Purpose Driven life will help in the following areas:

Keep the person focused on the main thing, being the main thing. Such dogged determination helps a person find their direction and not be swayed by distractions, hence staying on the main thing being the main thing — Their Goal.

It helps in generating your passion towards achieving the required outcome for that goal. This becomes the fuel in pushing you towards extraordinary performance rather than a mediocre average outcome.

People with a DMP, become unstoppable in their mission, whilst those without a purpose would be meandering through life from pillar to post, with dissatisfied outcomes through that journey.

Interesting enough, purpose-driven people have a different aura around them. Their forebrain is immersed in that purpose, such that the decisions, thoughts and feelings and actions are all around that purpose. They walk, talk, and sleep the purpose, hence encouraging a feeling of gratefulness.

It is understood, their purpose enables them to not just have values, instead have high values, and at the same time enhance their level of empathy for others. It also becomes surprising to observe, the type and standard of goals they tend to set and achieve at a different plane. They tend to draw like-minded people.
A purpose-driven person is clear on who he/she is, what they are about, and why are they on this planet. It helps them live a life with Integrity.
This purpose-driven person will portray an increase in their synchronicity towards their Life. They tend to live a holistic life, ensuring its well balanced. The serendipity within themselves reflects an aura that others get drawn towards. This becomes a cornerstone of their build of trust and faith in their community. By so doing, they reflect, living a life of grace.
It is understood, the roll-on from this built holistic person with grace comes “FLOW.” The universal stream of consciousness, commonly referred to as “they roll with the flow.”Hence nothing deters them, they do not fright to achieve, they challenge themselves to strengthen themselves instead of being fearful.

As Purpose is part of their life, therefore they live every moment of it to the fullest with enthusiasm and passion. Pleasure becomes part of their life; hence they are better at tackling every situation that comes to them in a creative way. They are always able to see the good in any situation when they are driven with a Definite Major Purpose.

The above, as so succinctly put by the German poet, Johann Wolfgang von Goethe:

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness.”

When you commit to living your life with a purpose, the world becomes your oyster — amazing things happen.

Look out for the forthcoming book, YOUR WHY? in all leading Book outlets, globally.

David Nair

 
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Posted by on November 21, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

Wealth = Money?

What a Misnomer!!!!!!

Does being wealthy, mean being rich, bank accounts overflowing with money, multiple cars, and properties, and being materially free of the woes and tribulation that surround normal living?

A definite No, or should I be emphatic and say one thousand No’s.

How many have heard of situations, where a person has either won a lottery, inherited money legally or illegally and within a short span of time they have lost it all? They are back to point Zero

Ever thought, why does this happen?

I am here to add salt to the wound by saying: You are exactly where you need to be!!!!

Some might rebuff and say “how unkind of you David?

How could you say that?

I worked all my life, and this is what I got to show?”

It is akin to Anthropology, the study of what makes us human. Anthropologists take a broad approach to understand the many distinct aspects of the human experience, which we call holism. They consider the past, through archaeology, to see how human groups lived hundreds or thousands of years ago and what was important to them.

Anthropologists study the origin, development, and behaviour of humans. They examine the cultures, languages, and physical characteristics of people in various parts of the world.

Similar with the Anthropology of Wealth

Our aim is to help demystify this concept of wealth. What I am referring to here is not a six, eight or ten-step model to financial independence, a quick buck made here, a wham bang one-night stand, approach to financial independence. Short term approaches to wealth accumulation as has been proven by millions out there is not the approach.
Instead, a WAPapproach, (Wealth Action Plan) that is sustainable and with contingency in place is the logical approach, which is what my Uncle John, my Business Coach shared with me to get me to where I am in my wealth portfolio. Today,I am playing that forward to help those interested in stepping up, in their accumulation of Wealth.

Wealth accumulation starts with the person being a student, they come to the table with an unfilled cup. It further takes Time, Resource and Nurturing as is the case with: –

  1. Baking a Cake – it takes more than a split second after the ingredients is mixed for the cake to be baked.
  2. Curd – Sour Cream is not edible immediately on mixing the ingredients, it takes at least 24 hours for fermentation to set the curd.
  3. Gestation period for a Baby –9 months for a normal birth.

