Monthly Archives: October 2013


“Matter is a manifestation of Thought” – BUDDHA

prepbuddha restingMost of us work very hard, toil through the day on routine operations and wonder why we are where we are? Why is life not treating me right? I am putting as much effort but do not seem to just get above it all? Why is he/she so much more luckier? What is happening to me?  Some go to the extent …. Why has God forsaken me?


The strength of the effort is the measure of the result. Circumstance does not make the person, instead it reveals the person.

This is not the effort of work, the energy dissipated from one run to the next run of tasks…. Though they are important, but not vital. What is it then?

The effort put in crystallizing that “Padi Field” in our mind. How have we cultivated that field? Have we nurtured it, if so how well and how regularly? Are there weeds in that field? What type of weeds? Some are deep rooted, which creates the type of person we are, the habits we have, the behavior we have, the look of the world we have… All this from that little field …. The mindthought mainfestation

What have we done to remove those weeds? What are we doing to prepare that “Padi Field”? How are we preparing that “Padi Field” The strength comes from that preparedness of the mind. What have we really doing to prepare it? What are we doing daily to feed it? What are we doing to protect it from the birds and the bees? This is especially so where in some cultures our relatives care so much for us that they live our life’s of us? Do they know how to infuse into us that required fertilizer? In a lot of these cases the answer is a resounding NO. Then just be polite to them and in your own way say “SHUT UP” “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH”

The question is what do we do then?

Just go back to your own self, through introspection, silence and some who have moved to the next level Meditation, ….. seek from within the answer.

Believe that it will come from within…

As I have always said “Prayer is our conversation with God and Meditation is God’s conversation with us.”

A chatter box mind will not resolve this ….. A quite, Calm, Cool Collected mind sitting in silence for the solution… This is the strength that comes from preparedness of the mind that will deliver what we want. When there is congruence between what is within and what we want, it polarizes and draws the required energy to pave for that manifestation of that thought. As Buddha say, “Matter is a manifestation of Thought”mind manifestation

This is what and how most if not all our Gurus have worked through in achieving their fulfillment. The same applies with us mere mortals.

I hope this food for thought has provided that digestion for Self Achievement.


Posted by on October 27, 2013 in Thoughts


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Readers are Leaders


read-booksMost of my early school teachers would constantly harp on reading being essential…. As a kid I only did what was necessary and not vital … as time passed I found what the adage “Readers are Leaders” really meant.

As I journeyed through the self-development path, I found many gurus in this community, too, pushed the fact of reading for a minimum of 30 mins a day. This is  as vital, for our sustenance.

Jim Rohn, one of the self-development gurus, made mention that reading is something of substance, something of value, something that was nourishing, something that taught you distinctions, was more important than eating. “Miss a meal,” he said, “but don’t miss your reading.”

Today, I am hooked on this habit. If I miss a day it’s like getting to bed without a shower and being wedged between two soiled sheets. It’s a very horrible reading images

Most of my participants know how much I push this tool for their personal growth. You are welcome to visit my Good reads account, to view some books that might be of interest to you. Here is the link…

Have a pleasant evening…..


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Posted by on October 27, 2013 in General


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Nelson Mandela – “Education the most powerful weapon”

mandela-415x479This quote from Nelson Mandela constantly rings in my mind when I am in front of participants and associates.

‘Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change, self, people around you and the world.’

The immediate response from many, when a question is asked of them or a comment made on some matter, and if they do not know or understand, their immediate response is, “I know it, I know it, and I know it”. The fear, others might know and that they do not know. The fear of what will others thinks of me? I do not what to be left behind…. Myriad of other reasons….flow out this concern.

One could ask what’s wrong if one does not know… its ok not to know is my response, there is no need to harbour that fear that people might not look up to them as much or that they might lose respect. To me that is a lot of hog wash… Unfortunately that is not the case, many get pepped up with anxiety and stomach hurt mancrunching and the look of embarrassment, with a feeling that “I wish I could hide under the carpet”. Now this would not fix the concern for that person….

In most cases this could be caused because of some prior baggage that they are carrying, their self-belief and deserve level, is at a notch or two below par. Their self-Image drop down and in some case lower than a pregnant ant.

With all this they start their reverse tornado cycle of them self, thereby causing a further drop on the traits mentioned above.

What is the solution…..? Very simple…. just accept the fact that we do not need to know everything. Knowledge only comes with the 3 E’s, exposure, experience & education.

So until that knowledge is achieved, one simply needs to say, I am sorry, can you please help me understand that concept. Or, please run that by me again. Very simple to say, but very hard to do…. I keep emphasizing ….. Practice this, practice this, practice this until it becomes second nature… Just like when we first started with the multiplication table…. But after zillion repetitions, when we were a kid, today, we vomit it out today without any worry. That is mastery. Practice makes it perfect.

Amazing how this simple turnaround is a massive fix for one’s confidence, self-esteem, belief factor and Deserve level.

