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Intention – The Rudder to your Manifestation

Intent, a reflection of your spirit’s desire to create “a form” in the material world.

The only way to clearly translate that desire into physical reality is through action. Intent without dedicated action is simply hot air. Action without clear intent, a purpose and direction is a waste – a state of nothingness.

It is when these two powerful forces (Intent & Action) are aligned that the energy of the universe conspires in your favour to manifest the outcome.

Intent and action are the fuel and vehicle in the journey of creation. When you establish a destination by defining what you want, then take physical action by making choices that move you towards that destination, the possibility for success is limitless and arrival at the destination is inevitable. The universe always collaborates when this is in sync

A lot is written and spoken about on these forces, but few advocate the Balancing of these two powerful forces in your life!

  • Too much intent, coupled with too little action is a recipe for frustration and impotent existing.
  • Too much action with too little intent makes for wasteful exertion of energy and the confusion between movement and progress.

Synchroneity, the balance of these forces will unfold the seeds of happiness, success, and creation provided it is watered, nourished, and cared regularly, for the lotus flower to bloom.

Today is your day to harness these mega powers and put their limitless potential to work for you. The universe conspires in your favor the moment you deliver to it a clear message of balanced intent and action. Deliver your message today! Now….

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David Nair

 
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Posted by on August 27, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

Excusitis is a disease, how do we combat it?

“Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses.” – George Washington Carver

Excusitis can be referred to as a mental disease of making excuses. Yes, this is nothing less than a mental disease. As humans we are fantastic in using our capabilities to hurl lame excuses. We usually have an excuse ready when things don’t happen our way or when we do not act the way others expect.

The casket of excuses usually starts to unbolt the moment we wake up. We might have an excuse for not going on a walk today.Then while reaching office, we use all our innovative skills to fling an excuse for punching in late. We are so smart that we can think of an excuse in the wink of an eye, while parking our vehicle in the office parking or while getting off the cab.

When we are called to explain why we left home yesterday without completing the work, we whisk in an emotional touch to the excuse that we already wove while leaving for home the last day. Probably, the senior might not have thought of such an out of the box excuse in the wildest of his dreams!When we are asked about the progress of today’s work, we raise our thumb assuring that the ‘train is running on time’, although we might be still struggling to complete the yesterday’s pendency.

Upon reaching home, when we are asked if we have bought the grocery while returning from office, we, often while taking off our socks, exclaim in a broken voice, ‘today was a very grilling day, I am burned-out’. In the next minute, if we receive a call from some of our friend informing that he is throwing a party, we feel as fresh and cool as a cucumber ready to rock. Then while going to bed we again give ourselves an excuse that from tomorrow we won’t catapult any excuse but that tomorrow has not yet shown up.

Excuses, excuses, excuses!

“He / She that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.”

– Benjamin Franklin

At the bottom of our hearts, we know that we are lying to ourselves and others but still, we have made this defense mechanism a part of our everyday life. Why? Because we have been bitten by the bug of Excusitis, it shoos away the problem temporarily.

Eventually, the problem smiles at us since this is what it wants. It comes back with a battalion and shatters our life. But no problem, we have an excuse this time as well since we need to justify to others that we were not responsible. It was the devil of ill-fate, someone else, situation or even God responsible behind the bombshell. And hence we spend our whole life in mediocrity because we have been descended on earth to live this way.

“It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one.”– George Washington

However, the truth is that we have enslaved ourselves to excuses. We are as much capable as any successful person or a millionaire but we ourselves repulse our actual destiny, which is to live the life of abundance. It’s time to take off from the excuse-land and shoot towards our cherished dreams.

Life has a treasure trove in store for us that must be beyond our imagination but for that unthinkable to happen, we need to break ourselves free from the shackle of excuses. We are a winner and “winners never give excuses even in difficult times”.

Here are some Golden Ways to STOP Making Excuses:

  • Stop fearing the unknown
  • Take responsibility for your dreams
  • Set small and achievable goals
  • Switch your mode to ‘action’ and be consistent
  • Stop comparing yourself to others
  • Do not expect yourself to be perfect in everything
  • Believe in yourself; you have all it takes
  • Take mistakes as a teacher
  • Focus less on your weaknesses and more on strengths

Remember, this is a habit that can be changed and you undoubtedly have the ability to shove off excuses.

People with integrity do what they say they are going to do. Others have excuses.” ―Laura Schlessinger

 
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Posted by on August 20, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

Communication – The Connect!!!!

The Pareto principle applies in communication too. Really?

Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know. As soon as it is spoken out loud, it unfolds a picture. Two keywords ‘information’ and ‘communication’ are often used interchangeably, but they signify quite different things.

Always remember in Communication…….

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.”

Anthony Robbins

Have you ever tried to have a conversation with someone, and you get frustrated? Maybe you forgot that we are all different and have our own styles of communication, we see things differently, based on our culture and upbringing.

 For example, some people grow up in families where it seems everyone is talking at the same time-varying topics are swirling around the room,(and poor little you, or the quietest one, might not get a chance to put a word in). You are left up high and dry, without a chance of getting a word in. Other people grew up in homes where it was different; one person talked while everyone else listened.