When a client comes up to me with this idea of making Rs 1Cr (10 million Rupees – approx. US $ 150k) in a year, without any resource, capital, or mental space, not prepared to work through the process due to lack of discipline & commitment, I encourage them to find another coach. The “Know-it-all tribe” with minimal experience or the tribe that has not done the walk but pontificate about amassing wealth. You know what space they are at. Unless their Neuroplasticity, their environment, their vibes, their vibrations are in sync, no amount of information and support will help them achieve their outcome.

There are myriads of stories of people who have gone to a financial consultant, who showed them how to prepare a Cash Flow or a budget or to cut their spending or to start saving.

On returning what did those people do? Did they work on that plan? In most cases, none of the above change processes suggested was worked on. Why? Have they caught the right train to help them Step Up in their journey to wealth accumulation-to provide them with that comfort of amassing Wealth? Follow us on our Social Media Channels to see what we do? How do we do it? When do we do it? Timing is crucial.

Two primarily components that contribute towards a person’s wealth are Tangible and Intangible. We will address these in detail in future WEALTH SERIES.

For me to attain Tangible Financial Independence by my thirties, my coachers first drove me to fill my cup of intangible wealth to its brim, better still, till it overflowed.

This is what we will be sharing in our Wealth Series Video, Podcast, Post, Blogs, Online Courses, F2F workshop sessions and Live events.

Always remember:

YOUR WEALTH accumulated is a direct proportion to WHERE YOU ARE IN LIFE today.

Hence if you are not in a good space, go fix that first. Your Physical, Mental and Emotional well-being, otherwise you stand to lose a chunk of Tangible Wealth.

Never invest based on an emotion, or to prove a point. Instead, base it on proper research.

A case at point:
Just prior to the Pandemic, there was a person who had worked significantly hard during 2019and had accumulated a substantial amount of disposable income, 15 Lakh of Rupees (US$ 30K). With help from family, an investment into a property was made, without consideration of future inflow of disposal income. In 2020 when their inflow pot went dry with Zero inflow of Income, the financial institution was requesting for its overdue repayment be made to the loan.
When repayment was not forthcoming, the next option taken by the institution was to foreclose on the property. It is a known fact whenever there is a financial institution foreclosure, that individual does not get what they originally paid for the property. Hence a substantial loss was incurred. This was harder to digest as it was this individual first property. Coupled with that their credit rating went for a toss.

What this individual had to do before the purchase, was to ensure there was solid cash inflow for future repayments, rather than live a hand to mouth existence to meet repayments and to ensure a contingency plan was in place in the event of a drop in cash inflow. Never rely on Luck, with the hope money will flow in. If the above-suggested steps were adhered to, prior to the purchase, it would have stood out that, the proposed investment was not a viable option at that moment in time. Instead of purchasing a property, the available disposable income could be channelled into a liquid assets investment.
If this were done, they would still have had that capital with a good gain — (ROI) return on that investment. The necessary time, proper research, and guidance from a good wealth of coaching would have helped make a better decision. Cardinals to follow — avoid impulse and emotionally buying.

Another case on hand:

I had the privilege of being asked to work with up-and-coming young executives from the IT, Banking, Pharma and Hospitality industries, who were hired by top MNC in India and paid a top-end salary. These executives had never previously experienced such high-level inflow of cash, into their bank accounts. Hence what did they do with their high disposable income? Spend it unwisely, in a lot of cases on drugs and alcohol. These executives were the top performers in their domain of expertise. HR heads in those companies who were concerned about the direction these executives were heading, had reached out for help to resolve this concern.

Their prime concern was how could we rechannel their wasteful spending. We commenced working with Multiple groups of such executives redirecting their energies and creating a disciplined spending process for them to follow. Proud to say, many of them took on the options provided for them to shift gears and scale-up in life. From those batches we worked with, I personally knew of 28 individuals who acquired financial stability as Crorepati(Rs 10M club)Over a period of 3 to 5 years, some of these executives amassed net worth in excess of 1 Cr by the time they got the to early ’30s. making them eligible bachelors and spinsters (Nudge, nudge say no more)

Friends, this is a brief introduction to our new domain of work – “Wealth Series” Video, Podcast, Post, Blogs, Online Courses, MastermindSessions, F2F workshop sessions and Live events.