Have fun love you guy’s David

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Posted by on October 26, 2013 in General, Uncategorized


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Food For Thought

thoughtd open palmFriends, there is no habit which will bring so much value to our life as that of always carrying an optimistic, hopeful attitude of really expecting that things are going to turn out well with us and not ill, that we are going to succeed and not fail, are going to be happy and not miserable.

Unfortunately, many people no sooner do they have the above thought, neutralize a large part of their efforts, because their mental attitude does not correspond with their endeavor, so that although working for one thing, they are really expecting something else, and what we expect we tend to get.

There is no way by which a man can arrive at the success goal, when he is facing the opposite direction. Every step he takes is towards that road to failure. He talks like failure, acts like failure.

Always remember Prosperity begins in the mind and is impossible while the mental attitude is hostile to it.

No one can become prosperous while he really expects or half expects to be always poor, for holding the poor thoughts keeps him in touch with poverty producing conditions.

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Posted by on October 18, 2013 in Thoughts


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Empowering THE Self

Empowering THE Self

Hi Readers, This is a guest blog written by a person who I have been coaching for the last three months. The acceptance and application of the principle of Affirmation, Belief factor &  Anchoring are well illustrated through this article. A privilege to work with you Varsha and see the amazing Growth and what you plan to create as you weave through this beautiful Life. Thank You for sharing your experience.

How often do you find yourself telling, “Mate, I am not that smart”, “Freak, I am so dumb!”, “Oh God! Why am I so ugly?”

Very often, agreed? We use statements that dis-empower us; words that short sell us. And sadly, this is not just while talking with others but also while talking with the inner self. We abuse ourselves thinking that it will inspire us to perform better, that it will help us grow, but to state this as a wrong technique for self-improvement will be the understatement of this millennium. Now, what happens when we dis-empower the self? How does it mold our character? What effect does it leave on our subconscious?

David Nair, an NLP specialist enlightened me that using dis-empowering words is MENTALLY CRIPPLING one’s self. The brain gets indented every time one uses such words and its effects remain imbedded in the subconscious mind. The result of which is sure to come out some time and in strange ways. Those were his exact words. Horrifying, isn’t it?

A retrospection of one event which happened six years ago where I had mentally whipped myself and the repercussions of which have not faded away completely, till this day.

I decided to throw a surprise party for a friend of mine when I was in college. I arranged for the cake, invited mutual friends and exerted myself to hand-make the gift. That friend did not acknowledge my efforts and took the entire setting for granted, leaving me in a state of surprise and resentment. That day, I spent hours crying in front of the mirror, scribbling pages in my personal dairy that I have made a complete fool of myself, that I am not lovable and that there is no place for me and my goodness in this world.

I made a mental note to stay away from all my friends because I believed that at some point they will all hurt me, reducing my level of self-worth. I sulked in my cocoon for a few weeks after which I came to know that the same friend had lost his dearest neighbor just a few days before his birthday. But this discovery did not and will not erase the damage I have caused to my inner self. At some corner in my memory, the statement, “I am not lovable” is still deep-rooted. And I have observed it popping up every time I make an analysis if I am deserving or non-deserving for a particular favor.

Such is the impact. Imagine how many things we are depriving ourselves because of the rubbish wehurt handchoose to feed the divinity inside.

So when David says it is important to mind the thoughts we think and the words we speak for that is all it takes to make or break a person, I do not hesitate to believe. What I feed inside is what is reflected outside in my character, my personality and my entire being and hence it is my duty to nurture my inner self as opposed to whipping it. David’s technique of positive affirmations has helped me a great extent to undo the damage I have done over all these years. I constantly tell myself that I am beautiful, I am smart, I am healthy, I am happy and load myself with positive affirmations day in, day out and the results have had a jaw-dropping effect on me. I am amazed and astonished on how it is within my reach to nourish my inside and get the desired results outside.

And when I face external situations that dis-empower and drain me, I use what David calls anchoring. It is a simple technique that when mastered can make life a treat, a celebration. Every time we face a negative situation, our mind involuntarily thinks and links all the related negative scenarios experienced in the past and in no time we find ourselves landed in a pool of negativity. We feel so unenergetic, so lost that everything ahead appears foggy. David says when a situation like this arises, the mind should be trained to immediately anchor on positive things. The anchor can be in the form of your own positive, fruitful experience from the past or inspiration derived from others who employed positivity in similar situations and obtained beneficial results or it could be a simple introspection of the things that have helped you come this far. Anchoring on positive things has helped me shield negativity almost effortlessly and effectively that I do not feel drained but even the more energetic to carry out my mission. The simple switch in mindset is all it takes to give up or raise the thumbs up.

I believe that there are many such ways to empower the self and with constant practice and dedication, the sky becomes the limit. David’s quotes that “Growth is directly proportional to self-development” and looking at the incredible stories that stand as testimony from his participants across the globe, I am motivated to take steps, no matter how small, to blossom and to spread the fragrance around.

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Posted by on October 16, 2013 in Thoughts


Miracles do happen…… when we learn to tap the power within each of us….

