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David, a Mentor, NLP Life Coach & Corporate Trainer to many. David's DEFINITE MAJOR PURPOSE (DMP) is to make a mindset shift in 1 million minds to stretch that little more in each of us, thereby contributing towards a better world for all of us and generations to come..... The Books, CD's, DVD's & Video's a man/women reads, sees and hears, maketh the person. The People he/she Associates with, grooms that person for Life. David's detailed experience could be found in the following links.

To Scale Up, Coach Up……. Power in a Coach

Wow…. The best of the best and one of the world’s most wealthiest man (Bill Gates) with about 75 Billion dollars under his belt, has a coach / an advisor in his financial matters (Larsdon)…. Tony Robbins, the worlds most sort after coach has a coach. who gets paid (very well might I say) for advice…. some understand the true value of what it takes to pay for the right advise.

So what’s stopping our up and coming budding… employee, analyst, managers, VP, to grasp this idea and work diligently towards a balanced wealthy life with the help of a coach? Their lack of understand of what the coach can do and does for the individual. Just as in sport a coach helps fine tune the athlete in his / her performance, similarly in life or any matters of life a coach helps fine tune that aspect of it for the individual. In some countries this concept of coaching for life performance is still at its infancy. Many who pluck up enough courage to ask, feel its normal and ok to do so, without considering to pay of that service.

Basically it is proprietary right, knowledge / experience and applicability of that wisdom that gets that coach to provide the prudent advise. the more mature markets of the west have had this concept of seeking advise / support from  a coach and paying for it…. In some of the less mature market of self development, and despite the fact that they heard of the term they do not engage a coach for guiding them through specific matters of life be it personal or professional. Instead they approach their friend, their neighbor etc…. That’s good, but many lack the foresight to understand, in most cases that friend or neighbor is earning just as much as the individual seeking the advise. The question then is how can someone earning the same level of income, or, have the same experience help that individual to earn (50 or 100) % more – that individual will not have that process mentally such that they could provide the right guidance.

With a Coach, their Return on Investment would be far greater than asking a peer, similar level friend, a person with similar exposure? simple question to ask of oneself…. would you approach a GP doctor to perform a cardiac surgery, or would you approach a cardiologist, similarly would we ask a person earning Rs 30K to provide advice on how to earn Rs 1L. The answer goes without saying… a resounding No. Then why is it when it comes to Life matters (Career movement, Financial Growth, Recreational & Social Growth, Spiritually growth) do we fall back and accept the unacceptable. Many would remark, It’s only Life!….. When we treat Life that way, Life knows no better but to return that back to us…. the way we treat that LIFE. (the true understanding of the Law of Attraction)

This is primary caused due to lack of awareness, lack of exposure, lack of understand … what the power of a coach can do… It’s a MINDSET Shift … It does take some time for this switch to happen mentally. To understand, it is ok to ask for advice and ok to appropriately reimburse for it, and not be hurdled by upbringing or culturally norms…. that if one asks. what would other think of me…

The culture of Coaching and paying for it in some developing countries is still in its infancy…. When this is understood, the exponential, holistic growth that transpires is priceless. World Look out then.

“To Scale Up, Coach Up”

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Posted by on March 7, 2018 in Coaching, General


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Self Motivation

We can wallow in self pity and suck our thumb, crying ‘poor little me‘ and live with that syndrome or work on getting that mental resilience to combat, and live the life possible… on you Shalini …. 👍WhatsApp Image 2018-02-13 at 9.18.13 PM

Extract of msg from Shalini….
* Courage.*

When I arrived to have my legs amputated, I was wearing bright purple nail polish on my feet. Might as well go out in style, I figured. A month had passed since my right arm decided to auto-amputate, just dropping off into my brother-in-law’s hands. A few months before that, my left arm had been amputated as well. Now it was time to move on.

I had been a successful 32-year-old, doing well at work, happily married and newly pregnant. I was just back from a vacation in Cambodia and reveling in ticking one off the bucket list when I fell sick with a fever. It all began rather innocently. And then it escalated, and how. Fever became organ failure. Organ failure became a brush with death. Months later, I had lost both my arms and legs to a bacterial infection that the doctor had heard of only in his exam.