 
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Posted by on November 13, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

Deepavali / Diwali and its significance

What is Diwali?

Diwali, the festival of lights, signifies the victory of good over evil and the eradication of dark shadows, negativity, and doubts from our lives. It is a celebration of prosperity, in which people give gifts to their loved ones.

Festival of Lights

Diwali, the five-day Festival of Lights, is celebrated by millions of Hindus, Sikhs and Jains across the world. The word Diwali comes from the Sanskrit word Diwali, meaning rows of lighted lamps. Houses, shops, and public places are decorated with small oil lamps called divas.

Why is Diwali celebrated?

The true essence of Diwali symbolizes how purity, love, and devotion are the antidote to any impurities, negativity, or toxicity when Lord Ram& Queen Sita return to Ayodhya {state of India} after 14 years of banishment and overcame their banishment from Ravana{symbol of evil}. On Diwali night, most Hindus offer prayers to Lakshmi, the goddess of wealth, and Ganesh, the god representing good fortune and wisdom for the coming year.

What are the 5 days of Diwali?

The five-day long festival of joy and prayer starts with Dhanteras, followed by Naraka Chaturdasi, Lakshmi Puja, Govardhan Puja and culminates with Bhai Doo. The date for this festival is set in accordance with Hindu and the lunar calender

What is done for Diwali?

During Diwali, people wear their finest clothes, illuminate the interior and exterior of their homes with divas and rangoli, perform worship ceremonies of Lakshmi, the goddess of prosperity and wealth, light fireworks, and partake in family feasts, where mithai (sweets) and gifts are shared.

What are the beliefs and True Essence of Diwali?

One of the most popular festivals of Hinduism, Diwali symbolizes the spiritual victory of light over darkness, good over evil, and knowledge over ignorance.

Why use the Diya, an oil lamp compared to our normal gleaming lights, that we use for other celebrations. For this, let’s drill down into the term Deepavali, which literally means a series or a row of lights that are all connected to one another by the simple Diya. (‘Dipa’ means lamp; ‘aavali’ means series or row of lights). How are they all connected? Through the humble Diya– the little earthen vessel that represents the five elements; earth, fire, sky, air, and water.

The element of Earth is represented in the composition of the Diya, oil, and cotton wick. Fire is represented in the light of the Diya. The sky is represented in the light around the flame and the space in which the Diya lies, i.e., the space around the earth. The element of Airis the oxygen diffused from air to the wick causing it to burn. The element of Water is the H2O molecules formed after the combustion of oil, the by-product of burning.  So, when we light the oil lamp on Diwali, we represent the constitution of the universe – right at our doorstep. Magnificently portrayed.

The lighting of the lamp leads to the annihilation of darkness. Deepavali is a Festival of Lights hence the celebration firstly of the rise of Knowledge and secondly the celebration of the victory of the Sattvic or divine elements in us over the Rajasic and Tamasic or baser elements which are the real Asuras {evil spirits, demons, and opponents of God} and the Rakshasas, {demons} within us.

For the oil lamp to burn, its wick must be soaked in the oil with a bit protruding out of the oil. If the wick of the lamp is drowned in oil, it cannot be lit. Life is also like a wick of the lamp, one must be in the world and yet remain unconsumed by it. If one drowns in the materialism of the world, bringing joy and knowledge in life is limited. 

Finally, the Diya burns itself, to provide light and joy to others. Similarly, Celebration is incomplete, without Seva {Selfless service}towards others.

David Nair

 
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Posted by on November 8, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

The mindset of Excellence, Mindset of Persistence

This is best described by the following story of the French Spiderman Alain Robert who finally managed to climb the 88 storeys off the tallest building in Malaysia, Petronas Towers. It was his third attempt, after two failed trials, one in 1997 and the second in 2007.