Single engine crash 1In the early hours of a fog light morning in 1981, Morris Goodman, head of a large Insurance firm, had taxied his single engine plane on to the runway, ready for take-off. All was clear and Morris was up in the air flying. Within ten minutes into his flight time Morris hit a fog density zone and lost clear visibility. Before he knew it his plane was entangled in power lines and crashed….
When the salvage crew arrived, all claimed that there would be no survivors from this crash site…. On reaching the cockpit they found Morris still with a pulse or two struggling for his life. The paramedics rushed Morris to the hospital. On arrival and when the doctors examined him, they found his neck was broken in two places (the first and the third vertebrae), the nerves to his diaphragm had been severed, and his diaphragm was crushed, so badly that he lost the ability to sallow, to speak, and to breathe without a respirator. His nervous system was so badly damaged in places that it caused dysfunction of his kidney and liver and he was paralyzed from neck down. His doctors gave him a meek possibility of survival. Even if he did survive he would never gain control of his body and its function, and would remain a vegetable in a wheel chair for the rest of his life. That was the turnaround of Morris’s condition with hours of him leaving his home that morning.
In fact a few of the doctors gave up hope on him, and announced this to his waiting family at the hospital theater lounge.
Morris’s closest connect as a child and as he grew up, was his sister. She understood and knew the will and tenacity of Morris’s mind. Despite what the doctors said, his sister vowed that she was going to work with Morris on his survival… Sitting by the motionless vegetable bedside of Morris Goodman, his sister was waiting….. And waiting….. She kept asking if he heard her to give a sign…. And after hours of patient waiting, Morris winked his eyes… That was the start for them to put their minds together in re-building Morris… His sister went through the process of creating charts for them to communicate, she asked the question and he winked number of time to indicate the answer yes, no, or maybe. Morris had, in his business created a habit of working with goals… though he was motionless, his mind was ticking and he mapped out in his mind the blueprint for him successful walking out of hospital before Christmas…. That was a mere eight months away. He and his sister and family work through the month’s relentless chipping at it and in a lot of instances Morris would give up hope, but at that moment in flies hope from fellow patients, who had observed how hard Morris pushed himself to get up from a fall the 100th time etc. and that was his anchor for his next betterment. In all of this Morris had to initially create that shield around him to avoid SNIOP (Susceptible to the Negative Influence of Other People). They went to the extent of having a plaque titled SNIOP, created and place by his bedside.

Despite all odds, what saved Morris’s life…… his unconditional BELIEF & FAITH that he would be cured and he would walk out of hospital for Christmas? This was despite what all the doctors and nurses would say, it was impossible and that he was not being realistic about the injuries.
Morris would many times rebuff them by saying, I do not care what medical science expected, and it is when I lose my expectation than I am gone…. He lived by this motto, in the board rooms of his Insurance business and he lived his life with them….

Through the use of creative visualization, intense Physiotherapy, verbalization and dogged determination, Morris baffled his doctors and started on the road to recovery. Slowly he had to relearn how to breathe, eat, swallow and these reflexes were built. His next was to work and control his limb movements.
Within the set time Morris recovered to walk out of hospital before Christmas.
Morris worked with hope, and with the help of universal law defied all impossibility from the surrounding to achieve his outcome….. WALK OUT OF HOSPITAL BEFORE CHRISTMAS.

This is the same Morris, who was interviewed in “The Secret”

Friends, this is a preamble to my future articles on Belief….. And its journey within each of us.

God Bless David

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Posted by on October 3, 2013 in General


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Ripple Effect of a Small Act ….. Pass It Forward………..

For that Moment, be the Touch.

For that Moment, be the Touch.

A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees. The greatest work that kindness does to others is that it makes them kind themselves.         – Amelia Earhart –

Reams have been written on the empowering acts of kindness, gratitude, forgiveness, and the list goes on and on…. This true story struck me, as it relates so closely to a movie titled, “Playing it forward”. How the baton of life is passed forward on any act of goodness…

If you have not watch the movie, I would recommend you pull together your family or some friends one Saturday afternoon and over snacks and juice, watch this empowering movie…

The story at hand…….

A few years ago, a lady, Hilde Back, from Europe, felt the desire to help a needy child in Africa. She did look at numerous possibilities; on how to help, in what manner and where she could best utilized her contribution  …

A young student, Chris Mburu from Kenya was selected… She thought nothing of this gesture and certainly never expected to hear from this young student. Interesting enough, years later she did hear from him. Chris had moved on from that little mud walled primary classroom, to study at Harvard and he became a Human Rights Lawyer for United Nations.

It plagued Chris to go find that lady, who had provide for his initial step up in Life, and after many years of searching, Chris did eventually find Hilde.

Chris was so inspired by her generosity, that he started a scholarship program off his own and named it after his former benefactor…with the hope of ensuring that one small act of kindness would flow on to the hands of many…..

Each of us in our own communities could kick start such small acts….. For the price of a burger, a new born baby’s life could be saved, for the price of a reasonable meal at a restaurant, a child could be educated. These small acts cause a shift in poverty standards….. “When the poor are able to get jobs and fend for themselves,, they forge their own paths out of poverty”, thereby creating a new nation with different dimensions.

Sending out Love. David


Posted by on October 2, 2013 in General


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