I raged. I was angry and hurt and upset. Why did this happen to me? What had I done wrong? I thought it was karma, but I couldn’t think of anything I had done this wrong. But finally, I decided it was time to move on.

And so I ran. In the beginning, it was just to lose weight and get fit, but the challenge was addictive. When I run, I feel like I win over my body. I can look back at Destiny and swear at how wrong it was about me. It didn’t win. I still get to call the shots. My life, my decisions, my dreams; limbs or no limbs.

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Posted by on February 22, 2018 in Uncategorized


Two finger value…

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Two finger value

What A wonderful metaphor …..

What and Who we choose to surround ourself truly determines our value….

The best guidance our mums used to give us, pull us away firm certain friends and encourage us to hang out with certain friends… we never questioned why? Indirectly we were selecting / screening our friends back then…. do we do that now that we are adults ???
A point worthy to ponder over.

A wise mentor Jim Rohn once said, show me your friends and I can within a $100 tell you what your bank account balance is….

be mindful of your association Power and select them wisely..

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Posted by on February 19, 2018 in Uncategorized


Importance of Motivation in Life

Capture1The true power within a person is drawn out by external interventions guided by a coach or mentor.. it’s only in the recent years that this support structure has come to the fore particularly so in the sporting fraternity…

Interesting to also note for shifts to happen, one needs to have their back to the wall – in a do or die situation… as had happened here the partial transformation was guided by F’s coach…. the real immersion took place, when F on realising the required shift in Behaviour had to happen, for him to step up further, he took responsibility and moved forward… (note in a lot of cases it’s not the technique of the serve, the return serve, or the smash, that matters instead it’s BEHAVIOUR) …….

In today’s constant changing world, the power of Coaching / Mentoring is priceless…. the sporting fraternity has got this under their belt. The Corporate fraternity is still testing the water to see if it is cold, luke warm or hot….

In the last few years we have been involved with multiple companies from Banking, IT, Telecommunication,  Pharma and Manufacturing and have found those that have taken the development of their primary asset (People) seriously are light years ahead of others…

‘Build People to Build Organisations’

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Posted by on February 14, 2018 in Uncategorized


Power of the Unconscious Mind

I had a mentor who kept drilling into me, to make the unconscious mind our “best ally.” Initially I scoffed at the idea and thought that mentor had lost it, and with age, was out of this planet. Little did I realize how naive I was, to the power of the unconscious….


Over time and repeated guidance… its full power had unfolded…. So much so that I have experienced in many cases, by communicating to the unconscious and when there is total congruency between our states within yourself and the universe, the law manifests itself into being….. Wow to some… yes Wow.

Carl Jung, put it so succinctly , until you make your unconscious, conscious, the conscious will always direct your Life and you will call it FATE…..

I love to share a very simple experience on the above. This happened at 11 am this morning….
As many who have been interacting with me would know that the last 6 weeks since my arrival back into India was packed back to back with sessions, in particular the weekends ….. This coming weekend was the only weekend that I had unbooked.

Unbeknown I got a call from a past senior manager who I had coached some three years ago. Before he commenced the conversation he mentioned it was a con call with a CFO from an IT company in Mumbai. He introduced and following the pleasantries, the CFO indicated his need for specific interventions with his senior executive team….

He proceeded to say they had a fabulous year in revenue and as reward to the team the company is taking the group to Pataya, Thailand. They felt, it would have be of extreme value, if they could spice it with, some self- developmental work.

We proceed to discuss the developmental work, and within 30 minutes of my outlining a brief for intervention, he concurred and accepted that idea for the development of his senior core executives.

Hmmm, so the weekend is now booked… in Pataya Thailand… some work, some sighting seeing some water sport (as Pataya is renowned for it) and back into India, mainstream work on Monday….

To the many they might refer to this as LUCK, but to a few, they know and call it, “Labor under correct knowledge”, or put it bluntly “you make your luck”.