He never gave up following each time that he failed Alain went back to the drawing boards – the fundamental that one had to do to scale a building. He practised, and practised, and practised, and practised, finally he attempted for the third time. Walla, he made it – Was its chance, or choice? He is quoted as saying, “With due respect to Malaysia, I came to finish something, despite what the press put up, despite what was mooted in the climbing circles.” He was focused, he was on a mission, he persisted until.  “Climbing the Petronas all the way to the top is one of my dreams.” He described himself as determined but also “a little bit stubborn.”

Fascinating guy, I wonder what went on in his mind, as he makes his climb, “I hope I do not slip” – a rhetorical question. Did he have the doubt fling past him, yes numerous times and it is normal? If it did not, then there is something wrong. It is normal for the “Doubting Thomas’s” to take up space in your mind. What is not normal is what do you do when it takes space in your mind? How do you handle this situation, whilst it is there occupying the space? These are all are shifts that inhabit, rituals that will only come into play if practiced. it just does not happen. It needs to be worked on, it needs to continuously be practiced on, not till it is perfect, instead of till it becomes second nature. 

As an illustration, let me ask you a simple question?

What is 6 multiplied by 2? You will respond 12.

What is 4 multiplied by 4 and your answer is 16,

what is 7 multiplied by 7 and you will answer 49.

Now, today you can vomit this answer without evening thinking. Am I right?

You so confidentially spit the answer out. Now just rewind the tape to when you were in primary school at the arithmetic class of multiplication table.

You were asked the question 6 multiplied by 2, 4 multiplied by 4 and 7 multiplied by 7 and in each instance, you will look at the teacher in bewilderment, sometimes embarrassed, sometimes, scratching yourself, sometimes wondering why were you there?

Then the teacher comes towards you and gives a slight whack on your bottom with a scale, and she gives you the answer – 12 or 16 or 49.

Following which you will recite after her the multiplication table. And over time you master it, to such an extent that now without thinking you can just recite or call out the right answer. 

There was Pain for Gain to happen. Action for reaction, cause, and effect. The laws of the universe say so. Similar to shifts in habits or rituals the same pattern for mastery is required, we cannot wing it, we need to persist with our practices of mastering effective habits until it becomes second nature. Many do not have the patience, many do not have the tolerance, many do not have the commitment. I ask of you Are you really want that change to happen. Then no questions, no comprise, no halfway attempts. Just practice, practice, and practice, until mastery is attained.

Most would ask, “what have I learnt from Alain Roberts?”  As opposed to reflecting and asking, “what can I learn from Alain Roberts?” The need and what to learn, to improve should be well-grounded within us, such that it’s never-ending, and perpetually till the day, we die. As I had previously said in my earlier story, this thirst, this hunger for growth will stop the day we die. 

That is what we drive in our programs – creating that mindset for perpetual development in the search of Excellence.

In my 20 yrs. working with 50 of the top company’s in India, putting through 250000 + participants, through various development programs, I found individuals are extremely knowledgeable in their domain of expertise. Take them out of that pond and immerse them in the ocean, they would be lost, as their fundaments for life skills are limited. They are big fish in a small pond. I would rather be a small fish in a big pond, constantly sharpening my skills to be at the cutting edge and hence perform at that level. Imagine at what level will the outcome be pitched. 

This circle of excellence is an amazingly simple four-step process. Many do not realize how simple things, impact our body, mind, and spirit (BMS). This “temple” of ours, as I commonly refer to it is there for us to excel and give back what was so graciously given to us by the universe, for some, by God for others on earth.

After that first catalyst to help us breathe, has anyone been taught or trained how to breathe? In most cases, the answer is no. Note it is the most important, instead of vital to truly learn how to breathe. Why is it this activity that generates all our performance? It is unfortunate we cannot go to a school to learn to breathe, except for the few who have commenced yoga, meditation and had some lessons in breathing through Pranayama. In our masterclasses, we will be covering this aspect from the angle of understanding how best to maximize out our performance. 

Look out for more blogs on this topic.

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Posted by on October 26, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

The plight of a dolphin in need to be free

One of the stories I came across recently was the deep dives of an Italian Diver.

