Monthly Archives: October 2021

The mindset of Excellence, Mindset of Persistence

This is best described by the following story of the French Spiderman Alain Robert who finally managed to climb the 88 storeys off the tallest building in Malaysia, Petronas Towers. It was his third attempt, after two failed trials, one in 1997 and the second in 2007.

He never gave up following each time that he failed Alain went back to the drawing boards – the fundamental that one had to do to scale a building. He practised, and practised, and practised, and practised, finally he attempted for the third time. Walla, he made it – Was its chance, or choice? He is quoted as saying, “With due respect to Malaysia, I came to finish something, despite what the press put up, despite what was mooted in the climbing circles.” He was focused, he was on a mission, he persisted until.  “Climbing the Petronas all the way to the top is one of my dreams.” He described himself as determined but also “a little bit stubborn.”

Fascinating guy, I wonder what went on in his mind, as he makes his climb, “I hope I do not slip” – a rhetorical question. Did he have the doubt fling past him, yes numerous times and it is normal? If it did not, then there is something wrong. It is normal for the “Doubting Thomas’s” to take up space in your mind. What is not normal is what do you do when it takes space in your mind? How do you handle this situation, whilst it is there occupying the space? These are all are shifts that inhabit, rituals that will only come into play if practiced. it just does not happen. It needs to be worked on, it needs to continuously be practiced on, not till it is perfect, instead of till it becomes second nature. 

As an illustration, let me ask you a simple question?

What is 6 multiplied by 2? You will respond 12.

What is 4 multiplied by 4 and your answer is 16,

what is 7 multiplied by 7 and you will answer 49.

Now, today you can vomit this answer without evening thinking. Am I right?

You so confidentially spit the answer out. Now just rewind the tape to when you were in primary school at the arithmetic class of multiplication table.

You were asked the question 6 multiplied by 2, 4 multiplied by 4 and 7 multiplied by 7 and in each instance, you will look at the teacher in bewilderment, sometimes embarrassed, sometimes, scratching yourself, sometimes wondering why were you there?

Then the teacher comes towards you and gives a slight whack on your bottom with a scale, and she gives you the answer – 12 or 16 or 49.

Following which you will recite after her the multiplication table. And over time you master it, to such an extent that now without thinking you can just recite or call out the right answer. 

There was Pain for Gain to happen. Action for reaction, cause, and effect. The laws of the universe say so. Similar to shifts in habits or rituals the same pattern for mastery is required, we cannot wing it, we need to persist with our practices of mastering effective habits until it becomes second nature. Many do not have the patience, many do not have the tolerance, many do not have the commitment. I ask of you Are you really want that change to happen. Then no questions, no comprise, no halfway attempts. Just practice, practice, and practice, until mastery is attained.

Most would ask, “what have I learnt from Alain Roberts?”  As opposed to reflecting and asking, “what can I learn from Alain Roberts?” The need and what to learn, to improve should be well-grounded within us, such that it’s never-ending, and perpetually till the day, we die. As I had previously said in my earlier story, this thirst, this hunger for growth will stop the day we die. 

That is what we drive in our programs – creating that mindset for perpetual development in the search of Excellence.

In my 20 yrs. working with 50 of the top company’s in India, putting through 250000 + participants, through various development programs, I found individuals are extremely knowledgeable in their domain of expertise. Take them out of that pond and immerse them in the ocean, they would be lost, as their fundaments for life skills are limited. They are big fish in a small pond. I would rather be a small fish in a big pond, constantly sharpening my skills to be at the cutting edge and hence perform at that level. Imagine at what level will the outcome be pitched. 

This circle of excellence is an amazingly simple four-step process. Many do not realize how simple things, impact our body, mind, and spirit (BMS). This “temple” of ours, as I commonly refer to it is there for us to excel and give back what was so graciously given to us by the universe, for some, by God for others on earth.

After that first catalyst to help us breathe, has anyone been taught or trained how to breathe? In most cases, the answer is no. Note it is the most important, instead of vital to truly learn how to breathe. Why is it this activity that generates all our performance? It is unfortunate we cannot go to a school to learn to breathe, except for the few who have commenced yoga, meditation and had some lessons in breathing through Pranayama. In our masterclasses, we will be covering this aspect from the angle of understanding how best to maximize out our performance. 

Look out for more blogs on this topic.

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Posted by on October 26, 2021 in Uncategorized


The plight of a dolphin in need to be free

One of the stories I came across recently was the deep dives of an Italian Diver.

One weekend, in a father/daughter bonding exercise, the famous Italian diver, Enzo Maiorca, was swimming in the warm waters of the Syracuse sea. His daughter, Rossana was on board their boat whilst Enzo was frolicking around in the water before he commenced his dive.

As Enzo was about to commence his dive down, he felt something lightly nudged his back. On turning he noticed a dolphin was by his side. Dolphins are renowned for their playful nature. Enzonoticed something unusual about this Dolphin. It was not playful, or calm and in sync with the flow of water. Instead, he observed a dolphin that was agitated and kept nudging at Enzo and seemed to be pointing towards something.

The dolphin deep dived, and Enzo followed him with his daughter on tail. Once they got to 12 meters in depth, Enzo saw another Dolphin trapped in an abandoned net. Enzo ushered his daughter to pass on her set of diving knives.

In a few minutes of cutting and unwrapping the coiled dolphin from the net, Enzo and Rossana were able to free the dolphin.

They were uncertain how long this dolphin has been underwater. Its known dolphins can only last 10 minutes underwater. As Enzo and Rossana worked on untangling the net off the caged dolphin, the dolphin was using its strength to push itself out of the trap. The strength of the dolphin pushing through the cut gaps in the net helped unfree the caged dolphin. As the dolphin emerged from the water it emitted a loud scream — That breathe for air.

That freed stunned Dolphin with other dolphins within the family was still hovering around Enzo and Rossana. The leader of the pack of dolphins and other dolphins surrounded themselves around Enzo and Rossana, came up to them individually and nudged their face, (as if they were giving them a kiss), Their gesture of gratitude for saving one of their family.

An interesting comment made by Enzo at a convention when he shared this story — “Until man learns to respect and dialogue with the animal world, he will never be able to know his true role on our planet”.

Friends, we can extend the same in a different way.

How many of us are consciously sensitive to the pain that some of our relatives, friends, peers, and associates are going through. How many have been able to reach out and be that one moment, listening ear (check out one of my Eureka moment U tube video series on this topic — Hear beyond Hear)

A world-renowned Peak Performance coach had shared with me, how although he was around, he had consciously missed the signals that his father-in-Law was emitting before the father-in-law took his own li9fe hanging himself, leaving behind a wife and two kids.

Another case on hand, a strong forthright Relationship Coach, who did not pick the signals from a friend’s husband of the pain and torment he was going through. As so succinctly put by the coach, they were a couple that look good, smelt good, and never in the coach’s wildest imagination would have thought what he was going through to end up taking his own life by shooting himself.

I personally have encountered numerous similar cases and close calls on suicide. For some unknown reason, these seem to happen between the hours of 1 am through to 3.30 am.

Sometimes when the phone rings — that cry for help, a hand reaching out from the pits of pain and sorrow. Are you there to take that call? It’s pointless amassing the recognition, material wealth etc, if that heart is not there to touch that soul at that moment.

“A Human Being, Being Humane” 

David Nair.

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Posted by on October 20, 2021 in Uncategorized

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