Similarly in the work environment, where you have in some situations closed your office door, and there are some people who ignore this signal, without knocking, they walk into your office and starts yammering away? The opposite can be true, too; a knock on the door and then silence – they are waiting for you to say something.

Hence there is a mix in the way people communicate with each another.

Let me make it quite clear, there is neither a right nor a wrong way. It boils down to style, etiquette, culture, customs and what the person is exposed to as to how the individual manages through these scenarios. They individuals are just doing what they have learnt and in some cases by try and error. When we are in such a situation– the cardinal rule is to listen, hear the person out, before responding.

The next time someone’s communication manner, style is different, have empathy, take a breath, wait a few seconds, then listen to what it is that they are trying to tell you. Figure out a way to make the exchange of information, feelings, ideas, or questions a good experience for both of you.

Always remember: –

“Communication in any relationship is like blood to life, you take blood away from life, what happens to life, it dies.

Similarly, you take communication away from a relationship. What happens to the relationship? The relationship dies.”

David Nair

Take stock and act accordingly. Let’s make the environment we are in,a great place to effectively connect with one another, with this Keynote in mind: Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something. The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place

 
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Posted by on August 13, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

Have behavioral flexibility for mastery

‘It is amazing what behavior, attitude, and approach towards what you do have such a significant impact on how the outcome turns out.”

To illustrate this let me share with you this father (John), daughter (Sally) and wife (Suzie) story. It also encompasses what is commonly referred to as the 90 / 10 rule of Life. Picture how a perfectly fantastic day was messed up.

The 90 10 Rule

 Put bluntly, the 90 10 Rule is where: In 10% of life, things happen to us we have no control over these events. While 90% of our life depends on how we react to the things that happen to us. We have total control over our choice of reaction to the things that happen to us for these.

Check this case on hand – Imagine at breakfast time in a normal suburban home, John and Suzie with their daughter Sally are sitting at the dining table. Sally turns around quickly to reach out for the Ipad, sitting on the bench. As she does that, she knocks her coffee all over her father John’s white shirt. 

Scenario 1)

John shouts and yells curses and says “What a clumsy thing to do Sally. Why did you have to reach out for the Ipad and not get up and go to the bench and pick it up? How could you be so clumsy! Now I have to go up and change into another shirt.”

John then shouts at his wife, saying it’s your fault, “Why did you leave the coffee so close to the edge of the table!”. He storms upstairs to change his shirt, leaving behind a daughter in tears and fuming a wife. 

John is leaving home 5 minutes later and the traffic has picked up. Sally is deeply hurt, grumpy, in the back of the car and totally ignoring him. John drops Sally at school, she is late as assembly had stated and she did not get a chance to talk with her friends before assembly.

John eventually gets to the office fuming, hot-tempered and in a state of flux. His boss greets him and tells him “let’s review that important document we need to deliver today”. Suddenly John’s face went pale and realized in all that rush that he had left the notes on the table in the hallway at home. He left it out their table to do a final review during breakfast, but with the chaos at home, that plan went for a toss out the window. Hence John went rushed out without going through the paper or even picking it up.

His boss fumed out of his office, yelling at John to go home and pick it up, as it is an important opportunity and a vital client. John returns home to pick up the document. The day proceeds with one such mishap after another… John was happy to get home and hit the sack. 

That night the house is in a tense angry situation with nobody talking to each other…

Why did John, Suzy and Sally have a bad day?

1) because of the spilt coffee?

2) because of Sally spilling the coffee.

3) because of the traffic?

4) because of his boss and the important meeting?

5) because of John’s reaction to the spilt coffee? 

Scenario 2)

In this case, although Sally spills the coffee and looks shocked and concerned. John looks at his shirt, pauses, and looks at his daughter and says, “Oh no I will have to change this shirt. Not to worry, I have another one upstairs. Sally in future you need to be a little more careful. It’s only a shirt. Let me get upstairs and change my shirt and be down in a moment. John hugs Sally pats her on the head and goes and changes his shirt.

John comes downstairs, by which time Suzie has Sally in her car taking Sally to school. This gives John a few minutes to glance through the document as planned. He refines the document, makes a couple of more additional notes, and gets into his car to drive to work.

There is traffic, but John is in control and focused on the way, running the document delivery in his mind. He is practising the presentation out loud in the car. John arrives at work, goes to his office settles in and enters his boss’s office. He delivers a well thought through the effective presentation. That night he reaches the house, and everybody is sitting at dinner sharing their day, in a happy mood.

Same story, two different scenarios, they began the same but ended quite different. They ended differently. The people are the same. Their approach, their attitude, their mindset, their level of EQ was all different.

All because of How John chose to react to something that happened to him.

Ten per cent (10%) of life is stuff that happens to you. Ninety per cent (90%) depends on your choice of reaction to what has happened to you. 

Choose Wisely

David Nair

 
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Posted by on August 5, 2021 in Uncategorized

 
 
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