One weekend, in a father/daughter bonding exercise, the famous Italian diver, Enzo Maiorca, was swimming in the warm waters of the Syracuse sea. His daughter, Rossana was on board their boat whilst Enzo was frolicking around in the water before he commenced his dive.

As Enzo was about to commence his dive down, he felt something lightly nudged his back. On turning he noticed a dolphin was by his side. Dolphins are renowned for their playful nature. Enzonoticed something unusual about this Dolphin. It was not playful, or calm and in sync with the flow of water. Instead, he observed a dolphin that was agitated and kept nudging at Enzo and seemed to be pointing towards something.

The dolphin deep dived, and Enzo followed him with his daughter on tail. Once they got to 12 meters in depth, Enzo saw another Dolphin trapped in an abandoned net. Enzo ushered his daughter to pass on her set of diving knives.

In a few minutes of cutting and unwrapping the coiled dolphin from the net, Enzo and Rossana were able to free the dolphin.

They were uncertain how long this dolphin has been underwater. Its known dolphins can only last 10 minutes underwater. As Enzo and Rossana worked on untangling the net off the caged dolphin, the dolphin was using its strength to push itself out of the trap. The strength of the dolphin pushing through the cut gaps in the net helped unfree the caged dolphin. As the dolphin emerged from the water it emitted a loud scream — That breathe for air.

That freed stunned Dolphin with other dolphins within the family was still hovering around Enzo and Rossana. The leader of the pack of dolphins and other dolphins surrounded themselves around Enzo and Rossana, came up to them individually and nudged their face, (as if they were giving them a kiss), Their gesture of gratitude for saving one of their family.

An interesting comment made by Enzo at a convention when he shared this story — “Until man learns to respect and dialogue with the animal world, he will never be able to know his true role on our planet”.

Friends, we can extend the same in a different way.

How many of us are consciously sensitive to the pain that some of our relatives, friends, peers, and associates are going through. How many have been able to reach out and be that one moment, listening ear (check out one of my Eureka moment U tube video series on this topic — Hear beyond Hear)

A world-renowned Peak Performance coach had shared with me, how although he was around, he had consciously missed the signals that his father-in-Law was emitting before the father-in-law took his own li9fe hanging himself, leaving behind a wife and two kids.

Another case on hand, a strong forthright Relationship Coach, who did not pick the signals from a friend’s husband of the pain and torment he was going through. As so succinctly put by the coach, they were a couple that look good, smelt good, and never in the coach’s wildest imagination would have thought what he was going through to end up taking his own life by shooting himself.

I personally have encountered numerous similar cases and close calls on suicide. For some unknown reason, these seem to happen between the hours of 1 am through to 3.30 am.

Sometimes when the phone rings — that cry for help, a hand reaching out from the pits of pain and sorrow. Are you there to take that call? It’s pointless amassing the recognition, material wealth etc, if that heart is not there to touch that soul at that moment.

“A Human Being, Being Humane” 

David Nair.

 
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Posted by on October 20, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

Fear Perfection Start Excellence

I still remember the time when I use to be shy, lacking in confidence, always hiding behind someone else. I hesitate to participate in the competitions, skits and even the idea of talking to someone new scared me off, I used to hide behind my mother’s petticoat. I knew that was not going to take me anyway in life.

Life wasn’t easy but the one thing that was stopping me was the fear of not being perfect and wanted to be as good as so and so.

A million and one questions were rolling in my head.

·       What if people laugh at me?

·       What would so and so say?

·       What if they don’t like me?

·       What if they make me feel bad about myself?

·       How embarrassing if I faltered on the talk?

But instead of this I still stood up and went to participate in every competition out there because my mother encouraged me to do so.

​And yes, people do laugh and make many comments on me, but I was still there on the stage, winning over my fear.

Now I run workshops in multiple countries, am a Keynote speaker in several cities around the globe, and have trained more than 250000 people, published my book and running successful businesses.

So, what is that one thing that is stopping you from getting out of your butt, and start talking to people, getting to interact at meetings writing your blog? taking video clips of yourself, putting those clips up on YouTube channel? Etc.

What is that one thing you’re afraid of? Sit down think about it. Find out ways of how to overcome that challenge. Go to seminars learn from books etc. Or, are willing to sit still where you are twiddling your thumb,.and being that way for the rest of your life.