Numerous lessons learnt. Keep ploughing… digging and the harvest will come to fruit elsewhere. Never get bogged down with “the crabs” who like to pull others down to their levels. Never get disheartened, when, an associate from Singapore who rightly pointed out in our discussion yesterday, he had trained his staff and many competitors have head hunted them, or that some of those past staff had taken his clients away from him. As I pointed to this associate, that is normal business, but never to anchor and burden oneself with that baggage, just move on and let the Law of the universe work with you not against you…. That in itself had come home to roost in my case today.

It is interesting, I can now tick another from the list of things that I wanted to be able to have done…. Fly in and Fly out into countries on weekends for programs…. One that was on that list for over 4 years.
Friends, the power in believing in oneself, and setting the sail right for whatever you want, keeping one’s head down, bum up and just beaver at the task on hand…..

Have fun doing it.

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Posted by on June 11, 2017 in Uncategorized


Malaysia 2nd Independence – Bersih 4

I have had many personal queries and comments on my global posts of Bersih sent out during this week. Many have quipped why bring politics into what I promote and stand for in my work with empowerment of people.

Bersih 4Bersih, is not just a street March, It is the tipping point for this nation.

Malaysia has weathered a fabulous journey of growth, prosperity and this is not shown just in the physical infrastructure that surrounds the nation today, but more in its people, a tribe (I felt the urge for a social media term), that is well educated; in country and some have settled in various parts of the world. Many had claimed that brain drain on the country loosing such caliber of people in 60’s, 70’s, 80’s & 90’s, to another country, could have been stopped if ……. (The reasons are numerous – not for this blog).

A tribe with a special type of Comradeship, a twig in its flavor, of how it deals and interacts with people…. That innate flavor (a special blend of the east and the west) is rarely found elsewhere, in the colonized world, Lah! This is one part of what the people are fighting for today, in particular freedom.

The other outcomes expected are:Bersih 4 street rally

• Free & fair elections,
• Transparent government,
• Strengthen the parliamentary system,
• Save the national economy,
• Right to Dissent.

Leaving all of this aside, the last thing we do not want to see is where our parents, migrants from India, China and other parts of the world came to this country with the HOPE of providing something better for their children. They toiled hard and contributed to where we are today and where the nation was in the lime light days. We cannot had over to our children (even if they are living abroad – the homing instinct for Malaysia is there amongst them) a broken nation. Bersih is the unified force to create that change……

Bersih 4 flagMalaysia it’s time for a CHANGE…

It’s time for our 2nd Independence.

I would like to share the views of the former president of the Bar Association in Malaysia and Co – Chairperson of Bersih…. Ambiga Sreenevasan.

Unfortunately the Malaysian Government, yesterday has banned a number of website, in it’s bid to curtail freedom of speech…. This was one site that was targeted by the government. there are other ways to circumvent the hurdle….


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Posted by on August 29, 2015 in General


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Meditation – It’s Power

meditation6A powerful pattern for self-realization, self-development, introspection, self-heal…. the list of takeaway from constant practice of meditation is endless. A lot has been written, spoken, preached and today you are about to receive another article on this subject. You could hit the delete button and move on, or, just stop for a moment and check out another perspective of why there is so much attention directed at this subject called MEDITATION.

My purpose for putting pen to paper on this topic, primarily stems from the cries of participants, mentee, coaches, peers, friends, and relatives on how to better handle certain aspects of their life – personal & professional. It is even more interesting how the unconscious or to some the sub-conscious mind directs through signs for this to happen. Following my training sessions conducted last week, I found there was a need to further address the subject of Meditation. All through the week there were signs – a distress phone call for help -where state change was created through breathing & meditation, a meditation article in a magazine, a Facebook post on meditation, so much so that I thought, let me pen a few words on my perspective of meditation. My first encounter with meditation, my feeling about it then and how over time this changed my thinking and how today, I look at the subject of meditation as a healing process for the mental & physical well-being of a person.

“When the man / women is right inside…… The world will be right…….” a powerful true statement.