The fear that is engraved in our hearts since we were kids, to do everything properly, to not make mistakes but it’s the time to unlearn some of those hard and fast habits that are not productive and not leading you to achieve what you want to achieve out of your life.

Do not even think Perfection is the standard to aim for in life. There are many steps to work towards excellence, rather than perfection. Accept the fact that it is okay to make mistakes, to fall, to lose,as long as we do not give up.

But it is important to make that first step because if you don’t try you won’t know.

Always remember that to achieve anything in our life, we should always follow the 3Ps

· Practise

· Patience

· Perseverance

Perfection is nowhere on this scale, instead work towards Excellence, with a focus on completing your task with true inner happiness as you roll through that task.

“Always remember, how do you eat an Elephant? One bite at a time.” Desmond Tutu

David Nair

 
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Posted by on September 21, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

“To-Do List” – Value Add or Valueless to your daily operations?

Did you know that your unfinished “to-do list” can give you negative vibes and create a failure programming in your belief system?

A“to-do list” is an asset to some people hence, a positive tool

It could sometimes have a negative impact. Others might find “to-do lists” motivating and organized, but on another side, when we fail to meet the more complete “to-do list,” we unconsciously program a negative thought into ourselves for non-completion of that task.

This immediately triggers the Hunter instinctive mind in us, which in the first instance through autopilot mode is conditioned to see what task is incomplete. It then proceeds to see what is complete.

Why is this the case? Our brain is hardwired to initially approach a situation from a Self – Preservation standpoint.

Therefore “to do List” might not be the right instrument to measure and track our performance in achieving our goals. This negative influence on our conditioning will build up and fill us with self-doubt, which triggers us questioning our capabilities and self-esteem.

Such repeated falls become a demotivator in us trying to achieve our long-term goals. Such repeated results will stop us from taking action. This becomes overwhelming and multiple such falls will stop us from seeing the outcomes we had planned to achieve.

We often go through this state when we just commence with our “to-do lists”.

In the heat of enthusiasm, we try to push ourselves beyond our limit but what we end up with finally is negative stroke and doubts. Learn to be consciously aware of the right way to move towards your goals to achieve or accomplish them. Work on the process in the right way by first Knowing You, then, Building You.

Each one of us is unique; hence we will need a plan customized for ourselves, which is suitable for us to use, and which is self-motivating to keep us working at it till we manifest our goals.

Uncompleted “to-do lists” can create Unconscious Stress. Matters sometimes do not work out, the way you would like them to roll out. When you are in your most vulnerable state, is when you tend to take things personally.

This can be emotionally draining, and you will end up, constantly reevaluating your self-esteem. By not taking things personally, it gives you more control over how you respond, your emotions and your energy level. While a “to-do list” helps keep us on track, ever thought of a “stop doing list”?

The tasks we reach out to every single day to understand what needs to be done for the day but do not do it because it’s been on the back burner for so long. It has collected dust.

Simply put, it is a list of tasks or things you do not do, no matter what. It is a list that tells you, what you ought to not do so that by default you focus on what you are supposed to be doing.

Examples of a“stop-doing list”can be these items and more: –

  • Stop comparing yourself to others
  • Stop buying Great Deals on Flipkart and Amazon sales (the kinds you do not need but get lured into)
  • Stop checking emails/ Facebook constantly
  • Stop watching Netflix/tv beyond 30 mins a day
  • Stop being available to everyone all the time and it can go on etc. etc.

“The do it all on your Own” syndrome can sometimes be overwhelming. It is difficult and overwhelming to do the “stop doing list” and you will find it can help.

Please do drop us a line to share your thoughts on this concept and how you are working through it.

David Nair.

 
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Posted by on September 9, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

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Intention – The Rudder to your Manifestation

Intent, a reflection of your spirit’s desire to create “a form” in the material world.

The only way to clearly translate that desire into physical reality is through action. Intent without dedicated action is simply hot air. Action without clear intent, a purpose and direction is a waste – a state of nothingness.

It is when these two powerful forces (Intent & Action) are aligned that the energy of the universe conspires in your favour to manifest the outcome.

Intent and action are the fuel and vehicle in the journey of creation. When you establish a destination by defining what you want, then take physical action by making choices that move you towards that destination, the possibility for success is limitless and arrival at the destination is inevitable. The universe always collaborates when this is in sync

A lot is written and spoken about on these forces, but few advocate the Balancing of these two powerful forces in your life!

  • Too much intent, coupled with too little action is a recipe for frustration and impotent existing.
  • Too much action with too little intent makes for wasteful exertion of energy and the confusion between movement and progress.

Synchroneity, the balance of these forces will unfold the seeds of happiness, success, and creation provided it is watered, nourished, and cared regularly, for the lotus flower to bloom.

Today is your day to harness these mega powers and put their limitless potential to work for you. The universe conspires in your favor the moment you deliver to it a clear message of balanced intent and action. Deliver your message today! Now….

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Posted by on August 27, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

Excusitis is a disease, how do we combat it?

“Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses.” – George Washington Carver

Excusitis can be referred to as a mental disease of making excuses. Yes, this is nothing less than a mental disease. As humans we are fantastic in using our capabilities to hurl lame excuses. We usually have an excuse ready when things don’t happen our way or when we do not act the way others expect.

The casket of excuses usually starts to unbolt the moment we wake up. We might have an excuse for not going on a walk today.Then while reaching office, we use all our innovative skills to fling an excuse for punching in late. We are so smart that we can think of an excuse in the wink of an eye, while parking our vehicle in the office parking or while getting off the cab.

When we are called to explain why we left home yesterday without completing the work, we whisk in an emotional touch to the excuse that we already wove while leaving for home the last day. Probably, the senior might not have thought of such an out of the box excuse in the wildest of his dreams!When we are asked about the progress of today’s work, we raise our thumb assuring that the ‘train is running on time’, although we might be still struggling to complete the yesterday’s pendency.

Upon reaching home, when we are asked if we have bought the grocery while returning from office, we, often while taking off our socks, exclaim in a broken voice, ‘today was a very grilling day, I am burned-out’. In the next minute, if we receive a call from some of our friend informing that he is throwing a party, we feel as fresh and cool as a cucumber ready to rock. Then while going to bed we again give ourselves an excuse that from tomorrow we won’t catapult any excuse but that tomorrow has not yet shown up.

Excuses, excuses, excuses!

“He / She that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.”

– Benjamin Franklin

At the bottom of our hearts, we know that we are lying to ourselves and others but still, we have made this defense mechanism a part of our everyday life. Why? Because we have been bitten by the bug of Excusitis, it shoos away the problem temporarily.

Eventually, the problem smiles at us since this is what it wants. It comes back with a battalion and shatters our life. But no problem, we have an excuse this time as well since we need to justify to others that we were not responsible. It was the devil of ill-fate, someone else, situation or even God responsible behind the bombshell. And hence we spend our whole life in mediocrity because we have been descended on earth to live this way.

“It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one.”– George Washington

However, the truth is that we have enslaved ourselves to excuses. We are as much capable as any successful person or a millionaire but we ourselves repulse our actual destiny, which is to live the life of abundance. It’s time to take off from the excuse-land and shoot towards our cherished dreams.

Life has a treasure trove in store for us that must be beyond our imagination but for that unthinkable to happen, we need to break ourselves free from the shackle of excuses. We are a winner and “winners never give excuses even in difficult times”.

Here are some Golden Ways to STOP Making Excuses:

  • Stop fearing the unknown
  • Take responsibility for your dreams
  • Set small and achievable goals
  • Switch your mode to ‘action’ and be consistent
  • Stop comparing yourself to others
  • Do not expect yourself to be perfect in everything
  • Believe in yourself; you have all it takes
  • Take mistakes as a teacher
  • Focus less on your weaknesses and more on strengths

Remember, this is a habit that can be changed and you undoubtedly have the ability to shove off excuses.

People with integrity do what they say they are going to do. Others have excuses.” ―Laura Schlessinger

 
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Posted by on August 20, 2021 in Uncategorized

 
 
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