I grew up in the 70’s & 80’s where at social gatherings, meditation was spoken off, particularly at student parties, community discussions on campus and elsewhere…. The after mart of Hippie Era. So, if you did not know or speak about it in those environment, you were not “hip”. I would snub and shun away from those communique, primarily because all I related about the subject was, it was practiced by hippie, “drugie”, meditation5long haired groupies, that talked of meditation, pyramids and crystals. They would talk of meditation under a man-made pyramid structure in their lounge. My conclusion… what a bunch of weirdos. Today, on reflection I wondered how closed and narrow minded, my perspective was of these people, more than that, how bigoted I was about the subject of meditation. Little did I know / understand the implications of this practice, what it does and can do for a person.

With time, my whole outlook of the subject had changed, through exposure, education and self-practice of meditation. Today, with a bit more understanding, exposure, learning, experience and practice, I see meditation as the best remedy for many dysfunctional behavior & life pattern changes, that we as human beings can benefit, if we practice meditation regularly.

Mediation as such, is a vast topic. I would not do justice in addressing the topic of meditation in one blog. I will in this blog, just whet your appetite and provide a brief to this subject, with the hope that you get a feel of what it is and what it can do for your holistic well-being. In my future blogs, I will further share my perspective of what it does, how to meditate, why we need to practice it especially in today’s environment, and what are its outcomes.

Interesting enough, today when I share this concept to many, a percent of the audience, still looks at me with skepticism…. In response, rather than argue, defend or justify the benefits out of meditating, my inner self directs me to understand…. “When the student is ready, the teacher will arrive”… just as it happened to me. So we just move on, with the hope that the individual will follow the sizzle, and in time, commence on the practice and enjoy the outcome… of meditation of self-betterment.

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The Base of Meditation

Vedanta Philosophy explains what a mental process meditation is, and goes on to say, concentration (Sanskrit – Dharana) is the base stage of this process. With continuous practice, this concentration becomes effortless and continuous, thereby progressing to the state of meditation (dhyana). The mind is ready to flow continuously to the required objective. The culmination of this process is total absorption (Samadhi). Put basically, this is the journey one would take in the practice of meditation: Concentration / Meditation / Absorption or in Sanskrit, Dharana / Dhyana / Samadhi

Meditation & Concentration

Today meditation to some, is understood as deep concentration (laser beam) on an object. Indirectly what this means, everyone mediates 24/7, as we concentrate a lot daily on almost everything, from survival to success in life. It’s through the power of concentration that we activate our five physical sense, visual, auditory, kinestitic, olfactory and gastro (VAKOG). Though concentration the mind acquires the quality of lens to absorb the knowledge on the subject. Meditation is the gateway of learning for the outer and inner world of our self.

Meditation & Reflective Reasoning

Reasoning is when a person achieves a clear logical understanding of things / issues etc. Meditation is a perception of that. Reasoning stems from the head, while mediation is heart driven, the home of our spirit.

Meditation & Contemplation

During the process of Contemplation many spend time reflecting, some take it to the stage of reflection through to the supreme being within oneself their spirit (or God for many). Meditation is more than contemplation, it’s the flow of the mind towards it. Akin this to a bee, buzzing around a flower waiting to rest on the flower and sip the nectar. The state of meditation is when the bee is rested on the flower and tasting the sweet nectar.

Meditation & Prayer

There is a distinction between prayer and meditation. Prayer is directed to a personal divine spirit. Meditation begins with effort, but ends with the absorption into the spirit within oneself … images concepts, techniques, patterns are all stepping stones in this journey. Best reflection of this is… we PRAYER (communicate) to God, and while we are in MEDITATION we listen to the soundless spirit (God) within us, which brings us in union with that spirit.

In my future blogs, I will cover the following aspects of mediation:

Meditation a technique to gain mastery over the mind, by cultivating a single thought.
Meditation is a natural necessity for the soul, and to provide the mind with rest and rejuvenation
Meditation, like music with relevant pauses extenuates the sound of the music….
Meditation awakens the dormant power of the mind

To provide a scientific understanding of meditation, and if done properly what are its outcomes and healing powers to man, I refer you to the video link below titles, the scientific power of meditation.

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Posted by on August 25, 2015 in Meditation


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